AIBU DSS is DP being unfair?

[Rarity75]

I am annoyed! For context we have DSS every other weekend. My DP has a regular (monthly) commitment/hobby that lasts all day.

Initially DSS used to go with him, but he gets bored. This Sunday DH had asked me to look after him for the day. No problem I will include him on whatever I'm doing with my DD.

However tonight I find out he isn't actually playing tomorrow he is watching (and presumably) drinking with his mates. So he is choosing to that instead of spending quality time with his son. He also has his hobby on the next visit so that will be two consecutive visits the poor sod is stuck with me and DD instead of his dad. Who is the one he really is here to see!!

AIBU to really angry about this??

It was me who took both kids to the zoo, playbarn etc etc. Everytime he promised something fun it never happens! They just spend all their time on their phones/tablets barely talking. It's me who gets the board games out, plays games etc. I feel like he just isn't that invested and is a crap parent

I'm having a quieter night tonight. I'm looking at caravans for the weekend.

I still feel shattered and I'm under no illusions that this is the end of it. He won't give up easily.

Just focus on getting away and keep busy doing that.

I found the weeks after leaving were a actually tougher than the 'leaving bit'

Netflix and early nights got me through!

It is just the initial shock, all the security of having him around (even if it was just the security of not being on your own) is gone, so it is natural you feel like that.

Just give it a few weeks and you will start to feel better. Keep that list somewhere safe so you can refer to it when you feel like calling him.

Leopards do not change their spots, you are better off without him. He would have drained your energy, enthusiasm and money. Important things you need to raise DD.

There are laws against harassment . If he dosnt give up easily or starts turning up at your door......involve the police.

Block his number from your phone. Without a response he will hopefully lose interest soon.

Well done OP. Stay strong now. Hope you are feeling OK today.

I'm ok today. Think it will be an emotional roller coaster for a bit. But today I'm good

Well done Rarity, one day at a time. How is your dd doing?

She is a bit unsettled. She is asking where he is. I have said we have had an arguement and are not friends any more. She is upset but also happy for 'girl' time.

Hope the twunt isnt still bothering you.

Thinking of you. I hope you and your dd can have a chilled out weekend without worrying about him.