But the OP comment about oral sex is seriously deranged. How come no one reports that type of comment? It isn't "seriously deranged" to mentioned that there is a lack of intimacy in your relationship. There is nothing wrong with the op mentioning something like that to give context to his discussion.
You are on an adult forum, if you can't handle adult talk, deregister.
Women on here do it all the time, and no one would dream of reporting it. Lack of intimacy/control over intimacy is a factor to how the op is feeling & it is an important part of his story.
with hindsight I shouldn't and need not of been so rude - apologies for any offence caused Hey, we're all adults...we can cope with some talk about sex! It certainly wasn't rude imo!
She is clearly minimising, btw - she is not just "aggressive and forthright", she is violent and abusive. YES!! OP, please be aware that it is common for abusers to be apologetic when confronted. There is a clear cycle that I don't have time to go into now (others will, no doubt) that pretty much goes
violence - remorse (from abuser) - normality - violence - remorse - etc etc.
Don't get fooled into thinking that this breakthrough has fixed it. It may have, of course, but it may just be abusers cycle.
Just a punch and light hitting a as a result of a panic attack? It's not "just" a punch op. It's a punch. You would call the police if someone punched you in the street, wouldn't you?
Does she hit other people? My bet is no, she doesn't! So she can control it.
Panic attacks don't cause violence. If someone is violent during a panic attack it is because they re a violent abuser, the panic attack just gives them a convenient excuse.