Jump right in! It's Dating Thread 102

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Oh and freaky I am also in the queue excitedly awaiting your sat night date with bacon! You shall be my excitement this Saturday evening

And the gym was closed! I give up! Currently drinking wine and watching Masterchef.

God, I'd better pin Bacon down on a firm plan for Saturday then, or you lot will never forgive me!

Bacon has no idea how many women will be on this date with him! :)

sassy oh no that is awful?! I have 'levels' of messaging people, I'm only affectionate with the one I'm really interested in. The others I do stupid chit chat. MrTattoo sounds a bit of a generic message sender have you met up with him?

Oooh, one of the men I messaged on OKC has replied and we're chatting about a mutual passion. I may have to think of a name for him...

sassy bit shit for you, we all know it goes on and do it ourselves too but difficult non the less. I think your response was very measured and mature!
freaky can us relative newbies have a quick back story low down on bacon how long have you been chatting, which site from, and why havnt you met yet?
I will be joining you on the vow to actually get a bloody date by the end of the thread, I've still not actually had one yet! Several near misses and irons coming and going, but slow currently! I just want to go on a date!
harriet glad it seems to be going your way, hope date 2 is in the bag soon!
rolandrat what iron was it? So hard to keep up!

I do feel like I will be going in there with the whole thread (virtually) behind me! Think I will try and make some plans with him tomorrow...no messages today but he's been online. The paranoid bit of my brain says he's simmering other irons in case Saturday doesn't work out. The sensitivity bit of my brain says that's actually quite a sensible thing to do!

Good luck goldfish hope you can turn him into a hot iron pronto!

Last we met on Tinder about a month ago, just as I was deciding to take a bit of a break from OLD. We made a date for about a week after but he cancelled on the day as he had to go back to Ireland for family emergency (totally believe this, by the way). He was a bit quiet for a few days then came back and asked me out last weekend but I was super-busy so this Saturday it is! Feels like a long time coming, hence the crazy over investment! He's tall, charming and wants a relationship so I have major swoon.

You will definitely secure a date by the end of the thread....I am sure of it!

Sorry, you can tell I have had wine! Should obvs have been the "sensible" bit of my brain in my previous post...

Freaky I was going to ask what time the date is on Saturday but I see you don't know. I want to know how it goes with Bacon too! If yoga was off and the gym was closed you just weren't met to do exercise tonight. Drinking wine instead is preferable.

Goldfish my OKC top tip is to check their answers to the racism/sexism type questions and the sex questions too. A mate of mine uses OKC a lot, she reckons that the better the percentage match then the better the date has been IRL so there may really be something in it.

Anything from Dr NN 314?

Who is your Sunday date with tanya? I should know but the thread moves quickly and I can't keep up!

That sounds good harriet

Ew Sassy the message not meant for you is a real passion killer. Any thoughts on how you will overcome the common RL connections with MrFrench?

Doofus have you got other irons apart from canceller?

Enjoy your gin Handy

MrsRoland I completely agree about wanting to find Mr Right without all the hard work. That's exactly how I feel.

Dr NN is an iron! we are arranging to go out. Phew. He made me work for that though. I had to track him down. LIterally, he told me on the dating site that as I was a detective I could track down his email address. (wasn't that hard)

As I said upthread I've pared down my irons. During one hour last night I was talking to 14 different men and frankly it was exhausting so today I've had a ruthless cull and got it down to 5; 3 possible irons and 2 as mates.

For starters there's been nothing from Captain Pugwash. I'm not expecting anything but my friend said I will hear from him again and she's right about everything so we'll see. However, I've moved along.

I've kept Charidee. We had a good date on Saturday night but no spark but we're still messaging. His home situation is way beyond complicated and I don't think he is in any place for a relationship at all, I just don't think he realises it yet. I'll keep talking to him because we could be friends.

SirVan we are chatting we're going out for a drink on Saturday night but as friends. He's local and we both need a drinking buddy.

Captain Jack Sparrow is back from his week away on Monday and we've arranged a dog walk for next week. I think we'll get on but only up to a point because he likes Jeremy Clarkson.

NotBanksy called me last night and I haven't laughed so much in ages. We've got a date on Friday night and I'm quite excited about it.

Bloodaxe messaged me yesterday afternoon. I've kept him because we've got a lot in common and I like his chatter so far. He's away until after the weekend and the conversation is still quite new so no date set yet but I'm hopeful.

I've deleted my Tinder account as it wasn't yielding any quality irons. I've come off POF for a while as the volume of messaging was overwhelming. All of the remaining 5 irons above are texting or calling, it turns out that I like having all my irons in one place

scarfrown waves! Wow sounds complicated but like you are acing the whole dating thing. New here and enjoying picking up tips from the pro's!
anna well done on the cull and yet another one showing us all how it's done! I wish I had your skills!!

Goodness Anna you are very focused! I'm sure its the way to be though ...

I must try harder! Of the 2 potential irons on POF, I've binned one & the other hasn't replied - but then i took 2 days to respond to his message so can hardly complain...

phew. sunday! a date with Dr NN. He is out friday, i am out saturday so sunday it is. We have a good rapport (well, a banter) so i'm looking forward to it but remembering that it's all bullshit til you meet.

Well I've been on pof searching tonight and I just can't find anyone interesting...maybe my last date has put me off with all the time invested or I need to move area! Good to hear everyone's updates!! I do love this thread!

Well I'm officially an iron free zone! So I'm dating the thread until some decent men appear in NW England.

Landscape was lovely and he was good at conversation, the chat flowed well...but he is looking for a child free lady so he can start a fresh family of his own. So my situation, divorced with kids, is not what he is looking for. Oh well, back to the drawing board.

Anna I'm in awe of your iron collection and organisation. Which site are you using? My mojo will return soon I'm sure. The quality irons seem to ebb and flow.

Scarftown good update and I'm also loving your thoughts on how to deal with your various irons!

314 excellent, a date in the bag. We will all be here waiting for updates! I think 'it's all bullshit until it happens' has really helped me rein myself in. I'm easily over excited and still am a little, but definitely getting better.

Freaky I think we are all in danger of swooning over Bacon .

I'm having a quiet night with a gin and Tom Hiddleston. Crumpet who?

Why would anyone ever go out if they could stay in with Tom Hiddleston... :)

Exactly ocelot!

I may have spoken too soon, I've had a whatsapp off a nice man I previously matched with who lives a long way away. Not sure where it may lead but it can't hurt to chat a little

DRfoxtrot what age is he? That difference in circs is why i harbour no hopes/thoughts about bear suddenly deciding he could try a relationship with me.

Looking forward to date with dr NN :-)
Nervous tho.

0 decent results on west midlands tinder tonight ive right swiped quite a few but no matches.
Match.com has gone really quiet and not seeing any potentials either.

Have you all read the worst date ever thread!?
We have been lucky. We must be picking well.

Wow Anna5Irons!!
Good cull. There arent enough hours in the day for 9 irons.