I'm livid!

[midlifehope]

I wasn't in the room this morning, but 'd'p slapped Ds leg. Ds is 4. I am livid. Apparently ds kicked dp and threw a comic at him, but it would have been very light as ds is a good boy. Ds said ouch and started crying. I said to dp we were no longer spending the day with him. I am beyond fuming to the extent my heart is racing. I am vehemently against smacking as a discipline strategy. Is this the end for our relationship/ family? We've just bought our dream house together but are not getting on well atm.

Smacking, I can take it or leave it. I've done is as a knee jerk reaction to pain, DS scratched my eyeball and damaged my eye, I smacked him as a reflex it bloody hurt, I needed to spend 4 hours in a and e, and then a week with a eye patch on my eye is fine now.

Regardless of your own personal perception of your son as a good boy, honestly, kicking and throwing things regardless of force is not acceptable behaviour.

I understand your stance on smacking, and why you feel angry at DP, however I honk you should sit down and talk about it before you tear everyone's life apart and cause a lot of upset. It was a smack yes, but is it something really worth ending everything over??

Mavis thanks for reasonable post. I would like to respond to you but the thread has become populated by bullies and I don't want to give them any more fodder!

Please talk to your dp about this. Communicate. And remember this involves listening too.

Hi there,

We've had a few reports about this thread and just wanted to remind everyone to please be naice. We all know how hard this parenting business can be, and if there's one thing we could all do with, it's moral support.

Ginger yes totally understand it as a response to extreme pain, that eyeball incident sounds awful.....

You see. My dd scratched my retina. And snacked dh in the eye and detached his cornea. No slap.

My colleagues kindly referred to me as "the captain" for a week and left a toy parrot on my desk

Maybe it did hurt more than you think it did? Maybe your DS managed to kick a "sweet spot" so DP reflexes a smack back? Sounds like they rough and tumble a lot, my DP is a military man and him and DS are always rough housing and I have to put an end to it.

I think a good chat is what's needed at this point, a warning not to do it again. Then you can both move on and co parent together.

Exit it really is a fight or flight instinct reaction, you obviously chose the latter and I the first. No judgment is needed.

Check my earlier post. It was me that slapped my dd when she kicked me changing her nappy. I thought the op was referring to me.

I was merely pointing out it is all relative. Not judging at all.

Ahh sorry my apologies. I was wrong.

Yes ginger it always seems to be these macho men that take play fighting a little too far. It's like a demo of masculinity or something

Anyway I've calmed down by chatting it through now. I didnt want to feel like I was / am condoning it in any way to ds by doing nothing

I am vehemently against smacking as a discipline strategy - does your DP know this? Have you spoken together about how to discipline your child?
I thought he must have been the step-dad because of the way you speak about him

Yes he knows this - he's not the step dad - we're just not married.

Oh no I only put an end to it to save my house not each other. It's just what boys do with their dad's, to be honest I think I used to rough house with my dad more than my brother!! It ended in tears on more than one occasion for both me and my dad

This is but a minor bump in the road that is parenting, nothing worth flipping the car over about.

Ok thanks I will rest a bit easier tonight thinking it's just a bump and not dysfunctional Central

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Maybe my previous opinion that OP can't be helped was wrong, heat of the moment op and I seem to have lost a little bit of critical thinking.
Sorry midlife, hope you are doing ok.

I think you both need to sit down and discuss your parenting strategy as it clearly isn't working. A child who thinks it's all right to kick and throw something at a parent is not being parented property.

HTH

He will be in jail before he's an adult

A minor bump on the road? After the feelings you've divulged in regard to your partner. This place gets better and better. Lol