I'm livid!

[midlifehope]

I wasn't in the room this morning, but 'd'p slapped Ds leg. Ds is 4. I am livid. Apparently ds kicked dp and threw a comic at him, but it would have been very light as ds is a good boy. Ds said ouch and started crying. I said to dp we were no longer spending the day with him. I am beyond fuming to the extent my heart is racing. I am vehemently against smacking as a discipline strategy. Is this the end for our relationship/ family? We've just bought our dream house together but are not getting on well atm.

Enjoy the rugby I don't think I've misread the posts - just haven't responded with an 'ah ok' I was wrong

You are being fucking ridiculous now.

As I said, stroppy because you didnt get loads of posters accusing him of child abuse and telling you to LTB.

I second whoever it was who told you to grow up.

If this is how you handle conflict in your relationship then yes, I think it would be for the best if you end it now.

You have definitely misread mine. I think you might see that, at some point, later, if not now.

Danny Care just scored

Yeah

That poor frenchman....made me feel queasy.

Oh bogey do calm down dear

You are being totally unreasonable. That is the mildest way I can think of putting it.

Calm down? Me :o

Right ok.

Actually, I would also add that I hope you aren't as patronising to DP as you are to other FMs. Because if you are, you sound like a nightmare to live with.

I've reported you bogeyface.

I'm off to do bedtime. Thanks to those who have offered constructive advice - you know who you are. Not so much to the few goaded. Goodnight. It has helped to talk. Peace out. #teach peace not violence x

You are hard work OP

I agree with the OP and other posters who say that hitting a child should never be condoned, no matter what tantrum the child is throwing!l.

Her son is 4. What 4 year old isn't pushing boundaries, struggling with emotion and lashing out without understanding consequences?

Her DP however is a grown adult and has none of the above excuses, therefore he was wholly in the wrong.

OP, deal with your DS' bad behaviour the way you would normally. Talk to your DP about how you don't agree with hitting as a punishment and you don't feel there is a place for it within your family.

I would only consider leaving if it became a regular thing.

10 minutes or so before this incident dp was hanging ds by the ankles behind his back over a flagstone floor and chucking on sofa

That's a bit of a drip feed! So they were clowning around?

He kicked and threw something .. That's unacceptable behaviour. He hurt someone and got hurt back.

From what you've said it doesn't sound like dp belted him and not being there you can't say it didn't hurt dp.

Ok you don't agree with the method so sit and talk about it..

I don't think it's the end of your dream life that's all a bit dramatic ... You Just need to talk about how you see things.

Wow what an overreacting patronising Op this is. So understandably you don't agree to smacking and feel that it can be detrimental to your dc. Instead of sitting and talking to your dp about it you consider breaking up and causing a lot of heartache. You obviously love your child but I don't know if you love his father very much for this to be the end of it all.

Op is on a wind up.

I haven't read the rest of the thread, only the OP, but your son is as much your partners son as he is yours. Just because you are against a form of discipline doesn't mean your husband has to be as well. It is up to him how he disciplines his child.