Thank you, you guys are my favorite ghost writers! 
loved your line Catty haha, poor little Maple would have passed out I think.
While I was angsting some more you know just for good measure, Maple sent another attempt at striking a conversation. Not sure where he is at but it seems he is not that keen on disappearing after all. I still sent the ice cream thing even used "hang out" appealing to his inner emo kid.
Meanwhile, MrOrganizedYogi has sent the sweetest a tad puppy like text. So there will be a second date after Easter. So easy.
As to multi-dating, the original plan was to only date one person at a time but i think I will just go with the flow until I feel like picking one. I will not tell them though, unless asked In which case I will probably just say something along those lines or what Lacoba said.
Tigsy I am really sorry to hear that and yes thanks for that Oprah post, it is great!
Uh Sassy funny how spring makes some of these old irons crawl back! I like the sound of MrUnsuitable! 
SoThatHappened the problem with adding "with you" is that you end up beating yourself up for something that is just not of your doing and that could not have changed. The only reason a relationship was not on the table is him and only him. Try looking at it from this perspective, I think it would make you feel a lot better. Plus you do not know what the deal is between him and the next woman, maybe he is stringing her along, maybe he fell in love but that it still all about him, not you.
Waving no one really compares to a Windy City guy, uh? Oh well, that is one more frog down!
I just realized re Tinder that the more you are online, the more your profile seem to pop up in the swiping thing. That or tonight is my lucky night, the five times I swiped right they were all matches, so must have seen me before. It intrigues me, I want to reverse engineer the thing.
And thank you for coming back and posting.