Welcome to the House of Fun (and positivity!) - It's dating thread 100

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Awww bless you Dee a if you were anywhere near me I'd offer to meet you over Easter for a good natter and vino!

Mr Gentle, lovely as he is just happens to be soft as shite with his ex and takes all school hols off for their DS while she swans around enjoying herself. So I'm not sure how Easter will pan out for me....

Waving...I have no idea,when he last texted me..it was to ask how the dating was going?its like he can't imagine me seeing anyone else...I've replied so he might chat tonight??
Nanny's...lovely offer..thanks..
Be nice to have a few irons..and I know things can change daily...but having a yuk day...I'll be ok

Checking in ladies! Love the positive thread.

Brabit message me if you want to join FB. Your name and description of your profile pic.

Dating is going SLOW here, but I'm studying for an exam on Friday so put it on the back Bruner.

'I won't take this IDWAR any more'

Loving that, waving

New thread mantra I think. And repeat....

'I won't take this IDWAR shit any more'

Even...

Dee are you anywhere near Yorkshire? I don't have much planned for Easter except catching up on work....

ocelot where in Yorkshire are you?

I think you are possibly the closest to me (North East)

Leeds Nanny
Tell me Gentle has a gorgeous single brother nearby... :)

Lovely, shiny happy new thread not even finished reading the last one

Enjoy your date Waving.

314 I agree with you about the way the bloke makes you feel - that's more important than ticking all of our 'requirement' boxes.

Re: messaging - I often message first, if I've got my flirt on and feel like it!

Ocelot no, sadly he only had sisters.
Actually, I think that might be key to understanding the female psyche.
Can you filter men on dating sites who just have sisters??

Leeds isn't so far. If you ever fancy a meet up in York, it could be fun!!

Batshit loving the phrase 'if I've got my flirt on'

Good luck for date waving although I'm secretly hedging bets on MTG

Oooo. Looking forward to wavings loo update. I shall live vicariously through you all. Zero dates planned for me!

Jolly I had to log in just to say how Cattychatty's reply of " I ate it all, come and lick my lid" was! Bloody brilliant .

Maybe a "Ben and Jerry are always here" ... Too much - lol.

Haha! This is a positive thread! An old iron (PoshBoy) has just got back in touch.

Back story...he lives miles away but travels a lot for work so we matched on Tinder when he was just passing through, in about Nov last year. Hit it off straight away, incredible banter. He's very funny and charming. Had a couple of evenings of banter, really good conversation and sexting but it was never going to be any more of that with him living so far away. There was talk of meeting up when he was in my town but that never quite materialised.
I've never thought I could do FWB but I could maybe possibly with him...there's a real "friend" vibe there, IYKWIM?

Anyway, I deleted my Tinder profile and reinstated which meant all my old matches disappeared but was just swiping and there he was! So right swiped for old times sake, and so did he! I said hi and we really must stop meeting like this...he said that he was travelling but we should "tango soon" and I said, well, you know where I am.

The whole thing has just made me . We're probably not going to meet up and even if we do, it's not going anywhere but it was just nice to see a friendly face on Tinder and brought back some good memories...

Caught up!!

Looking forward to the lol update waving but personally I am in MTG's corner! He sounds like a decent one.

Lots of snogging which is always good

No irons here, no energy to find any either. OKC is annoying me. Everytime I go into a match it says last online then states a date sometime in the middle of last year. Helpful. Think I'll create a pof account at the weekend. For now wine is my new boyfriend, and this thread of course.

Dee I really do find that when things are pretty much the worst they can get, it generally means that they are about to pick up in a big way. Every time I get really demoralised with OLD, someone new and lovely comes along.

Totally agree with that freaky just when I'm about to deactivate my OLD profiles someone crops up!

Universe send me a decent man please.

Freaky I'm holding onto that thought too! It needs to pick up something major for me

Do you all tell people if you are dating more than one person?

I seem to have a proble in that they ask me how many others I am meeting and If I say I am meeting anyone els they get annoyed?

this is before we've even met?

I don't ask and if I'm asked I just say something along the lines of "it's early days, let's give it a few more dates"

Urgh, I can't seem to get away with that.

I find it odd though that they expect me to be exclusive before our first date or seem miffed that I am not and then the minute we ARE dating the tables turn and I can;t get them to commit for the life of me

brabit can you not just say "When and IF I feel that this is going anywhere for us both, then I will consider distancing myself from OLD, until then it'll be good fun getting to know you" - add the .

Just my thoughts..

Thats a great answer!!!!!!

No thumbs up emo- but you're welcome .

The ball is back in their court, but you hold the power!