Welcome to the House of Fun (and positivity!) - It's dating thread 100

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

That'd be good, I can imagine Soho checking out MTG thinking 'who's that when he's at home?'

Haha! Yes, add MTG on FB. I might have partly added Birdman (remember him?!) to FB to wind Mr2015 up a little bit...though he probably never even noticed.
Confession time... I also write all my dates on the kitchen calendar at home. ExP looks after DS at my house a couple of afternoons a week and I get a kick out of him seeing "Dan, 7.30, Red Lion" (names changed to protect the innocent) on my calendar. I've never told him I'm dating (none of his bloody business) but he must know about Mr2015 at least.

Hmmm, and just realised that I have done a lot of thinking/talking about Mr2015 today. Wonder what that's about?

Foxtrot sending messages to matches does work for me about 50% of the time. I wait a couple of days for them and then step into action as there is nothing to lose there.

314 oh yes, focusing on that feeling rather than on the guy checking your boxes. That should actually be a rule!! That I need to strictly enforce myself

On that note... I need to reply to Maple... The overall feeling is that I am walking on eggshells here (quite awkward dude, very much of a dork - but he ticks my boxes on so many levels) but at the same time I want to make him either step up or tell me he is not that into me. So. I managed to move the texting from funny banter to flirty. Last conversation was about my eating ice cream in bed In the middle of the night (cf: MH food is sexy and well, I am in bed) and now he is asking if there is any left. My first instinct is to tell him "I would have saved you some but I was too afraid that it would melt ;)".

My first instinct is very passive aggressive.

Can anyone come up with a better, awkward-dork proof, reply that will not make him run away?

"I saved some especially for you....when are you going to come and eat it?"

Or got about a bowlful left we could share

Freaky Thank you! I think it is a bit forward for Maple though or not? Argh. I am making this more complicated than it is right?

(But I can definitely imagine him blushing while typing "is there any left?")

Freaky I like the directness of 'when are you going to come and eat it'. Or similar to catty 'there's enough left to share...when are you coming ;)'

oooh, do a at the end to make it more flirty? I don't think it's too forward...he was being a bit suggestive by asking if there was any left, if you ask me!

Haha love Wavings I ate it all

Yes you need a winky face, I'm sure MH advocates a well placed winky face.

I ate it all come and lick my lid .
(Not really but if he blushes easily)

314 I'm cooling it a little on the dating front. Am Focussing on my DC's, booking stuff with friends and actually getting my divorce finalised. Final bits to go. So I'm still lurking but also taking it easy and just chilling my boots as they would say.

waving ah just enjoy enjoy enjoy this feeling. It's so interesting reading our threads. So much hinges on communication, but I do think that tells us a lot about a person.

Welcome hopping

drfoxtrot I'm on bumble so I have to message first. On Happn I let them make the first move.

jolly I'd reply with something tongue in cheek that suits your banter levels with him. Sorry it's a vague response but my responses can be quite off piste so I'd reply with something not remotely flirty but flirty at the same time....

to everyone else on thread

So update. scot has messaged me via different means. . WTF is wrong with these men???

Also, cast your mind back ladies. Who remembers tree? He has also tracked me down on FB and messaged me there!!!! 2 months later. Apparently he misses me. I'm currently deliberating whether to just block and delete or ask him if he'd like me to screenshot his message to the wife he is 'separated' from.

I also have a new iron. Totally unsuitable. Ripped, tattooed wall of muscle.

Hi
So inspired by this thread. I was obsessing over a slow fade text exchange after 2 great dates and you have inspired me! I signed up to POF yesterday, loads of messages, so much that when Mr TF blew out our date tonight I shrugged. I have downloaded WMLB and shall be visiting here regularly. I may even have a date lined up when I'm on holiday in a couple of weeks (foreign city, staying with a friend, I speak the language).
FWIW I always message first. Life's too short.

May have to change my username to Nolongerdisappointed

Marking my place. Had a crazy busy couple of days as Ofsted decided to call.... on my knees now and in desperate need of wine!

No irons although Mr WalkonMe has asked to meet. Not sure I can be bothered. That's bad, right?

Hello lovely ladies!!

Well isn't this a lovely, positive universe that we live in? Here's to Going With The Flow. Cheers!

Marking my place...
Need some good luck please...
Shit day!!!but Mr builder has messaged and wants to know if I'm dating???
Why when he was an IDWAR? Our date was Jan 14th!!!
My fwb is leaving the area on Saturday... To get married...very emotional... And I don't know why...
End of that chapter I guess.
No irons... Dating the thread and fb
Easter is looming .4 days off and no plans... Dreading it..might even offer to work!!