Onwards and Upwards!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Good morning. Welcome to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

Hi WTAFF.

Enjoy your day on Arran.
I hope the weather stays nice for you.

I am in the garden cutting the grass again. It grows so quickly. I have walked the dogs.
My older dog has to go to the Vet this afternoon. I haven't told him yet!

It would be nice to hear from some of the familiar faces of old!
I do not want to appear needy though!
Enjoy xx

Hi Pisco.

Glad you have a beautiful day too. Glad the sky is the right colour!
I am in the garden cutting the grass and trimming up shrubs.
Plenty to do indoors but that will have to wait!
Have to take advantage outside when there is no rain!

I am feeling okay today as although someone is still in bed he is here!
Feeling quite positive after seeing my counsellor yesterday.

How are you today? Any plans?

Well I better get back to the garden.

Have a good one! xx

Hello all.
Hush I'm glad to hear that seeing your counsellor makes you feel better.
I went to the GP yesterday because after my highs of Saturday where I felt really strong I came crashing down on Sunday and yesterday. Just kept crying all the time. At work. In front of my daughter. GP prescribed some sleeping tablets and gave me a telephone number for self referral for counselling. Only problem is I've got to have a telephone appointment first (first available one is next Monday) and then they will hopefully set up some face to face appointments. I half joked at work that by the time I sat down and talked to someone I'd probably be feeling a lot better!
Signed contract with Estate Agent yesterday so house should be on the market by the end of the week and saw a solicitor today who is drawing up a Separation Agreement to facilitate sale of the house/sharing of assets.
I tend to feel better when I'm being proactive and sorting things out. Just got to arrange a mortgage now.
Me and my daughter tidied up our garden last week prior to having the estate agents round. It looks quite nice now.
Hope you got everything done today that you wanted to.
I'm off out in an hour - joined a local meetup group in an effort to try and make some friends.

Onwards and upwards

Hello ThankGod.
I am glad that you have been to see your GP and that she has prescribed some sleeping tablets for you and that you have started the ball rolling for counselling. I hope that these things help you.
Glad you have seen a solicitor too. I am waiting to hear from mine at the moment for the next move.
I got my gardening done but have a problem with my hip/leg now. I hope it is not sciatica again!
Enjoy your meetup group. I hope you make some new friends there.
Take care.

Onwards and upwards 😀x

Hello - I'm just back. Absolutely shattered! It was a lovely day. Lots to see and do. Back to reality tomorrow though!

Hello WTAFF. Glad you had a lovely day. I hope you sleep well tonight. Sorry you are back to reality tomorrow.

My son has gone back. So it is just me again and I am feeling pretty low again. I am trying to resist e mailing my dh.

Take care xx

Hush - you know that you must resist the temptation to email. I'm exactly the same and I know how hard it is.

Do you have anything to do which might distract you?

Thank you WTAFF. I know I cannot do it but it is so difficult.
I am going to watch something on TV that will hold my attention.
I will add to my long e mail that has no recipient!

Sleep well 😴xx

You too Hush. Xx

Morning all.
I just want to know when this gets better?
Found out that my husband has booked a hotel for him and his 'friend' for the bank holiday! It's like a punch to the stomach. Couldn't sleep. I just hurt. So much.
It's only been just over two weeks since he left and he's acting as though the last 15 years together never existed.
I'm scared of being lonely forever.
Just want this pain to stop.

Morning ThankGod.
I wish I had the answer for you. It will get easier but it takes time.
Ladies on MN have told me that it will get easier and life will be different but it still can be really good.
My husband left me at Christmas so I am further into this than you. I still have good and bad days. Even days when I feel that I do not want to wake up and the future terrifies me!
I think I mentioned the other day that you need to try and only think about the day you are in not even the next day.
I know how you feel about him spending time in a hotel with his 'friend'. Mine has been travelling the world with his while I am stuck here dealing with my 'grief'. Can you do anything nice over the Bank Holiday?
How did it go last night? Did you make any new friends?

These men can do this, they can turn themselves into strangers overnight.
This is a form of bereavement that we are going through and it takes time to get over it. Hopefully you will get to see a counsellor and I am finding that really helpful.

You have support on here and we are always here to 'listen'.
Take care xx

Me again.
Quick post.
Got home from work and the 'for sale' sign is up. Even though I knew it was happening at some point this week it was still a shock. Less than 3 weeks ago my life was so different. I can't seem to get my head round it.

Hello ThankGod.
Sorry you had to deal with seeing the 'for sale' sign.
It is not nice at all. I have that to face yet.
It just seems to be happening so quickly for you, when you are still in shock!
It is awful.
But hopefully you will have a place of your own and you will be happy there with your daughter.
I have had hassle today from a certain person. I was in tears earlier but I am really mad now. He is not treating me like this anymore. Enough!

I hope you have a nice evening xx

Hush I'm sorry to hear that he had you in tears. I really don't know how they live with themselves.
On a good note my dog seems to be regaining his appetite - perhaps he is becoming used to things. Let's hope so.
The meetup was OK - everyone was very nice but I'm not sure that I'm ready yet to socialise with strangers. You are lucky you have good friends already.
As for the bank holiday I'm going to visit my brother so that should help take my mind off things. Do you have plans?

Hello everyone! I'm home now. Back to work tomorrow.

I'm sorry everyone seems to be having a tough time at the moment.

Perhaps the answer is to do the same as our men - find someone else! That maybe the Scottish whisky talking though. I'm not sure I have the energy....

Thank you ThankGod.
I don't know how they live with themselves either.
I am glad your dog is regaining his appetite. He probably sees you as his constant, so he is happy.
I am glad the meetup was OK and that everyone was very nice. I can understand how you must have felt. I could not have done it! I admire you for trying it.
I do not have loads of friends but the ones I have are really good.
People can be really kind. My sister has been great too.
I have some great support on MN from my virtual friends.

I hope you enjoy your visit with your brother Bank holiday weekend. It will be good to be in a different environment with company. I haven't any plans yet. Hopefully one of my sons will be home.

Take care of yourself xx

Hi WTAFF.
I am glad you are back home safely.
Sorry you have to go back to work tomorrow.

Maybe we should do the same as them but I do not have the energy either and probably not a wise move at the moment!

Enjoy your whisky!

xx

Evening all.
The weather here is dismal. BBC weather wrong again! It was supposed to be quite pleasant.
Dog has definitely regained his appetite which is good. I was quite worried about him.
The solicitor has sent through the draft Separation Agreement for me to check before he sends a copy to my husband.
My car insurance is due for renewal so I telephoned them to have them remove him as a named driver. It put the premium up by nearly £60. Told them to stick it and went elsewhere!
Just hope the house sells quickly.
How are you all doing? Is the weather awful where you are?

Hi Thank God.
The weather is dismal here too. It was sunny earlier and I had washing on the line and all of a sudden it just poured down. Managed to get it in before it got too wet!
Glad your dog has definitely regained his appetite. One less thing to worry about!
How do they justify putting a premium up when they remove a named driver? Good that you went elsewhere!
I hope the house sells quickly if thats what you need to happen.
I have been up and down today. I was was talking tough this morning but as the day wore on I was reduced to a soggy mess again. My poor sister! She will be afraid to phone me soon!
I hope you have a pleasant evening
xx

Good Afternoon all.

I hope you all have good weather today.
It is sunny here but quite windy.
I have walked my dogs. Got rid of garden rubbish etc at the tip.
Washed one dogs rear end!
Been to stock up on dog food.
Put the bread on.
What an exciting life I lead?

I hope you are all having a good day?
xx

Hi Hush. The weather is nice here. I hope it lasts for the weekend.

What are your plans?

Hi WTAFF.
Glad the weather is good for you too.
Let's hope it lasts for the weekend.

No plans for the weekend yet!
What about you?
Have a good day xx

We all seem to have got good weather today.
Just walked the dog - he's now sunbathing in the garden.
Cleaned upstairs and done the shopping. Will do downstairs tomorrow. Going to cook something nice for our tea. I've been eating pretty rubbish for the last few weeks since it happened.
Hush I'm sure your sister doesn't mind you crying down the phone to her. I'm sure you'd let her do the same should the need ever arise.
Going to pop into town with my daughter tomorrow and might also try to sort out a bit of the loft.
Have a nice evening.

Hello ThankGod.
It is nice to go dog walking in the nice weather.
I hope your dog doesn't get sun burnt!
Sounds as though you have been busy.
Will be good to have something nice for tea as you need to look after yourself. Which I know is hard.
My sister says she doesn't mind!
I hope you enjoy your trip into town with your daughter tomorrow.
I have to do some sorting tomorrow but not in the loft as I cannot get up there!
Enjoy your evening xx

Morning Hush. I'm just going to do a few things round the house this weekend. I'm not feeling 100% at the moment.

Are you finding your 'down' periods are decreasing in number or is it still as bad as at the start?