Onwards and Upwards!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Good morning. Welcome to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

Good morning Hush. The sun is struggling to break through here too.
It is really difficult to dismiss those thoughts from your head. The only thing I find that helps is just keeping busy and listening to someone else talking, radio or podcasts. But it is hard and you don't actually want to be thinking about this stuff over and over! I bet it's not even intentional on their parts. They probably think they're sending a cheery email and then don't even give it a second thought.
But don't let it set you back. I do think that little by little you're doing better.
Onwards and upwards. X

Good Morning Pisco.
Just come back from walking the dogs.
I went out in my Barbour and ended up carrying it back as I was boiling!
I hope the sun comes out where you are.
My son is still in bed!
Mind you we did not go to bed until after 2am as we were watching TV together.
Unfortunately the dogs did not let me sleep on!
I am going to try to keep busy today and keep my thoughts In check.
The ironing board is coming out again in a minute to finish the ironing marathon!
Later I will be on my own again. That is when it gets hard.
I think that my DH knows just what he is doing!

Enjoy your day, hopefully in the sun!xx☀️

Afternoon Hush. Sorry I haven't been on for a few days. I've been having a rough time relationship wise - but that's a whole different story.

I hope you're keeping well. I'm just trying to catch up on a load of admin that I've managed to put off for far too long!

I've booked a holiday for myself in June. Going to spend a week walking in the Austrian Alps which is one of my favourite places in the world!

Afternoon Hush.
Distraction is the name of the game methinks. Way back I think you were exploring volunteering, dog walking, baking etc? Are there any charity shops that would appreciate a few hours of volunteering a day/ or something similar? There's a government website for volunteering I think? I know you've got the dogs so are limited but wonder whether a couple of mornings a week would start you on that process? It's not the solution but as Pisco says, it's that keeping busy thing.
I could of course ship my ironing over to you?? . I've washed all my summer clothes and because so many of them are linens, they all require ironing. Tonight it will be Netflix, ironing and .
xx

Afternoon WTAFF.
Sorry to hear that you have been having a rough time relationship wise. I hope you can sort it out. Always here to listen.

Hope you catch up with you admin.

Glad to hear that you have booked a holiday in the Austrian Alps. Definitely something to look forward to.

I have just taken my son back with his freshly laundered and ironed clothes.So back on my lonesome!
Better tidy up as it looks a mess in my house.Still there are no housework police!
The dogs have done their best to drop as many leaves and twigs as possible and spread their food about!

I am going to have a nice large glass of Prosecco tonight and try and switch the chattering in my mind off. The weather outside is still beautiful.

I hope you have a nice evening xx

Good Evening Louisa.
I typed a message earlier and lost the whole lot!
I think you are right that distraction us the name of the game.
The only trouble us at the moment I do not have the confidence to do these things at the moment. I will look into it though.
I plugged my iron in this morning and nothing. I checked the fuse etc but it was not having it. Luckily when I bought it I took the extra cover. So I took it back and they exchanged it for a new one. So send your ironing on over! Linen us a lovel fabric to wear but not easy to look after.
I hope you have a nice evening apart from the ironing. Settle down with Netflix and a glass or two of wine!🍷Cheers!
xx

Hush,
It's always nice to care for others - hope your son is duly grateful. And yes, I get the confidence issue and don't mean to pressurise you. It is evident from all your posts what a lovely caring person you are and how badly you've been hurt.
Bit by bit, with help and by delving into your inner strength, you WILL build yourself back up (you ARE building yourself up - I can see it in your posts) and recognise all those skills and attributes that you have but have been hidden under the weight of your loss and devastation.
Enjoy the Prosecco. I'm on the wine and Netflix - but no ironing yet!
xxx

Thank you Louisa.
I am not sure how grateful my son is. It is just what I have always done for him, his brother and my dh. He does come home to be with his old Mum though which means the world to me.Not that doing this and loads of other things and cooking everything that my dh's little heart desired has got me anywhere apart from being abandoned.
I am glad that you can see by my posts that I am getting stronger.
Glad you are on the wine and Netflix. There is always tomorrow for the ironing!
xx

Hello Hush. I hope everything is ok with you. Not enough sleep here and I'm feeling it. Should be another lovely day here so I'll do some outside stuff. X

Hello

Hope you don't mind me joining in on this thread.

I'm one week in to my husband leaving and need some support.

Good Morning All.
We have sun again this morning after a lot of rain overnight.
I hope it is sunny where you are?
It looks as though it could be a hot one!

Had a broken nights sleep but went off into a deep sleep after 5am.

I am going to try to stay busy today to stop the chattering in my brain. I think it is going to be a slow start as I have not even had a cup of coffee yet!

Have a good day xx☀️

Good Morning Pisco.
Sorry you have not had enough sleep.
Glad you have good weather too.
Ideal for doing stuff outside.
Have a good day xx

Good Morning ThankGodItsThursday.
Welcome to my thread.
I am so sorry that this has happened to you.
You are welcome to stay on here as long as you like but sometimes it does help if you start your own thread.
xx

Good morning all.
We started off really dull with rain this morning but now the sun is out and it is really warm.
Going to try and be more productive today.
I was back in my pit of despair again yesterday!
Have a good one!xx☀️

Evening Hush, how are you? Have you had a good day?

As I mentioned a few days ago, I'm having relationship troubles. We recently decided to give it another go but it just hasn't worked out.

For the two years we were together my ex wouldn't even add me as a friend on Facebook. He found out today that I had blocked him and he got upset. I sometimes wonder what goes on in his head!

Evening WTAFF,
I am okay thank you.
I have been to see my counsellor today which really helped.
It made me see things in a slightly different way.
As over the last few days I have been thrown again and all those feelings were all refreshed if that makes any sense?

I am sorry to hear that it hasn't worked out for you. I hope that you are okay?
I do not think that mens brains work the same way as ours do. They seem to think that it is one rule for them and another for us.

Please take care of yourself and try to keep your chin up. Take care xx

Good evening everyone.

Did someone mention Prosecco?

I love Prosecco and yesterday I went to see how it's made just outside of Venice. We went to two wineries and I went a bit daft so there's currently 30 bottles of it on the way to my dads for us. Did you know you can also get 'flat' Prosecco that's like a white wine. I loved it. After the first winerie we went and had lunch and I wasn't feeling that great. To be honest I'm exhausted and I think now that I e had a chance to switch off a bit it's all coming out so to speak. Anyway we crossed the road to the second winerie and I was feeling more exhausted by the minute and once we came up from the cellars and we were going for the tasting I said I cant, I need to go and find somewhere to sleep. So I discreetly made my way outside and I sat down on a chair in the garden of this beautiful farmhouse abd 5 minutes later the tour leader found me snoring my head off and the farm yard dog sitting looking at me. He had put a stick in my lap. I'd been throwing it to him then conked out and there he was just looking as if to say - ok come in its your turn now. I slept for an hour and a half and I hate to think what people who were Nipping in to buy the odd bottle to have with Sunday lunch thought of the woman lying fast asleep on a chair in the garden of the winerie 😂

ThankGod you are more than welcome to cooch in with us here. Xxx

WTAFF - I'm sorry to hear things haven't worked out for you. Xxxx

Good morning notonyur.
It was me that mentioned Prosecco.
I love Prosecco too.
It is good that you went to two wineries where it is made.
I did not know that you could get 'flat' Prosecco!
I am sorry that you were exhausted.
Poor dog! I expect he was wondering what was going on!
You were probably a talking point for the people that saw you.
Still you will never see them again so it doesn't matter and it probably gave them something to chuckle about!
I hope you are enjoying yourself.
Have a good day xx

Good morning all. Hope you are all well.
Is flat Prosecco called Prosecco?
Onwards and upwards WTAFF, hope you are ok x

Good morning Pisco. I hope you are okay?
Back to miserable weather again. Rain and long haired dogs do not mix!
I searched Prosecco and apparently it comes in sparkling, semi sparkling and still.
You learn something new every day. They sell a semi sparkling version in Tesco which is a Frizzante.
I hope you are okay today WTAFF. Thinking of you.
Really have to find some enthusiasm to do stuff today as yesterday I failed apart from doing the usual!
I am still trying to change my mind set as last weeks e mails threw me. Just more mind games!
Have a good day xx

Hello. I used to drink a lot of Frizzante a long time ago. I liked it because it was sweet but light. Perfect for an unsophisticated palate.
Raining and miserable here. I'm going on my course in a while so I can have a bit of a snooze there! Right now I'm going to make some pizza dough. Take all my angst out on that! Xxx

Hello Pisco, I used to like Frizzante too. They used to do a really good one when we used to eat a Carluccios!
Sounds as though we have the same weather.
I hope you manage to have a little sleep on your course!
Kneading dough is so good for working out your frustrations!
Have a good day xx

Just thought I'd do a quick post.
Still in shock but slowly coming to terms with what's happened.
House being valued on Friday and then can hopefully get it on the market. Thought about trying to stay here but money would be really tight and it's probably best to make a new start somewhere else.
Everyone I've told is being lovely but I still feel like a failure. Why wasn't I enough?
Whilst I wouldn't wish the way I'm feeling on my worst enemy it's comforting to know I'm not alone and to see how others are progressing on their journey.

Hi ThankGod.
Things seem to be moving really fast.
I am going to do the same thing soon.
As you say it is probably best to make a fresh start somewhere else.
Please do not feel like a failure. Who knows what goes on in a mans head?
There are a lot of us on here in the same boat. We are all at various stages. I do not think that I would have come this far without my MN friends. They have been great. Onwards and Upwards!xx