Onwards and Upwards!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Good morning. Welcome to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

Good morning. How are you? Overcast and very windy here today. We don't have any plans, so we'll see where the wind takes us x

Morning Hush,
Today is a precious completely free day after a very busy couple of weeks with no time to Mumsnet.
How are things going? Have you managed to make any decisions yet about the future? (not read the thread above I'm afraid).
It's a bit gloomy here but the sun is trying to break through.

Good morning Pisco.
I am okay. I have walked the dogs and now I am gathering the enthusiasm to tidy up!
I hope you manage to find something nice to do even though the weather isn't great.
xx

Morning Louisa it is good to hear from you.
You have been busy. Still sometimes that is good.
I am seeing a Counsellor. I have been twice so far and she seems very good.
Nothing decided about my future yet!
Not heard from a certain person!
Still finding all this really hard but I know that I have to try and get through it!
Have walked the dogs and need to tidy up.
I think it may be brightening up.
I hope you have a relaxing day xx

That's good Hush - talking things through is really helpful in terms of building our confidence and self esteem back up after such a blow. I've been watching a friend, during the last year after the break up of her relationship of 6 years (he cheated on her needless to say). She's had a dreadful sad year but has done a lot of thinking and talking about why she got into a relationship where her needs weren't met and why she settled for so little. It's been painful to watch but she's asked herself such difficult questions. She's tried a few dates (she's younger than me) and has unexpectedly met a really nice man and they are tentatively embarking on a relationship. She was so positive the other day as she said that she's learnt so much about herself and why she settled for such an inadequate relationship. Although she can't guarantee that it won't happen again, she's determined to try to make sure that it won't and I think so far it's going well.
The sun is finally out here and it looks as if we've got some good weather ahead this week - yay!

Hi Louisa,
We have rain again. It looks really miserable out there?
I need to rebuild my self confidence and self esteem.
I am also doing a mindfulness app for ten minutes per day.
I am traumatized by all this and have to rebuild myself and try to make a new life for myself. I just cannot look into the future as that sends me into panic mode!

I am sorry that your friend has had such a difficult time. I hope that she finds a happy life again.

I had a down period today. I started to sort out a lot of files in my filing cabinets. I also had lots of birthday, Christmas, wedding anniversary and other cards in there too. Which I sorted through and binned all but one.

I hope you have a nice evening xx

Hush, That's progress! Every time you clear out and make a bit of space it's as if you clear a little piece of space inside yourself for yourself (if that makes sense?). Of course you are traumatised - it's really shocking what has happened to you. Step by step...
Do you have any single friends? I have a mix but I do find that my single friends gave me some insight into what my life alone could be like. They were occupied, independent and confident and it helped me a bit to 'model' myself on them. They understood my anxieties but had come through the other side and helped me see what the future could look like. That was so helpful and when I was a quivering mess I could still see that they were OK - so I could be too.
Hope the week ahead is OK. xx

Thanks Louisa,
Yes it does make sense.
I have one single friend but I do not see her much.
I have really good friends but I do not have loads of friends.
I hope your week is good too.
xx

Hi Hush,

You do sound a bit brighter in your posts. How are you and the pooches?

I habe been down to the sea front again today for a walk. Whilst it was an awful morning it was glorious this afternoon. Hopefully summer is just around the corner!

If you're ever in the north east PM me and I can show you around some of my favourite haunts in Newcastle or Durham.

Hi WTAFF,

Thanks. I have been a bit down today but I tried to keep busy so I did not think too much.
My old dog is still not too good and the young one is still naughty.
Our weather was horrid today. Hoping for better tomorrow.
Glad you got down on the sea front for a walk.

Thank you for your kind offer. I certainly will let you know if I am coming up to the north east.

I hope you are having a nice evening? Xx

Morning- the kind people in the Divorce section suggested I find you all so woild like to join, please.

Good Afternoon SortingStuffStill.
You are welcome to join our merry band if you would like to
xx

Good evening from LONDON!!!

I'm here in my hotel room. I've had my shower and I'm now saying hello to the mini bar. Tomorrow I'm going out and about then I'm meeting a friend from home for a pre theatre dinner before going to see Book Of Mormon. It seems really strange to be meeting up with her here 😊. Then on Thursday I'm meeting one of my children who's in the UK for a long weekend to meet up with her Masters tutor, something to do with her dissertation that's due to be handed in in August. Its her birthday this week so we're going to try and find a street market for yummy food before I scoot up to Stanstead to meet my friend for our Italy trip.

Louise - I love what you posted about your friend because it's spot on.

Husha - you are indeed sounding chirpier. Xxxx

Sorting I'm sorry you have reason to have joined us

WTAFF - I love the seaside :)

I'm sitting here laughing because the news has just finished and I felt like getting up to put a dog out for a wee then lock up for the night just like my dad does.

Xxx

Good evening notonyur in London.
I hope you enjoy your stay before you go off to Italy.
It sounds as though you have a busy programme.

Have you put the dog out yet!

I have been busy today rearranging furniture etc. I really ache tonight!
I had a low point earlier but I have just done my mindfulness session and I am trying not to think too much!

Have a great stay. Did you get the apple cake recipe?

Good night xx

Hi Husha, sorry. Yes. I got the recipe.

It's like that Blue Peter one from years ago.

And the dog ran away when I put him out so no need to do it again tonight

Hi notonyur,
I hope you had a good nights sleep in London and did not worry too much about the dog!
Glad you got the recipe. I think it was from Delia originally.

I hope you enjoy your day exploring and your pre theatre dinner and the show with your friend.

It seems like a nice day here so I am hoping it is the same for you in London.

I better go and get sorted and start my day.

Enjoy! xx

Good morning all.

I hope that the sun is shining on you all today?☀️
It is a beautiful day here and ideal dog walking weather.
Need to gather the enthusiasm to start doing some tidying.
I may venture out as far as the tip today.
What an exciting life I lead!
I hope you all have a good day.
xx😀☀️

Good afternoon all.
I hope you are all having a decent day?
I have walked the dogs and done the ironing and done some cleaning.
Now I feel totally deflated. When do these up and down feelings ever end?
xx

Good evening Hush. How are you doing now?
I'm on my travels homewards. Going past lots of yellow fields of rape.
Have you seen any sunshine today other than walking the dogs? X

Evening Hush,
It's been a lovely day here. I treated myself to some retail therapy today and have some new clothes and shoes for the summer - just s few!
I've also planned tomorrow to overhaul the garden - clear away all the winter die back, empty the old pots, clean the patio thoroughly and get ready to plant up pots etc next week. I'm really looking forward to be able to go out and sit in a lovely colourful and peaceful little garden in the summer.
You ask when the feelings ever end - I think it can take a long time. In my experience what can help is the feeling that you are 'moving on' (even if it's not really what you wanted to be doing). Have you got anywhere with creating yourself that lovely space just for you - bedroom perhaps or lounge? Somewhere with just your stamp on it and that you've designed for yourself? Doesn't have to be expensive - I think we spoke about new sheets, flowers, a cushion or two and a scented candle? With nothing in there belonging to a certain twat?
Something like that is symbolic I think as well as giving you something to take your mind off things with all the clearing, throwing out but also the creating?
Just a thought. xxx

Good evening Pisco.
I hope you will soon be home.
I like seeing the yellow fields of rapeseed.
I went to vote and did a bit of food shopping.
I bought a cauliflower and made myself cauliflower cheese for dinner.
Have a good evening xx

Evening Louisa,

Glad you had lovely weather today. We did too.
Good that you treated yourself to some retail therapy and have some new clothes and shoes for the summer.
I hope you get into the garden tomorrow to overhaul the garden and then next week plant up the pots. I hope you are able to enjoy sitting out there in the summer.

The trouble is a certain person has freshened up those feelings again. I am not sure how to deal with it.

I sorted one of our downstairs rooms and it looks quite nice now.
I need to get the bedrooms sorted.
I have a scented yankee candle and also my fragrance lamp. Which smells wonderful.
It does help when I can concentrate on tidying etc.
Have a nice evening xx

Good evening Hush,
Hope that your day has been OK? I have a newly sorted garden all ready for my bedding plants. I even sat outside and had a glass of wine!
Glad to see that you got a room sorted. Hope that your evening is going well and that you are coping with those feelings.xx

Good Evening Louisa,
Glad you have a newly sorted garden all ready for the bedding plants.
Nice that you could sit in the garden with a glass of wine.
I seem to have been ironing for hours!

I am not really coping with these feelings.
I still do not know what he is up to.
I keep running it through my mind.
I think it is probably mind games again.
Why did he have to contact me?
I am glad I have my counsellor on Monday.

My son is here but he is upstairs.
I hope you are having a nice evening.
Better finish the ironing.
xx

Good morning all.
I hope you all have a good day whatever you are doing.
The sun has not broken through here yet.
Hopefully it will!
Still feeling so confused.
I have to try and get back on track otherwise I will be back where I started.
Off to get showered and sorted.
The dogs are getting restless.
Have a good day xx