Onwards and Upwards!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Good morning. Welcome to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

Thanks Hush and Pisco. I'm doing ok thanks. I just feel a bit empty at the moment.

Onwards and upwards!

I hope you're ok?

Hi WTAFF,
I am glad that you are doing okay. You are bound to feel a little empty.
Yes Onwards and Upwards.
I am in a bit of a mess again.
I have to try and get back on track again.
Take care xx

Sorry, I thought I'd posted the name of the Prosecco.

Husha it comes from the Veneto region just an hour and a half from Venice. And it might be an idea for a wee holiday for you and your sister. You could fly into Venice and do a couple of days then do a day tour of the Prosecco region.

We went to see the Pope today. It was lovely.

Hello notonyur,
Thank you a trip to Italy is a good idea.

Glad you saw the Pope today. That must have been a very moving experience?
I hope you are having a great time.
Are you enjoying the food?
Xx

Not having a very good day today.
Feeling sick and shaky.
House being valued tomorrow so I will have to contact him. I had a new car on 31st March and it looks like that might affect how much I can borrow for new property. Why couldn't he have told me before I signed the agreement instead of waiting 4 weeks.
I've contacted a Mortgage Advisor to see if they can help.
I don't think I'll ever trust anyone again.

Sorry ThankGod that you are not having a good day.
Have you managed to have something to eat and drink as you have to keep your strength up?
I hope the Mortgage advisor can help.
These men are only thinking of themselves!
You are bound to feel that you will never trust anyone again.
I am hoping that one day you will. Someone one day will treat you properly.
Take care xx

Well I've just text him and he's coming round Saturday to talk about house. He can't do tomorrow because he's got plans!
I know I shouldn't but I've just logged on to his Facebook and looked at his messages. There are invitations there for him to attend events from who I think is the other woman which he has accepted.
Whilst it's very very painful it's also a good thing. It shows me exactly who he is and how quick he's moved on. He's not worth my heartache. I shall now just do what I need to do to sort out my life.

Hello ThankGod.
I hope you will be okay on Saturday when your husband comes around. Try and take a deep breath!
Looking at Facebook isn't a good thing. Try not to.
The trouble is it is not that easy just to move on for us.
Try and stay strong and stand up for your rights.
Do you have a solicitor?
Take care xx

No solicitor yet although I have spoken to a mortgage advisor today.
Shall see what he says and take it from there.
How are you today?
You are right it's hard for us to move on when we were blindsided by them leaving in the first place whilst they have had months to think about it/prepare.
It's like he's a complete stranger. He's not the man I married and loved!

I do not know how long you were married but I was married for 30 years and he is like a stranger too. We are way behind them, they have known what they were going to do for months. Mine has left me totally traumatised and he doesn't care.
I am still trying to get back on track as I was thrown again last week.
Just make sure you get proper advice.
Thinking of you and take care xx

Morning Hush - I hope you're well. Are you feeling any better after your setback earlier in the week?

I'm being a bit pathetic. I alternate between anger and hoping that he will contact me. He hasnt. Part of me thinks that he enjoys upsetting me.

Morning WTAFF.
I am up and down still. I just gave to try and get back on track.
I am going out with a friend for fish and chips on the seafront later which will be nice. Apart from all the memories that the place holds!

I do not think you are being pathetic at all. It is just being human.
I wouldn't put anything past these men. I am so fed up with mind games!

Try and take care of yourself.
Thinking of you xx

Good morning all.
I hope the sun is shining where you are?
Do you have plans for today?
I am meeting up with my niece for coffee today.

I better get sorted as dogs are whingeing as they want to go for a walk!

Have a good one?
xx😀☀️

Morning Hush. I'm currently sitting in kwikfit getting a new tyre on my car.

The sun is shining!

Enjoy your day!

Morning WTAFF.
What exciting lives we lead!
I hope your tyre fitting goes well!

Glad the sun is shining on you too.
I have just come back from walking the dogs and just sitting down with a cup of coffee.

Enjoy your day! Xx☀️

Afternoon all. Sun is shining here. I feel loads better today.
House was valued yesterday and husband came round today to discuss things. I was so nervous before he came. I was worried that seeing him would upset me. But I was strong and determined about what was happening going forward and he seemed nervous and shaky.
He's taken more of his stuff and apparently he's living back at his mom and dad's but looking at flats to rent. Yeah right! Until he moves in with her!
I know I'm obviously not over him or anything like that and I said to him that I would have given anything for this not to have happened but I'm definitely feeling better for being strong and in control and moving things forward.

Hope everyone else is having a good day to.

My dog is sunbathing in the garden - he's not coping too well with him being gone so he had sausages for breakfast to cheer him up

Good Evening ThankGod.
Glad you feel loads better today.
I am glad that you managed to stay strong for your husbands visit.
It sounds asthough you have him weighed up!
I think these men think we were born yesterday!
It is a good thing if you can take some control of the situation. I hope that you can continue to do so.

Good that you are spoiling your dog. What loyal creatures dogs are!
I hope you are having a nice evening?
Take care xx

Good morning all.
I hope everyone will have a good day whatever you are doing.
It is bright here but chilly.

Happy Birthday to Kirk. I hope you have a lovely day.🎂🎈🍾🍹💐🍷
xxx

Afternoon.
It's quite pleasant here at the moment. I've just taken the dog for a walk and kept nearly bursting in to tears all the way!
I was just looking round at everything and thinking how lovely it is here and I'm going to have to leave. My brother offered to lend me some money to buy husband out of the house so I can stay but I think a fresh start in a new house is probably best.
Hush you asked a while ago how long we were married. It would have been 12 years this year. God only knows how you are feeling after 30 years of marriage.
I just feel so sad again, sad and lonely. Weekends are the worst. They stretch ahead of you with nothing to do, nowhere to go and no one to speak to. Think I must have been fuelled by adrenaline yesterday.
My daughter is upstairs revising so I'm not completely alone but it's not fair to expect her to keep me company all the time.
He text her yesterday afternoon to ask if he could speak to her and explain. She hasn't responded and said she doesn't want to see him after what he's done but I have told her not to do anything she may regret and not to say no just to be loyal to me.
Sorry that my posts are all me me me...but it helps writing things down. Hopefully one day in the not to distant future we will all be able to revisit this thread and have moved on with our lives and have found some measure of happiness.
Hope the rest of the day is a nice one for you all.

Afternoon ThankGod.
It is early days for you yet and I was more surprised that you held it together so well yesterday.
That is how it is, up one day down the next. Just when you think you are picking yourself up something or some feeling knocks you back again.
I have walked along sobbing with my dogs!
That is kind of your brother to offer to lend you some money so you could stay in your house. I dread the thought of having to move but maybe it is better in the long run to have a fresh start!
Twelve years is a long time to be with someone. Thirty years seems like a lifetime!
I find weekends the worst and so do other ladies on here.
It is good that your daughter is in the house even though she is busy revising.
I miss my sons so much. They are not that far away but they are not here. When this happened before they were at home and that made a lot of difference. The loneliness is a killer. Friday and Saturday were quite good as I went out with people whereas today I am here on my own again apart from the dogs. I have lots I should be doing but have not found the enthusiasm yet!
You type as many messages as you like if that makes you feel better. I certainly do!
I hope you manage to have a decent day and just remember it is early days for you at the moment. Try not to look into the future as that will do your head in. One day at a time.
Take care xx

Hi Hush and everyone!

I've got a few days off work so I've taken the pooch to sunny Scotland! We are going to go across to Arran on the ferry tomorrow.

How are you Hush? Xx

Hi WTAFF. What a good idea. I hope you and the pooch have a great time. Enjoy your trip to Arran tomorrow.
I have been to see my Counsellor today and it was good. My youngest is home for the night so I am not on my own.
I am still being driven mad by the adverse reaction to the face cream I used. I am taking anti histamine tablets now!
Enjoy your break away xx

Good morning all.
The sun is shining and I am trying to get motivated to start my day!
It would be nice to see more of my MN friends on my thread again.
You are still needed!

I hope that you will all have a decent day
xx☀️

Hi Hush - I'm just checking in. Off to Arran in a moment. It's a lovely day here too.

What are your plans for today?

It would be lovely to hear more from some of the familiar faces of old!

Xxx

Hello!
How are you Hush. Beautiful day here. The sky is all blue!
Have a lovely trip WTAFF. I'm quite envious.
Xx