Men who think they are only worth what they can earn

[Lovetruelove]

Just add your thoughts on this one!

In the last 3 years I have had 2 men ( creative types) who are very talented but don't earn a lot of money saying ( heard through other people) I don't think she would be interested in me as I don't have this and that ect.

I am not materlistic at all so can not see where this is from - is this a common theme with men - 'women only want us for our money?

I've always been invisible, so I've not noticed amy change now I'm mid-40s.

I think the two men given as examples in the op probably have low self-esteem.

I don't earn riches but I have had two relationships in which I was the main breadwinner. I wasn't really concerned about their income potential, although their attitudes to money did matter. Poor, even in debt (if managed), is fine. Financially irresponsible is not.

One of those relationships ended because as well as being the main breadwinner, I was also the main everything else. I became a parent much more than a partner, and completely lost all respect for my partner. Had he carried the non-financial load to equal the earning load I had, it would have been fine.

Unless you both want the trophy wife/alpha male type relationship (sexes inverted if desired), few relationships do well when their is an imbalance.

Perhaps married men will aim to cheat with any old bit of scrag but single men will hold out for youth and beauty...

This really isn't my experience at all through work and both seeing MM get having affairs, being hit on and seeing women get involved in affairs.

Married men have the security of their marriage so don't really care about getting knocked back. They will try it on with the most attractive women crossing their radar and keep going til they get a yes. This is why (IMO) it is so common for MM to end up in affairs with women who are (comparatively to the MM) super attractive and younger.

Because they don't really give a toss about getting rejected - in the way a normal run of things a person keen to develop a "real" viable relationship would be. So they feel free to hit on women who normally they wouldn't have a chance with and if you ask enough times, eventually you get lucky.