Should I say anything or just leave it?

[CarsonTheButler]

Hugely long-time lurker. Created account and would appreciate any advice.

Last evening I popped DH's coat on to quickly go to the car and found two tickets for an afternoon showing at the local cinema in the pocket. We've lived in this area for four months (and for one of those we were back in our home country for Christmas) , I didn't know DH knew anyone well enough out of the family to go to the movies with. Casually asked DH what he did with his day (he works from home most days, I am office-based) and he said "conference calls mainly and a stroll into town for a coffee this morning" and that was it.

I don't mind him going to the movies and would certainly like him to make friends in our new town (new country actually) so why didn't he just tell me what he has been doing?

I know, I know I should just outright ask him but am not sure I really want to know the answer. Been awake all night thinking of all the times he has been out and to be honest it isn't many at all, mainly he goes to running club which he walks to in his sports gear. He's been very chirpy lately. I just thought he was happy with our move but who knows now? Before Christmas I was away with work and DD mentioned he was out twice til after midnight. Didn't think anything of it at the time but now I am wondering. Any advice on how to approach this or should I just leave it?

Hope you're finding it comforting to have your sis there op

Hope you're ok, Carson, and sharing the news with your sister hasn't been too much of a jolt into reality.

How are you Carson?

I hope you're having a nice time with your sister, and that she's been able to give you some RL advice on it all

Hope everything is good with you op?

Hope you're OK Carson and that having your sister there has given you some support and space.

Thought this thread had disappeared as couldn't find it in "threads you are on" but here it is. Just to update for those asking- had a wonderful time with DSis- was just what I needed and I would never have thought of asking her over if it hadn't been for the people on this thread recommending RL support so thank you everyone

DH and I both agree we want to stay together and we think couples counselling could be useful so we're going to do that and see if it helps. DH now acknowledges the seriousness of what he did and how much he has hurt me, not only with his actions but also dismissing it all as "nothing" which tbh was almost as hurtful. We do have some way to go but this is a start. Thanks all xx

Best of luck Carson I hope you can work through this together

Wishing you the best Carson, sounds positive.

Great news. It sounds like he's recognised what he's done early enough for you to rebuild your relationship. Hope all goes well Carson

It's lovely to hear from you Carson. Best of luck working through it. You're much stronger than you probably realise.

Best of luck Carson

sorry your going through this OP - I'm so glad your both willing to go to counselling. You don't have to make any decisions - take the time to reflect and work through your feelings and what you want.