Contacted by someone claiming to be DH OW

[Glitterunicorn]

A woman has been contacting me over the last month on Facebook messenger telling me how my husband has been cheating me.

Everytime I have received the messages I seem to get immediately blocked or the profile gets deleted so I can't message back. I thought it was just someone messing about.

She has been really quite vague but I have managed to message this person this morning and get a response. She has sent a copied and pasted version of Facebook messages from my husband to her. It seems that he has been chasing her to meet up.

My husband is at work until this afternoon so I will speak to him when he comes back.
I wanted screen shots but she won't send them to me. Should I confront my husband without proper proof?

My husband does work away and the messages do correspond with when he was away last before Xmas.

Aargh I know I'd said I'd bow out but this is like a gruesome Agatha Christie murder (sans murder of course!).

Compelling.

I think FB stalking nutter as last poster page 16 (forgot name) could be up there friend of a friend who's insanely jealous. Of what I'm unsure.... But would appear marriage of OP etc. Hey OP you're not a Kardashian are you?!

I hope you get to the bottom of this soon. If it is the girlfriend there must be some way to catch her out. Can you find out anything about her? Have you told your husband you think it might be her?

This one is a real mystery!
One thing I can't understand is why the friend "Scottie" has this troll woman as a friend if he doesn't know her. If it is the GF who is actually the troll then it seems odd.
I hope you solve this one Glitter.

I think "Scottie" fooled around on the GF while away on business with the DH, or the GF strongly suspects he has been. GF set up a fake account to try and get Scottie to out himself. Didn't work. So now she is targeting his work mates to see if they will confess, sort of like "yes honey I cheated on you while we were in France, but so did everyone else!" Bit stupid, but if she's a real bunny boiler I can see how she'd think it might work.

As for 'Scottie' adding the fake profile. I know I leave my FB open and DH knows my passwords, he could easily go on an add someone and I would be none the wiser.

What doesn't make sense is why did the gf set up a fake fb account and befriend her bf? And why did he accept that friend request?

Unless the original fb profile was real. She did contact Scottie's gf but Scottie managed to convince his gf that the fb person had contacted the wrong gf ie 'oh the person that cheated that night in x place was OP's DH. He didn't want to give his real name so pretended he was me, blah, blah'

Original fb person deletes their account. Scottie's gf sets up a copy of it to befriend Scottie and to message OP so she can try to work out who is telling the truth.

I think "Scottie" fooled around on the GF while away on business with the DH, or the GF strongly suspects he has been. GF set up a fake account to try and get Scottie to out himself.

Yes, the above explanation is a strong possibility.
I know I said I wouldn't post again, but this just gets stranger and stranger
Or, the GF has (or had) something going on with the OP's husband, and she wants to anonymously let the OP know.

Either way, it all points strongly towards the GF having something to do with it.

Or, the GF has (or had) something going on with the OP's husband, and she wants to anonymously let the OP know.

Except then why harass an add your own BF?

I really think the OP needs to contact MTV and try and get on Catfish.

Why am I incapable of writing "and" today instead of "an." That's the real mystery. Urgh.

I would say sounds like your DH is more than likely innocent/not guilty of cheating. At first thought it was troll, but now am more inclined to think it's DH's work colleague and his gf. Very sad indeed.
Really hope you get to bottom of this OP

I'm really not sure what I think. Knowing my DH, if this was about him and he had that story, I would believe him.

Regarding the "mutual friends" thing: if OP became 'friends' with this OW's profile, it would show on her DH's FB as having 2 "mutual friends" - work colleague and OP. It doesn't mean that you are both friends with the profile, just that FB assumes you would only look at profiles of your friends, so tells you how many of your friends are friends with the profile you are looking at. If you go through one of your friend's friend lists (the word friend is losing all meaning at this point!), everyone on it should show up as having at least one "mutual friend" - being the person whose friends list you were looking through.
The way I read it was that the work colleague showed up on her list, which makes sense. If he clicked on the "mutual friends" tab on the colleague's profile, the OW would not be listed unless they were actually friends.

I can't understand why Scottie's gf would go to such extreme lengths, but people are crazy and inexplicable, so you really can't rule anything out. Do you know any techy people who could trace the IP address she's been sending the messages from or anything?

Reckon DH work friends gf was trying to catch Scottie cheating he cottoned on and accused her of setting honey trap. She then did same to your DH to deflect blame from her "oh look it must be a scam as he's been targeted too." She prob assumed you would mention it to DH who would then talk to his work colleague when they were driving round. As this didn't happen she prob sent the messages the other day when she knew your husband was with Scottie going you would ring him and he would then be forced to mention it. If it was happening to DH and Scottie Scottie would then stop suspecting honey trap gf and they would both blame troll.

Scotty/Scotch

I know a Richard who was Rich as a child and became Rick as an adult.

Now 30-something, most friends call him Rick. But many people who knew him as a child still call him Rich, including family and childhood friends.

It is assumed that because gf calls him Scotch that she is the only one who does. It could be an old friend of his (this is facebook after all) or family member maybe. I wouldn't assume that no one else calls him Scotch.

Oh and she probably got DH number fr Scotties phone overnight - funny how she suddenly had it. Pretty certain your oh has not been cheating

Did you ever get to the bottom of this op?

Just read the whole thread and I'm

fully expected this to be a silly spam thing right up to the point you spoke to 'scotties' gf. You seem very calm and level headed, but no sooner than gf contacted you (including the not so coincidental unfaithfull spelling/scoth namechange) you sensed it was her. It probably is!

Sounds to me like she's a hooker they both got involved with and for some reason she's causing them some trouble.

I don't think your DH has cheated. I think he is covering up for his friend who has though.

any update op?

Either its a cover or you need Nev and Max's help, because shit is getting weird.

I've just read through this entire thread and need an update!
How did you contact the friend's girlfriend op? Was it through Facebook or text? Are you sure it was her you were actually talking to. If for example the friend passed his girlfriend's mobile number over to you then it may actually have been him who was messaging you. Try ringing the number (from a different number) and seeing who answers.
The one thing that I can't get my head round is that Scottie/Scoth is still Facebook friends with a woman who's tried to destroy his relationship! Why? It doesn't add up.
It's making me thing that Scottie is the stalker troll and also posing as the girlfriend who you've been messaging. Is he jealous of your husband at all or could he have a secret crush on him?
I wonder if Scottie is also mutual friends with any of stalker trolls other friends.

Tali I agree! Nev would solve this in a day

Down Those two can solve anything.

I just caught up with this and what stood out for me was that the OP had a fast and open text response from DH's colleague's girlfriend, then woke up to more FB messages. Immediately I thought it was the colleague's girlfriend. A flurry of activity on txt and FB is not a coincidence.

The fake profile is hers. She has set it up to keep an eye on her partner because she doesn't trust him. Then she spreads her net..trying to rope in his colleague's and friends so she can further scrutinise her partner's movements.

Whether or not anyne is cheating is beside the point. The woman is unhinged and anyone who has the misfortune to cross her radar will be targeted.

This is about a very insecure and damaged woman and nothing to do anything you or your DH may have done.

If it escalates, think about going to police. There are laws against harassment and she is breaking them.