Contacted by someone claiming to be DH OW

[Glitterunicorn]

A woman has been contacting me over the last month on Facebook messenger telling me how my husband has been cheating me.

Everytime I have received the messages I seem to get immediately blocked or the profile gets deleted so I can't message back. I thought it was just someone messing about.

She has been really quite vague but I have managed to message this person this morning and get a response. She has sent a copied and pasted version of Facebook messages from my husband to her. It seems that he has been chasing her to meet up.

My husband is at work until this afternoon so I will speak to him when he comes back.
I wanted screen shots but she won't send them to me. Should I confront my husband without proper proof?

My husband does work away and the messages do correspond with when he was away last before Xmas.

at the style & beauty copy & paste 😂

I think it's the gf...I doubt colleague is in on it though.

I think the gf first sent messages to herself, to see how her bf reacted when confronted...now she's moved on to sending them to you, heavens only knows why!

seems as though the thread has moved on and you may know who it is, but this thread from a few months ago seemed very similar. Don't know if it'll help at all

1. Friends GF did this to him to test him, but it blew up. Why involve you and your DH then?
2. Maybe several people call him Scoth?
3. You're making this all up. Because as others have mentioned if she caused such a drama for Scottie and his GF why was he still Facebook friends with her?

I think there's a bit of a consensus that your husband is innocent, OP, which chimes with your own gut feeling, so take heart in that. You do have the option to just block this person & forget about it all, but I go understand why you'd want to unravel the mystery. People can be so weird.

I would send a message back along the lines of "oh yes, DH has admitted the truth to me about your affair. So now I know everything. But it's okay I forgive him. You and I don't have anything more to say to each other." And then block her.

Curious and curiouser

Just a thought, but maybe Scottie has been playing away, and he is trolling you and your DH to make it look like he isn't? [wanders off, scratching head .....]

Its amazing how this thread has changed. Going back to the first page, so many had the DH guilty. As judge, jury and executioner. Some rubbish advice there. Maybe in real life they are not that way, hope so ffs, for the decisions they make.

Like many MN threads, a lot of sheep come on. Not everybody. Probably not the majority. Just a measurable vocal minority. A thread starts in one direction, someone starts to look at it a different way, the tide turns, the current brings the limpet-sheep over to that side. Now it was never the DH fault.

Thank god for all those posters who are independent, never swayed, able to make and express their own opinion. Tate15, Any Fucker, Imperial Blether, Worra Liberty and others.

Maybe your DP has pissed Scottie off and he and his gf are in it together just causing trouble.

Aw, Silver, I didn't make your ass-kissing list. I'm so sad 😔

If people aren't persuaded by assimilating advice, thoughts, experiences & weighing opinions and narratives as the 'story' evolves, what's the point of posting or reading; may as well talk to ourselves in the mirror or howl into the abyss.

I'd contact the gf and say you know who sent the fb messages and you're giving her one chance to come clean and explain why.

I wouldn't explain how you know and I wouldn't even say that you know it's her. I'd just wait to see what she comes back with.

Shuffle up darth I'll sit beside you on the sad, unlisted bench

I do remember your name goodnightdarthvader. It resonates well. Couch, can't remember.

You have to admit though, there were some hanging judges in the early parts of this thread.

I agree sounds weird. So few friends,a stunning pic and only offering info available on his profile. Sounds like a kid, nut or scam of some type to me. I think you'll tell more from his reaction than any of the titbits you've had so far. I hope he's a good un.

The award for the most brown-nosed kiss-ass post I've seen on MN goes to silverfox.

Google you are just jealous. Its arse anyway. An ass is a donkey.

Silver, your fiver is in the post. Arf.

Thanks. But just for the record, I am not going to kiss you arse or your ass. I expect you have both. And an alpaca.

I would love an alpaca

They're just bonsai llamas, you know.

they're sooo cute

and probably very smelly. I couldn't have one sat on my sofa

I think his GF suspected him and set up a fake profile to trap him.

Maybe she thought that your DH and his friends are in it together and wanted to cause shit for him too. Or that she might dig up something on her bf in the process if you replied along the lines of "it wasn't my DH but Scottie"