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Contacted by someone claiming to be DH OW

424 replies

Glitterunicorn · 21/02/2016 09:50

A woman has been contacting me over the last month on Facebook messenger telling me how my husband has been cheating me.

Everytime I have received the messages I seem to get immediately blocked or the profile gets deleted so I can't message back. I thought it was just someone messing about.

She has been really quite vague but I have managed to message this person this morning and get a response. She has sent a copied and pasted version of Facebook messages from my husband to her. It seems that he has been chasing her to meet up.

My husband is at work until this afternoon so I will speak to him when he comes back.
I wanted screen shots but she won't send them to me. Should I confront my husband without proper proof?

My husband does work away and the messages do correspond with when he was away last before Xmas.

OP posts:
TooShyShyHushHush · 22/02/2016 21:23

Alpacas are overrated AF.

Or maybe I'm just bitter about that bastard one that bit my nipple through the fence at the farm.

They claim he was aiming for the pack of polos in my shirt pocket but I'm not so sure.....

SuperFlyHigh · 22/02/2016 21:25

I am wondering why or how someone does this in the middle of the night so I'm going on premise it's a nutter...

I do think also there are some but not many psycho stalkers out there, usually there's a reason for their twisted games. And some women or men can go a bit mental if they think an affair is happening. Not justifying it.

I do think something is going on here though maybe her the woman's partner (the one who has contacted OP) is having an affair, maybe both blokes have played away...

Also the phone number, people don't have to provide them ASAP, so any of one of you here who was asked for their mobile number over Internet by someone they hadn't met and who could harass them back (eg if woman here was OW) would happily hand their mobile phone number over immediately no questions asked?! I wouldn't that's for sure.

AnyFucker · 22/02/2016 21:26

Yeowch ! Is it still attached ? {the nipple, not the alpaca}

loveyoutothemoon · 22/02/2016 21:27

Frustrating that people are joking around on a serious thread!

silverfoxofwarwick1952 · 22/02/2016 21:31

I started it. But I am going to behave now.

TooShyShyHushHush · 22/02/2016 21:36

Sorry.

(and yes, thankfully it is AF)

WonderingAspie · 22/02/2016 21:39

Hmm, the same mispelling and the same unusual change of name would make me inclined to think it was the GF. Big coincidence if not!

Sounds like she may have issues with being a shitstirring trouble maker.

TendonQueen · 22/02/2016 21:47

SuperFly OP didn't ask for this person's mobile number. She asked them to give her DH's mobile number as proof of them having had a thing. Person troll delayed and said they didn't have it at first, then later popped up with it. I call bullshit on that alone. Replying straight away with either the DH's actual number, or a totally different number (which would indicate that he had a secret phone) would have been more plausible. As it is, troll clearly panicked, made the crap excuse that they didn't have it, then went and dug it up from somewhere and went 'whoops, said I didn't have it but I DID, just forgot!' Probably in an Eddie Izzard comedy voice. Just not at all credible. But it's not a situation where someone has asked for someone's own number and they've understandably hesitated.

Twinklestein · 22/02/2016 22:00

What an enormous pile of horsepiss.

MrsBlimey · 22/02/2016 22:02

Sounds like the whacky GF to me. Sorry if someone has already mentioned this but can you access her profile and see a) how she's spells things and b) whether she's ever checked into places similar to or close by these so-called work events?

BigQueenBee · 22/02/2016 22:03

If I had received a message from this woman I'd have tracked her down in 10 mins max!
Call her bluff and tell her you are calling the police for harrassment.

SuperFlyHigh · 22/02/2016 22:10

Tendon you're right I've just read back it wasn't OWs number OP asked for.

Apols everyone as I have chronic back pain from Friday (yay me!) and tired beyond belief and this tale has more twists and turns than a maze then I'm bowing out. Hope it all gets sorted OP.

SuperFlyHigh · 22/02/2016 22:11

BigQueen before I go.. How could you track the woman down in 10 mins max?! OP has already stated changed user names and god knows what else thus foiling her detective plans. How would you be much better at finding out pray tell?!

RebootYourEngine · 22/02/2016 22:12

I would do what a couple of people have said and tell her that you are reporting it as harrassment.

SuperFlyHigh · 22/02/2016 22:12

And based on what officer.... Oh changed user profile names. I think PC plod would tell you to go and waste someone else's time.

BigQueenBee · 22/02/2016 22:17

Sorry Super, I hadn't realised she had changed names. I'd go by name number one perhaps.
I think if this woman really thought OP's hubby was playing the field she would not have gone to great lengths to chop and change her identity.
My hunch is that is work related.
Get it logged on non emergency , put it on the back boiler and carry on regardless.

MrsBlimey · 22/02/2016 22:20

Tell all parties concerned that you're reporting it as harassment and that the police will be obtaining the IP addresses from FB and/or that all devices will be seized for forensic inspection and then watch their reactions....

ChasingPavements · 22/02/2016 22:39

Maybe Scottie's GF slept with the OP's DH?

Buzzardbird · 22/02/2016 22:43

Humph! Thank you for leaving me out Silver :( (Not sulking much at all).

ProfessorPickles · 22/02/2016 22:59

Must be Scotties girlfriend Shock this thread has baffled me! I was convinced it was just a troll but a stranger but now I'm thinking it's his girlfriend who has waited to get chance to go on her partners phone to get DHs number

dontpokethebear · 22/02/2016 23:19

Curiouser and curiouser.....
Definitely nutty gf.

Twinklestein · 22/02/2016 23:22

I don't think it's the gf that's nutty.

ChasingPavements · 22/02/2016 23:40

So Miss Marple (aka Twinkle), who do you think is the nutty one here?

houseHuntinginmanchester · 23/02/2016 01:35

I just read this and remembered a time when I got some really weird creepy Facebook messages from a psycho someone, who seemed to know a lot about me but in fact was all gathered from my Facebook account. Ie friends, my sisters name, schools etc. They then moved on to emailing me from various email addresses, and told me that they knew so and so who thought my dh was hot and had pictures of my dh having an affair and they would send them to me.
I opened the next email of a picture of my topless and smiling dh taken by my own fair hands in two different locations !!!! I never replied and they never got back in touch and that was the end of that.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 23/02/2016 05:40

Just a thought, but maybe Scottie has been playing away, and he is trolling you and your DH to make it look like he isn't?

I was wondering the same.