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Do you know if you're having bad sex?

550 replies

FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 30/12/2006 14:52

Odd conversation with someone the other day... if all you've ever had is bad sex or sex with one person - do you know its bad? Or do you only realise when you get the good stuff?

OP posts:
Judy1234 · 31/12/2006 16:17

I could write you a checklist of components of good sex.

fullmoonfiend · 31/12/2006 16:19

go one then!

I can think of the very obvious...

DeepPann007 · 31/12/2006 16:32

ROFL at 'women over 40 etc'!! As a man over 40, I know this is not the case.

And some/a lot of women 40 or over are just so damned sexy anyway!

PeachysaysBlwyddynNewyddDda · 31/12/2006 16:35

fmf that would depend on the friend.... i used to haev an excellent shagmate (mant moons ago), mind you the fact that he looked like a model helped . Partner wise he wouldn't have cut it because we had little in common besides attraction (and really, there's only so many mini rallies you want to attend- take that from me LOL) but it was an excellent stop gp, far better than I imagine a few one night stands would have been, we only ended it when I met xp

fullmoonfiend · 31/12/2006 16:39

my dh is 46, unfit, unhealthy and still going strog and I refuse to give up sex before he does...anything he can do, I can do better

fullmoonfiend · 31/12/2006 16:43

ah yes Peachy, I should stess the platonic bit. we had been friends for years and though I found him handsome, there was no 'frisson' and he came up to stay with me, and we had sex because I felt he expected it, and I'm a good hostess and it was dreadful...just dreadful.
Whereas, I have had the odd F*buddy in the past....

Judy1234 · 31/12/2006 16:58

..it depends on what you like doesn't it? I'm not sure I can generate a universally applicable list. Some people's best sex takes 2 minutes because then they can get to sleep and it's a nightmare if he wants to do anything interesting.

Obviously my memory is very hazy as I'm divorced and over 40.... what should we start with?

  1. First of all he's able to sustain an erection - don't take anything for granted in that area.
DeepPann007 · 31/12/2006 17:04

"and still going strog"

Now, FMF.....go on......how does he do this???

suzycreamcheese · 31/12/2006 17:22

like education it can be wasted on the young..am about to join the 40's soon and am having the best ...yet...

suzycreamcheese · 31/12/2006 17:26

deeppan ..are you not becoming deep throat? he was a man too..forget who now, it was revealed now will ask dp.

WideWebWitch · 31/12/2006 17:29

OK, I'd add to Xenia's list

  1. He has to have a dirty look in his eye
  2. He has to be confident
  3. He has to be considerate
WideWebWitch · 31/12/2006 17:30
  1. He has to know what he's doing
WideWebWitch · 31/12/2006 17:30

Sorry, I'll stop now!

PeachysaysBlwyddynNewyddDda · 31/12/2006 17:37

Not sure about No.5- have some good memories from teaching DH LOL

although there's a difference between virgin and totally uneducated natch, and uneducated Dh wasn't!

suzycreamcheese · 31/12/2006 17:38

wickedwitch..you've said it all really

suzycreamcheese · 31/12/2006 17:41

dont forget a dirty mind and sense of humour and just add water...hey presto

DeepPann007 · 31/12/2006 17:46

suzy - as tempting as deepthroat would be, am conscious of other's finer sensibilities, and the lasciviousness being attached to (poss. the only?) single male poster on this site......still tempting though!!

fullmoonfiend · 31/12/2006 17:51

Pann, am i not allowed to let a few literals slip through in my excitment? (fnar fnar)
God, you're so anal

WideWebWitch · 31/12/2006 17:52

Well, sure Peachy, the odd inexperienced one's ok, absolutely, y'know for variety (not now, obv, am v happily married woman)

fullmoonfiend · 31/12/2006 17:56

6: stamina
7: good tongue muscles
8: The ability to hear and understand the word 'no'!
9: The ability to breathe through his ears
10: The ability to stay awake long enough for a wee cuddle/cig/cuppa tea/joke/chat whatever afterwards

Judy1234 · 31/12/2006 17:56
  1. I would put pretty high up the list that he has no problems with mess of any kind. It's a good test of people's sexuality - the uber hygiene brigade whose potty training went wrong v the relaxed like the body and all its products type...

Anyway out to meet a man (there will be no sex though). I am wearing iron knickers of course.

DeepPann007 · 31/12/2006 17:57

It's been said before...........

I was on a roll! Will stop now.

fullmoonfiend · 31/12/2006 17:58

and you like ironing

tell me about your childhood.....

DeepPann007 · 31/12/2006 18:01

Feck off dear.

CaptainFlameSparrow · 31/12/2006 19:25

"we had sex because I felt he expected it, and I'm a good hostess" gotta be quote of the week

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