I did it. Hes been arrested

[Means2anend]

Just need to talk i posted a while ago about abusive boyfriend. He slapped me a few times tonight in front of our son and i called the police and hes been arrested. Ive never reported him before but i just knew this was my chance to get out.
So the police have just left and advised me to stay in a hotel tonight till the dv people can call me tomoro.
I just needed to tell someone, ive got no friends and dont want to tell my family right now.
Any advice on important things to do/pack now and what to do going forward would be good if anyone can help

Good news about the wedding freedom fund your parents have for you. Don't worry about soft play, children have tantrums etc there all the time.

Block SIL number if she's upsetting you.

Bloody well done lady.

Well done you.

You don't have to tell potential LL's that you are claiming HB by the way.

Hi OP, just wondered how you are doing? I was watching your thread and I hope that you and your son are now safe and settled.

Hi guys, sorry for not updating, i lost my thread and didnt realise there is a search function!
We are doing great! Ended up in the hotel for a week and have been with family since. Should be signing a tenancy this week on a lovely bloody expensive house in a good location.

Honestly i feel amazing, me and ds have done more fun stuff together in the past month than we had in 3 years! Ex is being very reasonable and calm and says hes changed bla bla bla, i hope for our sons sake he has but im well aware that he is probably only being so nice because he thinks he can win me round.

If anyone reading this is in an abusive realtionship and you want to leave, you WILL be able to do it. There is help out there and you can change your life. You might not be ready to leave yet but you can start taking small steps towards putting things in place so that when your time comes you are ready for it.
Yes, it is hard but from my own experience it was a hell of a lot harder living, and trying to raise a child, in an abusive relationship.

I am so happy to read your post. I am really pleased that you and your son are settled and happy. Best wishes for a great future.

Fantastic update! Yay.😀

Thanks for the update... I'm a bit of a lurker so haven't commented before but, I'm so pleased that you are OK and everything worked out for you! Great news OP!

Good for you

Brilliant op

Fantastic update, so glad you're doing well.

lovely update..Glad things are going well

It's uplifting to learn that things have gone so well for you since you posted here, Means, and I hope your story will encourage others to leave abusive relationships, especially as they too can turn their lives round in double-quick time just as you have done.

I'm sure you're aware that your ex may revert to type when he realises that his charm offensive isn't having the desired effect and I would suggest that, if your ds has been having contact with his df on a regular basis, pickups/handovers are conducted in the presence of one or more of your family members either at their home(s) or at your new home until such time as you can be reasonably confident that he's found someone else to oppress ceased to be a threat to you.

Here's to the day you sign the tenancy agreement and for your new house.

Good point, goddess - though I'd arrange for the handover to be in a public place iiwy. Don't drop your guard eh.

Wonderful update op - rah rah!