I want to believe him

[icklekid]

So yesterday eve I got a very odd text from dh

"Hi babe what flat do I need to buzz? X"

I rang dh immediately and said I was confused about the text he just sent he said he hadn't sent a text and was driving home not far away. I said fine and he said is everything OK? I just told him would talk about it when he got back.

I have 18 month ds and am very early stages of second pregnancy. At the moment I'm struggling to keep any food down and crippled by exhaustion so 2 days of looking after ds (work part time) have been very tough. Anyway I bath ds and get him ready for bed. Dh comes home doesn't say anything about it and puts ds to bed.

I go downstairs and wait for dh -when he comes in I show him the text and say that I don't understand. He says I can see how that would upset you but I promise it wasn't me who sent it. I'm in tears saying that I don't understand how it can't be him!! He has been late back from work every night this week but work is also hell for him at the moment and he's commuting long distances.

Help I don't want to believe he's cheating and he says he would never risk what we have but what other option is there?

Oh dear OP, I'm so sorry love...he is lying.

oh OP I hope you are ok. sounds awful and he is sounding massively manipulative. I rekon that he is soo used to texting you that he accidently/subconsciously text you and then thought oh shiiiit! Now covering his tracks. Be calm and collected he is the one in the wrong.

Yep just to say am suffering from Hyperemesis so in and out of hospital. Have had to leave this until I am physically well enough to deal with as just not well enough to know what to do. I know he's lying. I think he knows I know. When I am well enough will deal with it. Thanks for all the support

I am so sorry OP and hope you feel better soon

I hope your husband is thoroughly and completely ashamed of himself.

Take care of yourself.

It really beggars belief that your H would put you through this while you are suffering from hyperemesis. Just 'working late' would have put quite a strain on you. Cheating on you while you are are in this state demonstrates no morals at all. You must look at him and wonder who he is.

Hope you feel better soon OP.

Ah that's really crap. I hope you feel better soon Op.

Oh OP I hpe you feel better soon

Lots of love OP.

hope you are better soon OP

Agree with Hillfarmer, it makes his behaviour even more despicable given what you´re suffering. Hyperemesis is awful. I hope he´s making the effort to be supportive and that you´ve got friends and family there for you too.

You def need to get yourself better before you deal with his bullshit. Were you also ill with your 1st pregnancy?

Take care and here´s some cyber ginger cake and mint tea

Seriously though...I s´pose you´ve tried ginger capsules with no luck?

Sorry Hun I think it was him. Best advice I can give is follow your gut instinct. Play it cool and keep an eye on the little things.... Good luck xo

There will always be something that stops you confronting the truth. I know because I have been there. I know from experience that this will open the door to him shoving this under the carpet. You on the other hand won't be able to and then he will turn it on you.
If I had my time again I would get rid now.
You can't pretend it didn't happen.

Still ask for the bank records. It could be worse than you thought.