Step inside the dating thread, 95

[MissPiggySeeksFrogwithGSOH]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
   
2. Develop a thick skin
   
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
   
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
   
5. Trust your gut instinct
   
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
   
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
   
8. If it's not fun- stop
   
9. Loo update is mandatory
   

10. No dating the thread
11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

[JollyXmasJumper]

Yep Waving and Folk, "hey, how are you?" Is pretty much all I have came up with so far haha. But I still think somehow that will not be enough to make him forget the needy nice girl and remind him of the sassy one I was when we first met Jekyll and Hyde, moi?
TooSassy sounds like I need your help, haha!

[HandyWoman]

Sorry sunflower MrIT also in his initial text today mentioned somewhere I walk the dog which is known for dogging (apparently) after dark. He asked me if I went there today before asking if I'm around. Very clumsily done. I see now he probably meant am I around later for a chat! But I took it the wrong way. Oh God my barriers are so high nobody can get thru!!!

(Rant over). Sorry sunflower

Am pissed off though! What's the matter with me!!!!!!!

[sunflowerblue]

Why are you sorry? I'm lost!

[sunflowerblue]

Barriers are there for a reason though. Did you reply to him yet? If yes laugh it off. If no, deep breath and let the barriers down a tiny bit and see what happens....

[BornToFolk]

Hmm, Jolly any in-joke you could reference? How did you start off, maybe go right back?

Handy I think you are right to be wary and have barriers but it sounds as though MrIT is just being a bit clumsy and forgetful.

sunflower I can see why you are concerned. I mean we all have these "would this work long term?" kind of thoughts about someone we're dating but to voice them on the first date is a bit much! Will you see him again do you think?

[HandyWoman]

Oh god. I totally threw toys out the pram!

Am now sitting down with and

Yeah he was stupid to mention the dogging place and ask whether I'm around etc etc his reaction to my text was to phone me! As I was dishing up dinner for my dc! Again without asking. I rejected the call and explained that it wasn't a good time etc. He needs some guidelines about what kind of phone contact is ok. I'm not actually up for nightly phone calls pre-meeting. If that's what he meant. Builds a false sense of intimacy. I think he's just being s bit keen and getting it wrong.

BUT his text did say sorry and hope I enjoyed my run. I'll text him back telling him I put 2+2 together and made 5. And set a quick date for thurs eve and tell him that nightly phone calls are not ok right now. I used to do nightly phone calls with Mr2015 and even that (11 month relationship) was a bit overkill with job/kids blah blah....

OMG I think I'm actually a MAN

[BatshitCrazyWoman]

OMG I think I'm actually a MAN

You almost made me spit my tea over my laptop, Handy

[314Chart]

he sent another text at about 5 and I responded. he said he was busy and and asked me a question too. he suggested a day to meet up and I said I couldn't do that day (true) and I suggested two alternatives and he picked the closest day. But again, I sent another chatty text after we'd sorted out our next date and he hasn't responded to htat. My friend told me to google reassurance dependency. she's american. she told me I am reassurance dependent. Is that bad!? I guess it is, especially for me!

[314Chart]

Just quickly googled that, and whoah, no way am I like that. i'm not depressed. i don't allow randomers to negatively evaluate me!

I just would enjoy it more if there were more of a back and forth going on.

[314Chart]

handywoman! I'd hate somebody to ring me before we'd even met! I don't want anybody on either side to build up false ideas of who they're about to meet.
Yes, batshit, he was busy at work, don't want to out him, but yeh, bizzybizzybizzy and I know how they day can run away with you. I know that and I'm not even BUSY

[HandyWoman]

On another note. Very hot BumbleMan is messaging aplenty. And is FUN! We are off to a flying start with the sarcasm and he is now starting to get a bit naughty! SO MUCH BETTER than clumsy references to dogging places and unsolicited phone calls!!!!!

Weirdly very hot BumbleMan's location changes throughout the day. A bit like Happn or Tinder I guess. He actually lives much nearer than I thought earlier.

Ooh yey!!! will have to think of a name. Oh I so hope he is real..... My first message to him was about fake profiles, so it's not beyond my conspiracy theory to surmise that this has sparked a conversation with the douchebag at BumbleHQ...

[BornToFolk]

Oooh, is that two irons then Handy? Nice!

I've hidden my OKC profile and will probably do the same on POF. Starting to worry I'm getting over-exposed. You know when you see the same faces come up everywhere and think "oh god, you again?! What's wrong with you?" I'm starting to think that people might think that about me, so I'm going to hide for a bit!

[JollyXmasJumper]

Yay Handy! Sounds fun!

314 I think you have your answer there, he definitely wants to see you then. Which is probably the kind of reassurance you ultimately wanted with the more constant messaging, weren't you? Yay! Haha.

Shredding AND yoga practice both done here, now off to get some sassy inspiration from Ms Fisher's murder mysteries. I need to channel her to write that bloody text!

[HandyWoman]

Folk I did the same with POF and OKC for exactly the same reason.

Two irons - yes!

[sunflowerblue]

What is an iron?

[choccyfiend78]

Hey all,

Things have been quiet here for a while. This may be a stupid question but if you delete your tinder account then rejoin does it reset everything like people you swiped no to before? I'm thinking of deleting if it does as have reached the dregs and would like to reevaluate some of the others I may have been a bit hasty on

In other news, the kickboxing is going well and the teacher is lovely but way out of my league which is a real shame as I seem to have developed a proper schoolgirl type crush

Have been chatting to a guy on badoo (our local version of POF) and getting on quite well so hoping to set something up for my child free weekend this week.

Am going to trawl back now and see what I have missed

[314Chart]

jolly, thanks, i let myself off jillian today as I was doing a fast day (well, 700 cals). Anyway, tomorrow I'll do nmtz I think. When I want to re-establish contact, I don't go in with a question. That way, it's somehow less humiliating if you don't hear back..... I'd refer to something you both found funny that you saw today, or having been to a place you went to, or something like that. Basically, saying I@m thinking of you but in a less obvious, and more entertaining way.

I'd be like that too choccy, really hasty at first!

[BornToFolk]

Yeah, Choccy it does. Although I've found the "nos" tend to come back round anyway. But deleting your profile and re-doing will mean that everyone is up for grabs again! Including people that you have previously matched with...

[choccyfiend78]

Thanks folk I'm not too worried about the nos but there may have been a few I swiped past in haste that might be worth a second look

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

Sunflower an iron is a potential date, it comes from 'having an iron in the fire'.

I'm just checking in before this thread finishes, it certainly was quite a weekend for me last weekend. Did I mention crazy Nottingham man actually sent me a video of him wanking? Didn't watch it obviously, but why would anyone think that was going to turn me on?

Anyway, I have a very full on weekend coming, am seeing 30 on Friday night,** he's very sweet but I'm just not sure, his profile pics don't quite do it for me but I've enjoyed talking to him.

Then on Saturday night I'm supposed to be meeting Sparks. We've been chatting sporadically for ages but I think he's only really after a fumble.

On Sunday I'm meeting another main contender London, we've been chatting loads and I'm just mesmerised by his mouth-it's just gorgeous . He keeps telling me all the right things but I'm trying to play it cool for now, after being totally suckered in by Teach.

I don't think T2 is going to happen, he is basically just after sex but can't be honest about it which just pisses me off. But I might keep him on the back burner in case I get lonely on a child- free afternoon.

I never did hear back from Geek so he's gone. I don't know what the fuck is wrong with people, surely it takes all of 10 seconds to message and just say no thanks?

I've got a few others I've just started chatting to, but it's all just friendly at the moment so who knows? Nice to have a few irons though. I'm just keeping it cool, and remembering rule 4!

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

Apologies for formatting fail

[RedMapleLeaf]

I think I'm flabbergasted at that video gast! Why??