Step inside the dating thread, 95

[MissPiggySeeksFrogwithGSOH]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

Thanks for getting the wrong end of the stick....if you dont want to get hurt, those are the things you avoid. It is not judging. It is protecting yourself form the kind of disappointment you now face. And if you dont want to get hurt, you insist on something real before you give them anything....a lesson I have learnt the hard way.

That is all.

Ok, apparently I'm not done talking about this quite yet...

When did I say he'd hurt me? He hasn't. He backed off before things went too far. I am comfortable with the things that we did and have no regrets. Yes, I was disappointed that things didn't go further and yes, I would be upset if I messaged and he didn't respond, which is exactly why I am holding off. But I am glad that I "met" him and I don't regret anything and I still don't think he lied to me. So there.

So there.....

Spoken like a true 6 year old.

I was going for 3 year old actually, I even stamped my foot and pouted...

Okay. So. Got chatting to someone on ZOOSK. God I hate that app.

Offered to take it to Whatsapp (due to aforementioned hatred).

Next thing I know he calls!! Talk about forward! Was slightly

So. Anyway, he sounds ok. He has two kids almost exactly the same age as mine.

Has been separated a year - not long hey - said he caught his wife cheating. Who knows. Works in IT. Lives pretty near. I'll say there'll be a date. I have a iron!!! An iron!! Happy enough with that.

I've got AN IRON!! I guess he'll be MrIT.

How is everybody? Well we know how red is

314 have you heard from h?

waving have you heard from Soho? Hope the visit from mum wasn't too bad.

gast eloquent and Dee hope you're doing ok....

Yay, Handy, an iron.

I have two - Running Man and Mr M - still chatting/talking about dates at the moment, but happy enough with that for my first day.

Hope everyone's okay - where is red?

red is with her chap again

Yes I'm sure Red's man was due back this evening.

I'm ok, been chatting with another iron tonight, can't think of a name for him yet but I'll update tomorrow.

No handy, are you shocked, I haven't heard from H. It's not even hurtful. It's just a bit underwhelming. We slept together for the first time last night/this morning and he can't manage ONE text today. I know he was driving to see friends. I did send one quick good night text. Because I know that this is NORMAL. I'm not doubting that I'll see him again, or doubting he likes me...... I know that this is just how he is.

Yes, waving I hope you're surviving your mum's visit.

Nothing from MrIT - am somewhat wary regarding his 15yr marriage ending only a year ago. But I think I need to start letting my guard down or I'll never get it on with anyone!!!!!! I like the fact that he's local, done a few miles lately in the name of dating. Am catching a super early flight on Friday morning. Just trying to figure out if a quick 1st date thurs eve after dropping the kids off is realistic? I am the master at packing too much into my week!

So waving I guess the butterflies are returning for Fri? Do you feel you are any further forward with Soho?

Lacoba I think re MrDiamond its natural for people to meet people and still be feeling their way about what they want. I did it with Cufflinks. If he's been honest that's all you can expect? Always good having more than one iron in the fire for this reason if you can find enough irons

Discovered a new connection on Bumble. I swear they are mostly fake profiles. Had three people with messaging that fizzled out on there. Starting to imagine someone at Bumble HQ holding fake conversations one bloke just ghosted for 6 days then piped up claiming to have been of a training course. I can not be arsed with penpals. Think I prefer MrIT's approach of just bloody picking up the phone!!!!

Rambling. Sorry...

314 I know you know what he's like with the lack of messaging. Have you heard from him today? After this weekend is it bugging you or starting to feel ok?? Must feel like a bit of a rollrcoaster.

314 are you alright? It's a bit off of H to not text after DTD (I get pissed off if my FWB does that - it's only polite to say thanks for a good time!).Hope he's just busy and will be in touch

Haha! I agree wrt the amount of fake profiles on Bumble. There a LOT of attractive, eligable men on there...hmmm

Nowt from Birdman. I'm not that surprised really, he quite often goes a day or so without messaging and we did leave it kind of weirdly on Sat...Anyway, I'm going with sending him a friendly message later this eve and seeing what happens from there. I am still going between "there's no chemisty, we should just leave it here" and "it's a slow burner, may as well get to know him a bit more". So, we'll see. If he suggests another date, I'd be up for it. He's good company and we do get on. Just a bit of a lack of unicorns and rainbows...

H did message me this morning. But even before it, I was cool calm and collected. Even yesterday. I expected no text if you know what I mean. But before he left we had a nice leisurely breakfast, he wasn't in a rush to leave. I know he's happy when he's here. He fixed something for me before he left. I'm so relieved that I know what he's like with texting before I slept with him. I didn't read anything in to the no text yesterday. I am aware I guess that he is disappointing me somewhat. What I want/need is a connection, a closeness. Not a succession of great dates.

Not going to react to these realisations straight away. I will go out with H later in the week. Process it all a bit. Because I do really like him. Wow. I do.

I feel ok about it, like I'm inured to his lack of texting now, but I'm left with the question ''is he right for me?''. I'm not tortured doubting he likes me. He does! I believe it. It's a compatibility issue.

Sorry to go on about it.

I would struggle with that too pie, good communication is so important to me.

I feel surprisingly ok right now!
It is more like, is this enough?

sorry to go on about it

The question 'is he right for me?' Is pretty central to the thread. You're not going on about it.

In the 1980s before mobile phones etc his communication would be within the norm. But times have changed and a brief 'I had a lovely time last night' or 'thank you for breakfast and a great night' which took me precisely 10 seconds to type, would now be considered the norm/polite/the ideal way to keep the home fires burning, I'd say.

314 you are not wrong to be pondering this - what did his text say this morning??

Is it the content also or just the frequency of texts?

Well we know how red is

Red was late for work and is behind with the thread, ridiculously happy and severely sleep deprived.