Morning all!
So, proper update from last night. Things were going fairly well in the pub, lots of chat but as I said, not really any flirting. So he offered me a lift home with the nice proviso of "you don't really know me, so I won't be offended if you say no". I accepted, then invited him in for coffee with the proviso of "I really do mean just coffee and you'll have to meet my mum cos she's babysitting". So we had coffee and more chat...and that was it. The evening kind of fizzled out. Not even a kiss goodnight. 
So maybe my warning was too strong!
I'm really not sure. He's nice, interesting, I fancy him but like I said, there's some kind of spark missing. I'm just not sure how interested he is in me. Maybe it's just a slow burner? As I said, I think I'll just see if contacts me. I wouldn't turn down the possibility of a 3rd date if offered but might ask him how he feels about me before then. Dunno.
If only I had a few irons, I'd probably just let it go.
Which brings me on to...MrEloquent (soz *eloquent but it really does fit him!) And sorry, this is going to be long....
We "met" on Tinder at the end of Oct. Hit it off immediately, really connected, had loads in common and things quickly got incredibly hot. He was clear that he wasn't looking for a relationship but neither was he looking for a hookup. 
He'd recently separated from his wife/partner.
So we had one amazing night of great sexting (I hate that word!) He is very eloquent and descriptive and filthy 
Then we kind of agreed that it wasn't going to go anywhere because we wanted different things. But he got back in contact the next day, saying he couldn't stop thinking about me etc and we had another sexting session and agreed to meet up in a few days, officially for a "drink" but both of us acknowledging that it would be more.
Then he went a bit quiet and I asked him what was wrong and he said that he didn't think that meeting up would be a great idea. He wasn't ready for a relationship, or even sex, and didn't want to hurt me. I really respected him for that, as although I'd made it clear that I don't do hookups/FWBs, we both knew that if we met up, we would have slept together.
I left it a few days, then sent him a message saying that I really liked him, that we connected in a way that's very rare and when he was ready for a relationship, if he wanted to get in contact, I would like that. He replied saying thanks for the lovely message and if he changed his mind, he would let me know.
Since then, I have messaged him once...long and complicated and stupid story but basically I thought he'd blocked me on WhatsApp, freaked out, managed to phone him but hung up, sent him a message apologising for the call, and he replied to say he hadn't had a missed call from me... Then I messaged him at Xmas to say Merry Xmas and hope he was well. No reply...
He's still on Tinder. I deleted my profile and reinstalled and he came up again, with a slighty different profile. So I swiped right. Then he came up again a few days ago, which I guess means he must have deleted and reinstalled his profile?
I am so, so tempted to message him now. I know I am being daft, we only messaged for a couple of days and I don't really know that much about him but I haven't had a connection like that with anyone since then. We got on so well and the "sex" was amazing. It just feels like such a waste to let it go. But then, he knows where I am, and he didn't reply to my message at Xmas...
Sorry for the epic "me, me, me" post. I really needed to get all that down and would appreciate some advice.