At what point do you confront.

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I feel sick. Found some messages on H phone. Pretty over friendly with girl from work.Arranging to meet her on Wednesday. I'm shaking. He's in the other room. Not sure I can act normal.

Another one, saying, so what if she is getting married in September, or flying to the moon, or planning on morphing into a seahorse...... The intent is to flirt & have sex with her.
He doesn't love & respect you. QED

I'm sure she has plenty friends - and regardless of getting married, they are both as bad as each other, if they have not had sex yet they sure as hell are going the right way to making that happen.

He's a cunt OP, he's completely broken your trust in him, regardless of anything physical, glad you are going home and getting away from him.

Sorry but I have to agree that marriage or no, his intentions are still all too clear. Hope you're in a safe place and have the time you need to gather your strength.

He's a horrible selfish bastard.

Good move getting some space for yourself. You deserve so much more than someone like him.

Are you ok OP? X

Wee update:

I went home to parents and had some space - after going absolutely light at him for the messages. He was very apologetic, contrite - nothing physical happened (which after showing me other messages I DO believe) - but he can see out of context how they must look.

The worst part for me was the talking about me to her - it made me feel sick.

He swears they are just mates. But will leave job and block and delete her if that's what it takes to make me happy.

I am back in the house. He is being very loving and attentive. There are other issues with myself which I don't really want to discuss but I am attending counselling and I can see why he would feel like he didn't want to stress me out anymore. I'm still not comfortable with the whole situation though - and I'm not sure how long or if I will get that feeling back.

Thank you for your support.