Aibu to be upset and shocked by this??

[livingtowork]

I'm staying at my boyfriend of 4 years and I've come on, I usually have more stuff with me but I wasn't expecting it until Monday so when he said he was popping to the shop to get sweets for his kids I asked if he could get me some tampons - he said he's never bought them in his life and never would - even for me!!! Its a crap area so he'd rather me walk myself to go and get them, his 12 yr old daughter said she would go with me but ffs, its tampons and this is the 21st century - I feel so sorry for his 2 daughters (although I am sure he would go and get what they needed!!) Feel like shit right now with a was of bog roll in my pants!!!! :-( :-(:-(

Thanks everyone, i''l go home tomorrow - my bil is babysitting tonight and having a movie night with my boys so i won't spoil their fun, it's not a great relationship by any means but i never thought a tampon would be the straw that broke the camels back!!! I think even my 17 year old would do it if I needed him to!

Let's imagine OP developed a cold. Her DP was going to the shops. She says "please can you pick me up a box of tissues?" Her DP refuses, and she has to go out in the dark in a dodgy area. Still think she's over reacting? Some of you have incredibly low standards.

Really, how can it possibly be a deal-breaker whether someone does your shopping for you?

But it's not that it was shopping. It's the fact that he refused to buy sanitary products. Why would he refuse?

for you op, please go home and don't go back.

Pip, did your boyfriend wear gloves before he handled your brassieres ?

what a pillock

what did he think would happen ? Death by foundation garment ?

"I did have a boyfriend who would get very funny about putting my bras in the wash at the laundrette. He'd wrap them in some other bit of washing first."

But his boxers were fine, I assume?

Any it wasn't the touching of them that was the problem if left alone he'd like a good sniff it was that someone might see him with it.

It's not the tampon, as you acknowledge it's what it represents

• he thinks having periods is shameful
• he can't put aside his embarrassment to do the decent thing for you
• he's not even sorry
• in fact he thinks you shouldn't have asked
• he's abusive

You say the relationship isn't great anyway so there's not much left to throw away

Poor you op

Passmethecrisps I love your DH's reasoning for buying the 'cotton feel' ones

Little things like this DO make a difference, maybe not enough to break up a 4 year relationship over but I'd definitely be making a mental note of it. How dare he be 'abusive' when he is in the wrong.

(Your Dad sounds lovely Milk )

Go home tomorrow and don't look back

My dh had a temporary stoma when he was ill, he had a few accidents at the beginning until he got used to it, it really turned my stomach but he has never known that. I helped him with it because when you care for someone you want to protect their dignity and make sure they are comfortable, this man does not care enough for you and you deserve better

That's not quite the same AF

He is an ex boyfriend I'd like to point out.

If dh couldn't buy me tampons I would wonder about his maturity levels. Would be a bit of a turn off for me I'm afraid.

He buys me them often, and thrush treatment without even raising an eyebrow. It's just not a big deal.

I wouldn't tell you to LTB for this alone, but being abusive to you? I would be going straight home. Are you safe right now?

Oh AF - I'm lying here giggling at 'spewing blood' etc... and he's lying next to me getting really mad at me laughing!!! What a nob :) hehe - I can't believe it's taken 4 years for me to ask for sanitary products, although I was a brownie so obviously more 'prepared' than I realised ;-)

Spewing blood.

I need to use this next time. DH buy me chocolate, my vagina is spewing blood

Does the 12 year old daughter have a nice supportive mum OP? I'm lying awake thinking of you both - bit at least you have the option not to have him in your life. I do hope he prioritises her needs over his own even if he can't put his selfishness aside for you.

I'm wondering if I must be an oddity, I've never asked anyone else to buy me feminine hygiene products!

Have you told him that MN thinks he's a nobber?

How have you been with this bellend for four years? Poor you, OP, love and

A Brownie would tell this pillock she didn't need him and get knitting her own sanitary protection

Or summat

Seriously, this bloke is a dick

I am 50 yo and menopausal

Currently my vagine is "spewing blood"

That may be tempering my responses. But I think they are appropriate, nevertheless

I asked my husband to get some tampons from the shops soon after we met. He came home very sheepish explaining he hoped he'd got the right ones. He wasn't expecting such choice but remembered his sister had the super plus ones so he thought they must be good but then at the till realised his sister had given birth twice so got all worried that they might not fit a lady without children so he went back and was relieved to find a variety pack

Spot on of course, AF. You and your spewy vagina are wise.

He sounds like a bell end tbf. What if you'd just had a child & needed pads. It's not like you asked him to get them now for when you need them a week on Wednesday or what ever, I've actually rang brother/dad/bf's b4 to say "massive period. Need super plus asap" & none of the men I know or have known have said anything about it, never mind no not now or ever.
I think it less about tampax and more about him being uncaring & childish. Would be the end for me

His poor girls - I hope he grows up sufficiently to help them, should they need it, anytime.