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Aibu to be upset and shocked by this??

270 replies

livingtowork · 09/01/2016 22:11

I'm staying at my boyfriend of 4 years and I've come on, I usually have more stuff with me but I wasn't expecting it until Monday so when he said he was popping to the shop to get sweets for his kids I asked if he could get me some tampons - he said he's never bought them in his life and never would - even for me!!! Its a crap area so he'd rather me walk myself to go and get them, his 12 yr old daughter said she would go with me but ffs, its tampons and this is the 21st century - I feel so sorry for his 2 daughters (although I am sure he would go and get what they needed!!) Feel like shit right now with a was of bog roll in my pants!!!! :-( :-(:-(

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Tiggeryoubastard · 09/01/2016 22:24

Not that clever to be threatened by a wad of cotton.

AnyFucker · 09/01/2016 22:24

My husband has been to the chemist and bought vaginal thrush medication for me. I wonder what your father would make of that, milk Wink

goodnightdarthvader1 · 09/01/2016 22:25

Milk, not sure what you're trying to achieve here. We'd all happily tell your dad he's an immature prick. If he's so concerned with being able to "wipe the floor" with the lot of us, that further shows that he prizes stereotypically male things, like strength and fighting, over simple grocery shopping for feminine products. Not sure how that was supposed to convince us of his superiority, to be honest.

Your DP also needs to grow up, along with your dad.

AssembleTheMinions · 09/01/2016 22:25

What clever point would that be Milk

Noteventhebestdrummer · 09/01/2016 22:25

Milk
All that really matters in life is kindness. One day you and your dad will know that.

AnyFucker · 09/01/2016 22:25

Them wads of cottom are bastards to be avoided at all costs

And fluconozole is like heroin

Or summat

Tiggeryoubastard · 09/01/2016 22:26

Clever point? Nah, sorry, I'd be too busy pitying his immaturity.

Snappingcrayons · 09/01/2016 22:26

Somebody has daddy issues. Stockholm syndrome?

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 09/01/2016 22:26

Honestly AF?

He'd probably have a heart attack 😄.

Tbh my brother grew up buying them no problem, so he can't be all that bad.

PandasRock · 09/01/2016 22:26

Milk, what would be so very clever about leaving a (presumably loved) female relation/partner uncomfortable rather than picking up a packet of sanitary items while you are at the shops? It's not even as though there was a request to go out of his way, just get something while already at the shops.

How on earth would such a clever man even begin to explain it?

eastwest · 09/01/2016 22:26

What GoodnightDarth said - I'd dump this one. Get a bloke who's less insecure and childish, and a better father to his kids.

SavoyCabbage · 09/01/2016 22:27

Drummer is right, it's about kindness. The boyfriend is going to the shop and he won't buy her something she needs.

BertrandRussell · 09/01/2016 22:27

"Tigger - I meant intellectually I suppose. He's a very very very very very clever man. And I don't doubt that he'd flatten the lot of us with one bloody clever point"

Struggling to think what the clever point he would make that would show it's the right thing to let someone you love go out to the shops with her pants stuffed with loo roll rather than buying her a packet of tampons...

MooPointCowsOpinion · 09/01/2016 22:27

My husband has always been fine with picking up sanitary products for me. When we were in our first holiday together and he was a very young 23 year old, I had awful period pains and he went to the chemist and bought me everything he thought might help.

My dad probably wouldn't. I dont think that shows him in a good light.

moopymoodle · 09/01/2016 22:27

It's immature but those suggesting the OP rethinks the relationship are extreme! OP if he's usually a nice guy I'd have a rant then let it go.

Heatherplant · 09/01/2016 22:28

My DH would wipe the floor with the lot of you THEN go out and but me tampax. Sorry, that should read wipe the floor for . . .
OP, have a word with him, bit odd he won't go buy you what you need.

AnyFucker · 09/01/2016 22:28

Your father sounds like a dinosaur, Milk

and they are extinct

nothing "clever" about that

ChicagoMD · 09/01/2016 22:28

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MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 09/01/2016 22:28

Daddy issues?

Why? 'Cause he is a clever bastard and we all just think we are?

Tiggeryoubastard · 09/01/2016 22:28

FGS milk don't tell him you can vote and drive. He'd be apoplectic.

PandasRock · 09/01/2016 22:28

FWIW, my uncle has had no problem buying them (well he did have a problem - he was worried he'd get the wrong ones!), and neither does my brother. My dh has never batted an eyelid either.

eastwest · 09/01/2016 22:28

I mean you've got to have some self-respect, really.

goodnightdarthvader1 · 09/01/2016 22:30

Bizarre, Milk. He's clever and is embarrassed about feminine hygiene. How and why are these two facts related?

shazzarooney99 · 09/01/2016 22:30

Some men wont buy them, why dont you just walk to the shop and get them yourself? i used to live in a rough area and work in a pub, so used to walk home at 12.30am/1.00am. Some men are different and thats it. I think next time just make sure you are stocked up!

MrsChrisPratt · 09/01/2016 22:30

How strange...my Dh buys them for me ask the time- they're just a normal, functional, household purchase, like loo roll, paracetamol, shaving cream etc. Would you have a problem buying him shaving cream?

What's wrong with him? What if you were sick?

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