Aibu to be upset and shocked by this??

[livingtowork]

I'm staying at my boyfriend of 4 years and I've come on, I usually have more stuff with me but I wasn't expecting it until Monday so when he said he was popping to the shop to get sweets for his kids I asked if he could get me some tampons - he said he's never bought them in his life and never would - even for me!!! Its a crap area so he'd rather me walk myself to go and get them, his 12 yr old daughter said she would go with me but ffs, its tampons and this is the 21st century - I feel so sorry for his 2 daughters (although I am sure he would go and get what they needed!!) Feel like shit right now with a was of bog roll in my pants!!!! :-( :-(:-(

Bogey - your post made me all teary. what a lovely man your grandad is/was. That truly is a real man.

Whatever I may say about XH - and I frequently do - when I miscarried he went straight out to buy, ok, the wrong things, but he did buy some. And he's terrible about "what people might think". (Still wondering, over 30 years later, whether he bought the wrong ones on purpose so he wouldn't be asked again, but on balance he probably just panicked and grabbed the nearest or whichever one he'd seen advertised.)

Flanj he really was :)

He also knitted a cardigan for DD when I was expecting her, he had learned to knit in the navy and loved making things for his great grandchildren!

Bogey your grandad sounds like an absolute diamond, the world needs more of him!

My DP would go and buy tampons without hesitation for me. He often went to get me maternity pads after having DD without even asking. But that's because he loves me and would do anything to make sure I am not in any pain, discomfort or distress.

As pp's have said, I don't think the issue is so much he won't go out and buy you tampons, but he won't pick up a simple household item to make you feel better. It isn't even going out of his way, and quite frankly, helping out your OH should always be in your comfort zone.

Bogey that brought a tear to my eye too. What an incredible man

I am amazed that Milk can imagine her DF to be such a wonderful guy - he's a 'big Maaaaan', a National Hero, who would rather his daughter (and/or wife presumably) walk at night to the local shops, even though he is at the shops for his own stuff, and refuse to buy sanpro when she needs it. Presumably because the sight of them in his hand would diminish his standing, in the locals' eyes.

Oh, but he would have a clever, knock-down, funny one-liner that meant we would all think he was, in fact, a great guy! And not, in fact, a jerk.

Milk - I really hope that was the wine talking, but if not, you need to have a word or two with your DP, if he is cut from the same cloth as your father.

Men who would refuse to help in this situation always seem to be the type who are so insecure about their masculinity that they think it would be diminished in some way by being seen with a box of Tampax. They're quite sad, really.

my dp collected from the chemist,asked the pharmacist what to do and administered a microlax enema for me when i was constipated when pregnant with dd2. now thats love!

I am completely baffled at why men would be so embarrassed to buy sanpro for their partner or daughter.

What exactly do they think other people/ the shop assistant would be thinking as if they cared? 'Oh, look, tee hee, he's a man buying a womanly thing, he must be, like gay or something'.

OP,nhavent rtft but hope you are sorted.

Hope the OP is ok and she's decided to run in other direction.

I can remember my dad getting mine for me. They used to put them in a brown paper bag at the till. Always thought that was drawing attention to the purchase. I will just hide these for you

I hope you are ok OP.

What a man LEM!

I suspect milk is feeling a bit bruised this morning.

though god, winning a battle of words is a no substitute at all for being a supportive and loving husband / father. Give me a sensible and supportive average-intelligence man over a bright dinosaur any day.

OP, agreed that this one's not a keeper. He's got some pretty weird ideas that tend to come with dinosaur-roles territory and making you go alone in a dodgy area is a shitty thing to do. It's not the mark of a genuinely caring man.

My old country Irishman relic of a father and even a male colleague at work have, on occasion, bought me emergency tampax supplies. My DH buys them every month when he does the shopping.

This guy sounds absolutely pathetic.

OP, hope you're out and safe today.

Milk, hope your head isn't too sore today. Your dad sounds like a prick.-

Hope you're okay this morning OP.

Milk, your dad sounds a lot like mine. Very clever, important job, bitingly sarcastic and bullying witty. And terrified of sanitary products to the point where as children we could not mention menstruation on pain of being beaten, all sanpro had to be flushed as having it in bins was totally unacceptable, and had to be kept in our underwear drawers, not in the bathroom.

As well as being an abusive, bullying shit, he was also a child molester.

My dh is 79 and cheerfully bought Tampax for our dd last week.
He was always willing to get them for me back in the day. He said it was 'just like buying toilet roll'!

I don't recall seeing a question about SanPro on the Mensa Test ...

Hope you're ok Op. My dh has bought sanitary products when I asked and also chocolate/wine/flowers at the same time. Our Mum left us for a time when I was a teen, so only had my Dad, who would ask me what I needed when we went on our weekly shop. He had no problem buying anything I needed in relation to this. I can only come to the conclusion the man's a prat and sounds quite childish.

Pocketsaviour

I suppose it stems from the 'unclean' women at that time of the month. They are shameful, should be hidden away from 'normal' clean, people, until the horror of their intimate bleeding goes away.

Dear god. People like milk's dad and DP, and the OPs DP are from the dark ages.

Op, that is how your DP views you. OK at all other times of the month, but not to be touched when you are 'unclean'.

Neither my dad nor my DP would bat an eyelid. I actually mentioned this thread to my DP and he was surprised that it would bother anyone nowadays.

Just asked DP what he would do in a period emergency situ. He replied that a) he'd done it before, didn't I remember? and b) it's that or replace the sofa.

Hope you're okay this weekend OP.

I think there are a lot more males out there who would feel embarrassed to buy tampons or pads than this thread suggests. I come from a family where it was never discussed, my mum never even discussed periods with me or took me to buy my first bra. I doubt we were the only family.

Will ask the husband his views, don't think it's ever came up.