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Aibu to be upset and shocked by this??

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livingtowork · 09/01/2016 22:11

I'm staying at my boyfriend of 4 years and I've come on, I usually have more stuff with me but I wasn't expecting it until Monday so when he said he was popping to the shop to get sweets for his kids I asked if he could get me some tampons - he said he's never bought them in his life and never would - even for me!!! Its a crap area so he'd rather me walk myself to go and get them, his 12 yr old daughter said she would go with me but ffs, its tampons and this is the 21st century - I feel so sorry for his 2 daughters (although I am sure he would go and get what they needed!!) Feel like shit right now with a was of bog roll in my pants!!!! :-( :-(:-(

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MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 09/01/2016 23:05

OP - I'm sorry. There is no excuse to be anusive about it at all.

Neither DDad or DP have ever been abusive about it.

PreAdvent13610 · 09/01/2016 23:05

living get two packets and some towels. He has a twelve year old who could do with some supplies in the house.
I do have to ask - why don't you have a stash at his place, you have been with him four years?
milk give your dad a Biscuit

DixieNormas · 09/01/2016 23:06

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livingtowork · 09/01/2016 23:06

Am actually really gutted - looks like i'm ok for a fuck but that's it hey? It means a great deal more than just buying something doesn't it? :(

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mineofuselessinformation · 09/01/2016 23:06

Tell him that you object to the shit that comes out of his arse and won't be buying any toilet roll in future, and see what he says then.

Sourpickledqueen · 09/01/2016 23:07

How awful for you op Flowers, can you get a taxi home at all? It doesn't sound a pleasant situation for you to be in. Sad

Christinayangstwistedsista · 09/01/2016 23:07

Go home

mineofuselessinformation · 09/01/2016 23:08

I'm not comparing the two, by the way. Menstrual blood is far cleaner! Smile

WinterBabyof89 · 09/01/2016 23:08

It's hard to believe there are men like this. Bizarre.

goodnightdarthvader1 · 09/01/2016 23:08

Milk, seriously? Your dad is national hero so let's ignore his bad bits? Your point about a person not being all bad may be a valid one, but you went about making it in a totally bizarre way.

Anyway, times have changed, and selfish immature buggers need a good hard look at themselves.

mineofuselessinformation · 09/01/2016 23:09

I'm not comparing the two, by the way. Menstrual blood is far cleaner! Smile

mineofuselessinformation · 09/01/2016 23:09

Sorry for double post - internet playing up.

goodnightdarthvader1 · 09/01/2016 23:10

X-post, what an ASSHOLE. OP, please leave :(

Epilepsyhelp · 09/01/2016 23:10

I cannot see how refusing to buy an essential item for your partner/daughter is in any way defensible, however fucking clever you are. It's just selfish and unkind.

OP your OH is being stupid, unreasonable and misogynistic.

Coconutty · 09/01/2016 23:10

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slev · 09/01/2016 23:11

I'm amazed at the level of over-reaction here! Really, how can it possibly be a deal-breaker whether someone does your shopping for you? Annoying, yes. Worth breaking up a lon-term relationship for? Absolutely not. Nobody's perfect, and to be honest I don't particularly enjoy buying Tampax when it's the only thing I need (so not part of a bigger shop) so I wouldn't blame DH for feeling the same way. I don't know if he's ever bought it for me or not, it's just not something I particularly register!

CFSsucks · 09/01/2016 23:12

What do you mean by abusive?

It's annoying but I certainly don't think not buying tampax is an issue worth throwing a 4 year relationship away for. I think anyone would be utterly ridiculous for doing so tbh. But being abusive, well that's different.

zzzzz · 09/01/2016 23:12

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BastardGoDarkly · 09/01/2016 23:12

I'd be out of there x

FundraisingPTABitch · 09/01/2016 23:14

Not a single man in my life has ever refused me sanitary products.

Not my father, brother, husband, friends, cousins, uncles, ...previous boyfriends, co workers. You name it, everyone has bought them for me.

My vagina explodes a lot.

Passmethecrisps · 09/01/2016 23:14

Who enjoys buying tampax? It's not popcorn or wine. It's a necessity needed in the home where there are women who are menstruating.

She asked because she needed and he was going shopping. He refused and is now being abusive because she had the audacity to even ask.

Not an over reaction from my perspective.

mintoil · 09/01/2016 23:15

slev I think you need to read the OP again. The bloke was going to the shops anyway. He went and refused to buy them for her, so she then had to go out herself, in a dodgy area at night, to buy them.

If that's the sort of shite you would tolerate in a relationship good luck to you.

Pipbin · 09/01/2016 23:15

He's being abusive? What a cock.

I did have a boyfriend who would get very funny about putting my bras in the wash at the laundrette. He'd wrap them in some other bit of washing first.

AnyFucker · 09/01/2016 23:18

OP hasn't asked her bf to buy her tampax cold

she has a vagina that is spewing blood

probably menstrual cramps as well

a few clots, maybe

this is an act of first aid

if she had sliced her femoral artery whilst carving the turkey, would he insist she went to the shops to staunch the flow herself ?

CarnivalBearSetFree · 09/01/2016 23:18

Go home OP and don't go back. He's obviously a gaping arsehole and you'll be well rid.