Aibu to be upset and shocked by this??

[livingtowork]

I'm staying at my boyfriend of 4 years and I've come on, I usually have more stuff with me but I wasn't expecting it until Monday so when he said he was popping to the shop to get sweets for his kids I asked if he could get me some tampons - he said he's never bought them in his life and never would - even for me!!! Its a crap area so he'd rather me walk myself to go and get them, his 12 yr old daughter said she would go with me but ffs, its tampons and this is the 21st century - I feel so sorry for his 2 daughters (although I am sure he would go and get what they needed!!) Feel like shit right now with a was of bog roll in my pants!!!! :-( :-(:-(

They might be embarrassed. Of course they might. But grown up people realize that sometimes you do things even if you are embarrassed because it's the right thing to do.

I'm sure some men/families have embarrassment about it or have never been asked before or feel too 'traditional' (whatever that means) to say yes straight away if asked.

But I would hope if their loved one was really in need or discomfort they would learn to look past that and get the stuff anyway.

For example if milk's dad didn't get some when casually asked that might be one thing (and I'm sure he is a very clever man), but if she was in dire need and he coldly refused that would be something else altogether.

'Oh, look, tee hee, he's a man buying a womanly thing, he must be, like gay or something'.

Because gay men often need tampons. I'd have thought it would be just about the least gay thing possible.

(Well, they might have female friends and relations, but I shouldn't think many gay men have been out buying tampons or pads.)

You make it sound like a Little Britain sketch, EB

Which of course, this scenario actually is

OP, we haven't heard from you today. Are you ok ? How are the cramps and how's things with the dickhead ?

Ok, just asked the husband about buying stuff and he gave me a funny look and asked why would he have a problem with it but that he'd just need to know the technical details.

I suspect my dad would have been embarrassed if asked to buy Tampax. But he certainly wouldn't have refused if I needed it, and there is no way he would get either witty or aggressive about it.

Oh, my dad would never have considered something so beneath him

But he is an utter twat so not surprising really

Just spoken to H and his only issue is that I would have to write down exactly what I needed, which is fair enough really, otherwise you run the risk of the Always/Tenalady confusion!

All ok here thanks :) I'm home, had a nice chat with my lovely 11 yr old DS and told him if his 'future' girlfriend has her period he has to be extra nice, buy chocolate etc. He was appalled by last night and said he would not have a problem buying Sanitary products - I love this little guy so much!!! He's going to have one lucky GF :) We are very close though (without being weird - we don't bath together or anything!!) I just don't see the big deal, still don't and am bewildered by the whole events of last night tbh

What do you think you will do with Mr Wonderful?

Personally I would never see him the same way again, he would certainly not be top of my "Must Shag" list.....

So, your 11yo demonstrates more maturity than your boyfriend

what is "bewildering" about that ?

So dodn't you have a proper discussion about it - are you going to?

I hope you told your boyfriend you were dumping him for being a sad twat, OP?

Your 11 year old sounds wonderful, congratulations on raising a lovely young man

Perhaps you should match your 11yo's maturity and show him that women don't have tolerate such hatred against them

Dear god. Boyfriend needs to grow up. Tbh are you surprised though? Someone who is this twattish about something like this is probably a bit of an arse about other things?

I'd be getting rid if it were me!

well to counter some of the sad stories on here - my father is also very clever, very important job blah blah blah and is now in his seventies

not only would he happily buy us sanpro but would happily stand in the shop discussing the pros and cons of various products (which admittedly is a little embarrassing when you are a teenager!)

As with Bogey - DH has said he would need details in writing to ensure correct thing!

OP I hope you bled all over his sleeping face before you left.

I dont know a man who wouldnt buy sanitary products. Hope my DD finds a man who'll happy buy them for her, otherwise I'll having words with him.

When I'm on my period, my DD will unwrap one for me, move the bin within reach and if need it, get the chocolate out the fridge for me.

My Dad is 78 and when his Ex Wife left him with a teen DD and DS he had no choice but to become acquainted with the ways of tampon-buying. He has no shame at all and when I was at Uni and was a poor student, he'd often turn up with a food parcel from Morrisons complete with tampons and lady stuff. Men his generation weren't raised that way and he couldn't give two shits.

DH is the stuffiest most Tory person I know. But, equally, will happily trot off and buy tampons if I need them. He gets embarrassed about the DCs talking too loudly in naice restaurants but has no concern standing in the feminine hygiene section at Boots and getting his sanpro on.

I have good guys in my life.

Perhaps you should match your 11yo's maturity and show him that women don't have tolerate such hatred against them

AnyFucker has nailed it again.