I agree with the posters who say that you should not read anything the silence of the other two women . I had a similar experience to you ,in that I lost one child while I was pg with another .
At the funeral , one women came up to me, in front of others , patted my hand and said " do you really think this is the right time to have another baby ? " .
The others present just looked shocked and quickly went on to talk about something else . No one, including me, took issues with her outrageous comment . That doesn't mean anyone agreed with her , just that we were so shocked we didn't know what to say .
Of course, now I wonder why I didn't say some thing , or ask why she thought that was ok . Or did she think I'd conceived in the week between the death and the funeral ? Or why getting an abortion would help ? Or indeed where she thought I could get one at four months pg ? Or what doctor in the county would actually agree to do one under these circumstances ?
No , I just stood there, wondering if I'd heard her correctly . I'm sure thats what the others thought . And what the other SIL and friend thought it your situation .
Even on here, several posters have said that they had to read your OP twice , because they couldn't actually take in what she has said, it was so cruel. Decent people find it hard to believe that anyone else could be so nasty .
It doesn't mean they agree, they were probably stunned into silence .
If I were you I woudo get my DH to contact her and say that given her views and her comment, she is not welcome at the christening