i don't know if i can talk about it here?

[panele01]

hello everyone,
i am new here and i don't know,i am not sure if i can talk about it here? i am 20 weeks and 4 days pregnant
,but i am having problems in my life right now,difficulties,complications

Ok Offred,thank you very much dear,Goodnight Offred,sweet dreams,good luck,take care,bye [santa]

so your stepfather done it? you poor thing, i really feel for you,if you want to talk we are always here.

No,it wasn't my stepfather who got me pregant,it was my friend,he is much older then me and the guy who raped me,was my ex-boyfriend

How are you doing panele?

Hi Panele, I'm another one just wondering how you are doing today?

Hello,awwwwwwww its so sweet,lovely for you guys to come and check on me,i am doing fine,i have been sleeping all day,i am still feeling sleepy and lazy

You are such a lovely people,i wish i wasn't at my mother's and living with such a nice people like you,i mean it

I'm so glad you've got some rest!

How are things today?

hmmmm......how to say,they are fine,i talk to my mother,but when i need to,when there is something i have to ask connecting with home duties ect,she acts ok hmmmm

Urgh, how irritating and uncomfortable!

Hi Panele. Glad you've had a nice lazy day. Keep talking if you want to, there's always someone about!

Yes,thats the way it is,my mother is 48 years old,she is strict,picky,tidy woman,she is a really difficult person,but it is good that we are not fighting right now after the argument,i don't know how long it will be and how things might change,since yesterday my mother's partner is in a bad mood,angry,don't know whats got into him,seriously,my family is not ok in their heads

Ok,thank you dear

Yes, walking on eggshells is not nice.

Do you have your own room so that you can retreat to your own space?

Just read the whole thread. What a tough time panele. I'm glad you're being supported by all the pp and also that your gp knows your circumstances.

Awwwww thank you dears,no it is not nice i agree,i am afraid i don't,i don't have my own room,i sleep on the sofa ,you see my mum's place its a flat,it only has two rooms i am sorry for a late reply i have fallen a sleep early last evening

Its still early,i will go back to dreamland,i think

On Monday support services should all be back to normal hours and you could make a start on finding somewhere to live.

HiPanel I'm sorry you're having such a shit time but at least you can post on here. Yes it definately sounds like you could do with a place of your own and sharpish. But I'm afraid I don't know how these things work.

Do you still ever see the baby's father or the ex that attacked you? Was he arrested after the rape?

Is English not your 1st language? Why would you want to report your family to the government?.........Sorry, I'm interrogating you! Just ignore me if I'm being too nosey.

I hope you get your own place soon, not just cos you're currently sleeping on a sofa but also due to the relationship you have with your mother and her partner. It sounds stressful and like there is tension there too. You'll be much happier having some privacy and somewhere you can call "my home" rather than dossing with your mother.

Hmmmmm.......english is not my first language,it is my second,i am from Lithuania,do you know where abouts it is?
It is ok,don't worry dear,i am really sorry for a late reply I am not in touch with my baby's father since that day when i've blocked him on fb,i had my reason why,its good that i don't see my ex who raped me,if i saw him,i don't know what i would do then I was the one who called the police after that night,the next day i have called the police,its a really long story,dear,he was arrested but then much later within the time i took allegations,report back because the reason that i still had feelings for him

Dear,i wanted to report my family to the government before,after the incident,not now

Offred yes,there might be,will be some changes,its 2016 hmmmmmm

OK, you are 28 and sleeping on your mother's sofa. You don't have a happy relationship with her.

You are effectively homeless. With things as they are, this wouldn't count for anything but you are pregnant. This means you're a "priority need".

First of all, make your doctor appointment. Please tell them everything - the trauma, the PTSD, your living circumstances, and ask for help.

Also go to your local authority (local council) website and find out how to register for social housing. Do this as soon as you can.

If your GP's good at their job, they should put you in touch with people who can guide & support you. Another source of good information is the Citizen's Advice Bureau if there is one in your town. Also the Council offices (they are often in the library, the website should tell you.)

And keep posting :) There's a lot of experts on Mumsnet - some of them will come & find your thread.

You can ask for things to be arranged in your first language too you know? CAB, the job centre etc they all have access to language line and they may have translators to work with you in person if there is a high Lithuanian community in your area.