i don't know if i can talk about it here?

[panele01]

hello everyone,
i am new here and i don't know,i am not sure if i can talk about it here? i am 20 weeks and 4 days pregnant
,but i am having problems in my life right now,difficulties,complications

If you struggle with the language barrier as well as everything else that is going on it makes things that bit harder.

I volunteer at CAB, we usually try and get people in to see our translator if we can, even when their English is good because we think it is better for people to be able to communicate in their natural tongue. If you struggle to register for things whatever the reason, and you have plenty, then it is worth seeing if there is someone that can help you.

Oh, Offred, have a large for CAB work! My county council has totally axed funding Proving hard to raise much indignation locally.

Sorry for the side-track, Panele.

Oh yes we are about to lose a lot of funding too. The volunteers will keep things together here. We have volunteer advisers who speak other languages common in our area.

Ok,thank you so much dears,you are helping me a lot,i will do that definitely,i am so sorry for delaying reply on here

How are you today? X

i am in pain today,i am feeling sleepy,heavy,tired,strange,i had an appoitment with my GP this late morning,today is a first day when i heard my baby's hearth beat i done a urine check up,GP said that i don't have no infection,the baby is growing,stretching thats why i am getting that pain for the pain she prescribed me parecetamol

Thank you so much dears for worrying,asking me and i am really sorry for late delays in reply

Hi Panele, it is very hard in a second language with the doctor. I know, I have the same problem where I am now. Please try to find the website about applying for social housing (a house for you and baby that will be free for you) on your local council website. If you don't understand something, post it here and someone will help. Also, talk to your doctor about the rape and ask them for their help with finding social services help. You need lots of help right now from the council/doctor. CAB means 'citizens advice bureau'. It helps people who need it for free, it helps them with translations into Lithuanian and the house problem. I think living with someone who does not believe you were raped is not good for you and the baby. If you don't understand the English here, please just say and we will write it another way.

Ok The0ddity,thank you so much dear,i don't really have a problem talking to my GP in english,i am serious,hmmmmmm.......my GP Is aware of the situation what has happened me,about the rape ect,all i have to do is mention about that again,talk again and remind the GP,they are so busy and they have lots of patients to deal with,they sometimes forget and everything is recorded,saved on my profile,all the evidence about me every-time where is a problem,pain ect all i have to do is call my Medical Practise,book an appointment to see GP if possible or i can talk with my GP on the phone when i ask receptionist to call my GP to call me back

I'm sorry,correction on my sentence =========> or i can ask receptionist for GP to call me back

No need to write in another way dear,i do understand English really well,trust me dear

My mother really gets on my nerves time to time,she is time to time concerned about my well being,about what i eat ect,living with her,life is like a nightmare some of the times,i was thinking before,i wish i didn't come back to her at all,but i couldn't do anything,the place where i have stayed was being sold that time,i was staying at friends place,i was homeless seriously,no the thing is its so embarrassing to talk about,i feel so stupid,but i have lost most of my documents,important,serious documents,while i was going,staying from one place to another when i was homeless last year,how stupid is that? Embarrassing?

Oh panele definitely not stupid, that's what happens when you don't have anywhere to live.

That's one of the many reasons being homeless is a terrible thing and why you need help.

Ok,thank you so much dear,my mother's partner is being like a perv,staring at me all the time,paying attention to me ect,god thats annoying,i am telling you my family is not ok in their heads if only i had my own place,i could just run away from it hmmmmm.......

Panele, this is awful for you. There is help. Did you find out if there's a CAB near you?

Please read this, too :)

I know,it is annoying and if i tell my mother,there might be some misunderstanding,argument ect,its not the first time when it happens,i did,i have info about it,i've got it from Croydon Reach,i don't know if you've heard of it? I don't know if i am allowed to use any names in here hmmmmm?

I am telling you my family is not ok in their heard,the only thing is good that i am not on the streets now in a winter weather,my mother's partner is in 40s,my mother is 48,this year she will be 48,but what it matters is me hmmmm

correction head

Yes! What matters is YOU and YOUR BABY!

Good to hear you're getting support info. Keep going!

Yes dear GarlicCake,i do,but i am so unhappy at my mother's

I have told everything to my mother this evening about her partner's behaviour,later she told him,but she was saying and giggling that time while she was saying it,she thinks that over react,that i think wrongly about his behaviour,that i talk nonsense,something like that hmmmm

Panele, have you used the Self-Help tool here? www.croydon.gov.uk/housing/optadv

Read all the links. Do not assume you won't qualify, even if they say you won't. Your residency status could cause a problem, depending on what it is, but your pregnancy will trump a lot of problems.

Also please speak to Shelter. You are homeless even though you're not on the streets. Shelter should be able to talk you through things.

Go for it! Good luck.

GarlicBake,no i haven't,i did't know anything about it,i am in too much stress right now,my mind can't even concentrate about myself and about the things that i do,its because i am at my mother's place,having to deal with all the house duties,i mean do them ect,my poor mind I don't know how much longer i will take it,i don't know about things in this website at all

I am registered on Help-Help Tool,while i was homeless i have tried few times to get a help from Croydon,Council,but they said that i am not eligible for Housing Assistance,i have a Housing Lady already there,i am Lithuanian,Eastern European,i have lived in London about 13 years,i have worked here,when i said that i am homeless and i live on streets they still couldn't help me,Shelters for a pregnant lady like me,i don't know,it doesn't sound like a good idea at all