i don't know if i can talk about it here?

[panele01]

hello everyone,
i am new here and i don't know,i am not sure if i can talk about it here? i am 20 weeks and 4 days pregnant
,but i am having problems in my life right now,difficulties,complications

I don't wanna be rude or nasty,I am really sorry,but i have to sleep now,the question is,how will i afford to get stuff for myself and my baby if i don't have no money???? Seriously,i don't feel like posting in here anymore,i am in a deep state of stress now and people just have a go at me everytime i post anything in here........i am really sorry,but i am being horrible,yes,its too much negativity in my life so far.......

Do i really have to answer questions now? If i don't even want to answer?????

goddessofsmallthings,excuse me???? I haven't missed my appointment today and i didn't phone to cancel it,why would i do that?????

You can hate me,you can think of me in a bad ways,but i see people get wrong things about me and there a lots of misunderstandings here.......hmmmm

If you check your posts on the previous page you'll see that you said "I am booked by my GP to do urine and blood test today thats all, it was booked for 17pm this evening".

I've taken "17pm this evening" to be either 5 or 7pm, or anytime in between, and as you continued post here during those times it seemed reasonable to suppose that you didn't attend your appointment which would have given you opportunity to ask to be referred to the midwifery service - which you assured us your GP would facilitate more than 2 weeks ago.

No one here "hates" you, no-one is thinking of you "in bad ways", and no-one is "having a go at you", but it's very difficult to understand why another 2 weeks has gone by without you acting on any of the sound advice you've been given.

What are you gaining from posting here? And why is it that you can post here at some length but can't make the one phone call that could change your circumstances for the better?

goddessofsmallthings,i have just said i am trying to sleep now and i have been questioned in here many times and you didn't get answers from me many times,maybe i don't wanna answer questions right now,didn't you think of that? Seriously,this is getting on my nerves now,i will stop posting in here for good,i am so sorry......

godessofsmallthings,what proof do you need to show you that i have attended that appointment today? If i said i did,it means i did,i don't lie and i wouldn't lie,seriously

So you went to the doctor today and had your blood and urine tested as part of your antenatal care or for some other reason?

This isn't an instant chat forum, panele, and there's no resaon why you have to answer any questions that are put to you immediately or at any other time, nor is there is any reason why those who wish to post on your thread can only do so when you're online.

Ok,i see,yes i did have a blood test and urine test,tomorrow i will call my GP and talk to her/him about midwife,antenatal care,hmmmmm........like they say day is brighter then the night time,Goodnight everybody,sweet dreams,good luck,take care,bye

Have been following this thread. Wishing and willing the OP. It's difficult to read and leaves me confused as to why it is still active as it's going round in circles.

Advice asked, advice given, advice received, no action taken, excuse given and repeat.

Good luck OP.

I'm with you Peyia.
I've recently name changed but had posted on the thread several weeks ago. It is incredibly difficult to read and I'm very concerned about the baby so have decided I need to distance myself from this and stop reading it starting now.

I hope the baby is healthy.

This thread has had me feeling quite upset for this lady. I'm very concerned for her and her babies well being. Op is obviously very depressed and seems so so lost.
Op if you are reading this, please I beg you to access some help today. You've been given some really useful advice in here and you now have all the telephone numbers you need. Now it's down to you.
You're going to need help and support when the baby arrives and as you say you deserve to be enjoying your pregnancy.
Please access some professional support today

It seems that it's far easier for the OP to post on the Internet, asking for advice and support than it is for her to get actual real advice and support for her and her unborn baby. It is also easier for the OP to vent her anger at the kind, supportive people who have given her so much support on here.

OP, that anger is misplaced. If everything you have said on here is true, then you need to seek urgent professional help. Now. No more arseing about on the Internet. Just go and do something for your baby dear.

So we've got potentially 15 more weeks of those fruitless conversations before OP Is forced to take action because she will have a baby to care for 24/7, for which she has made no preparations.

I don't think I can bear to read anymore either.

OP - you are carrying a vulnerable little life who needs you to look after it. You have a responsibility as a parent to do that. Please take action on the advice given to you from the kind people on this thread.

I guess it is too much to hope you have taken any action today.

I haven't read the whole thread but think I have the jist of it.

OP, I was a midwife for many years. Booking in late isn't ideal but it also isn't a crime. You must book as soon as possible. Call the number you have and make yourself known. You need scans, blood tests and support. The midwife can refer you for mental health support, tell you how to claim grants for buying baby things and how to apply for housing and benefits. She won't do this for you but she can help you to help yourself.

I say this kindly but please be aware that if you fail to attend antenatal care and to prepare for your baby this will be regarded as a safeguarding issue. There is a lot of support available but you absolutely have to engage with it.

Make the calls and get started. After that things will become easier. Please write everything down in a separate notebook if you cannot remember what the midwife has told you. Saying 'I can't remember' to everything isn't enough.

Wishing you well and hoping you can get started. Babies need caring for from conception and looking after yourself is a big part of that.

its very starnge how OP has plenty of time to be on here, yet no time to deal with her unborn baby.....providing this information is true.
If OP is having issues with leaving house, im sure a doctor or midwife could actually do a home visit initially to help deal with this.

Alot of info in this thread coming from OP is very doubtful.