i don't know if i can talk about it here?

[panele01]

hello everyone,
i am new here and i don't know,i am not sure if i can talk about it here? i am 20 weeks and 4 days pregnant
,but i am having problems in my life right now,difficulties,complications

Do i have to force myself to go somewhere if i don't want at all?

You don't have to force yourself to go anywhere today, but if you don't force yourself to get the help you need soon you will have no alternative but to remain in your mother's overcrowded home to which you will have added a baby plus cot, buggy, and all of the paraphenalia an infant needs.

The Rape Crisis freephone helpine will be open again today from 7pm until 9.30pm and it's to be hoped that, if you need privacy to make the call, you can leave your dm's flat to get some air/take a brief walk and make contact with RC as they have a centre in Croydon and will help with your housing issues as well as providing the support and counselling you need to be able to process what happened to you.

It won't cost you anything to call them and if you have the energy to post here, you most certainly have the energy to tap a few keys on your phone and make contact with rl people who can help you change your life for the better.

As said before, this isn't just about you - it's also about the child you have chosen to bring into the world who deserves the best start in life and you owe it to that dc to start making an effort NOW.

goddessofsmallthings,ok,you are definitely right,thank you

The phone number is 0808 802 9999. Please do try and call after 7pm - they can and will help you and, as previously stated, there is a centre in Croydon where you can meet with a rl support worker.

Ok,thank you goddessofsmallthings

I am still in my pyjamas,i didn't plan to go anywhere to have some privacy to make a phone call,i know it is really important,my mother is working tomorrow and my mother's partner as well

Well really that's up to you. As I said there seems to always be an excuse not to act. If that's down to depression or mental health you need to get to your GP and explain.
You are doing nothing which means you will end up with no midwife care, no home, no benefits and no plan.

Regardless of what you may have planned, all you have to do to get some privacy is to get out of your pyjamas and put some clothes on so that you can go outside in, say, 20 minutes time and make the phone call and you could have easily done that in the time you took to post here.

It seems that, apart from posting here, all you've done since New Year's Eve is make a phone call to your GP and it isn't healthy for you, or your unborn dc, for you to not go out during the daylight hours as you are risking becoming deficient in vitamin D.

What is your diet like? Are you eating healthily and what did your GP prescribe when s/he became aware that you intended to continue your pregnancy through to birth?

I am eating healthily,i eat a lot and non stop,my GP hasn't prescribed for me anything yet

You should have been taking 400mcg folic acid daily until you were 12 weeks pg and 10 mcg vitamin D every day throughout your pregnancy and for as long as you are breastfeeding and I'm surprised that your GP hasn't prescribed them or told you to buy them over the counter at a pharmacy.

Do you intend to get out of your pyjamas and make the call tonight, or are you going to put it off until tomorrow?

I know,i seriously have to make a phone call to my GP,this is ridiculous,i will do it tomorrow,tomorrow is Monday and i will have to make some phone calls anyway

Each day you put something off is a day closer to your baby being born and a day less to sort something out.
Why can you not call tonight? Just do it. You'll feel so much better when you have done something positive.

Your lack of antenatal care is as worrying as it is mystifying. According to you, your GP was going to solve everything last week. Has s/he got back to you since your call on Wednesday?

Why not put some clothes on over your pyjamas and go outside to make the call if you need privacy? The line is open until 9.30pm and if you call tonight you may be able to meet with a worker tomorrow.

Goddess has given you everything you need, bar dialling the actual number!

Go, do it, they're open for at least another hour. Think how much you'll feel once you've made that call.

BlackDoglet and goddessofsmallthings,i am apologising to my baby now,i will do it tomorrow definitely Please don't get mad at me

Thank you very much Please don't get mad at me

We can't help you panele unless you help yourself. Please get an early night so you are fresh for tomorrow. It's a big day for you to make some
changes. Your new life starts right now!

Melvali,yes thats true,this coming week,i will be 24 weeks pregnant

No-one is getting mad at you but it is extremely frustrating to read your constant excuses while knowing the clock is ticking down and that if you don't take action soon, it'll be too late for you to welcome a baby into a place of your own.

It seems to me we've done you a disservice by allowing this thead to become something of an instant chat line which you've used to put off acting on any of the sound advice you've received here.

It's to be hoped you'll stop procrastinating and that the next time you post here will give an update of the outcome of phone calls you have made rather than those you intend to make this week, next week, sometime, never.

goddessofsmallthings,yes,i understand,i am apologising my baby now again

Correction: i am apologising to my baby now again

I'm going to bed in a minute, Panele.

Your first call tomorrow is to your doctor. Tell the receptionist:
I need help with two things.
I'm 24 weeks pregnant and have no ante-natal programme.
I'm severely depressed and have no care plan.

Write down what they say.

Go to sleep now! Happy dreams

Good morning.
A new day, a new week!
Panele - make those calls this morning. Ok? Today is the start of making things right. Making a future for you and baby.
Good luck.

Good luck, Panele.

Things will start to move when you give them a little push.

Hello GarlicBake and Blackdoglet,i have woken up just recently,god,i could sleep hours non stop,but i can't,there are important,serious things that i need to sort out for my baby and me,for our present ant future,thank you very much dears