I just had a look at another one of the OP's thread and the naivety is astonishing. Its the cheaters script all laid out in black and white by a mistress. I have a daughter 2 years younger than the OP and if she was in this situation I'd be heartbroken, and not only because I could compare it to my eldest daughter marrying a man of 44 when she was 24. The latter has a wonderful marriage and life whereas the OP is up to her neck in a mess she thinks she's rationalised.
As it happens my now 63 year old husband is with a young woman the same age as our eldest daughter who's 35. He met the young woman when he was about 53 and she was 25. Like the bloke in the OP he was a serial cheat and he was still at home with me till 2 and half years ago when I now know she was expecting their second child. And we were still very much living as man and wife. She had accidentally on purpose become pregnant with their first (and I know this because I have seen correspondence between them) , after 5 years as a mistress and because of where we live there had to be a wedding. He never did believe me that if someone helps you cheat you can never trust them but I guess that because he could trust me with contraception (it was always me who had to) he thought he could trust her. Anyway, a second child later he very recently told me - ah babies just happen!
And whats the point of this, well a lot is said about how a wife should never approach the OW and have it our with her/compare notes etc but Im not convinced it should be avoided. A few months ago my husband rocked up in town with his wife, yes he's a Muslim, a none practicing one, one who has whats known here as secret marriages which are marriages where no one is given their rights as stated in the Koran and the marriage is performed by some dodgy cleric somewhere who forgets about everyones rights for the sake of a few bob. Anyway, he rocked up in town with a wife he had said for a couple of years did not exist, and two children, the eldest who he had claimed till that day was illegitimate and living in the Phillipines with his mum - plus another wee boy. He actually called my children to a hotel and presented their new family to him by saying - SURPRISE SURPRISE!
As you can imagine all hell broke loose and the reason Im saying that it could be a good thing for the wife and the OW to 'compare notes' is because what the OW in my husbands life heard from my children that day was nothing like what she thought had been her reality as the mistress ( even wife) of my husband. She was stunned and just before my husband told their maid to start packing (so he could flee) my daughter said to her - I can see your pillow talk is going to be interesting for some time to come!
The woman didn't have a clue, not a bloody clue, about our life as a married couple/family and in fact my youngest daughter said to me - she reminded me of you mama! She looked just like you at times mama when she was standing there - and not in a good way! It was history repeating itself.
And of course my children heard things they'd rather not have heard but what doesn't kill you will cure you and me and the children have certainly been cured.
And what does my husband now have? Nothing really because his carefully kept apart worlds have now collided, the fallout continues, and a serial cheat only ever leave a bigger mess behind him as time goes by
And what does this OP now have? Nothing. She has nothing except the life of the wife who was married to a serial adulterer.
Its a car crash just waiting to happen.