It's abusive if he wants to and she doesn't - either ever or tonight - and he tries to coerce her/do it anyway. Which is exactly what he does....(coerces her)
I'd say women get coerced into doing things they don't want to do to keep the peace/avoid confrontation, not to prove they're as un-prudish as men. Then you need to educate yourself, because it is pretty much both.
I said I found it easier to believe women allowed themselves to be coerced sexually ALLOWED themselves???? Do you know what coercion is? No woman "allows" themselves to be coerced by a man, and most of the time, she doesn't even KNOW that she is being coerced.
Your male privilege is massive, isn't it???
You can't be together and satisfy both of you if one person wants sex and the other doesn't. You cant be respectful to each others feelings because you both want to do something that will cause unhappiness to the other I disagree. Dh & I manage fine. He often wants it more than I do, but he is happy to go with my "flow" (for want of a better word) because he wouldn't dream of making sex more important that all the other aspects of our marriage. And this isn't about one wanting sex & the other not...op said she is happy with once a week, which can't be described as "one wanting sex & the other not"
But fact is you are deeply unhappy with the compromise I disagree, op is unhappy with what her dh wants as their compromise, which seems to be op doing whatever keeps him happy.
Even though she's SENT HIM PICTURES OF HERSELF so that he can... have a wank over her. And what? This means that no means no, except when you said yes to x or y?
And why did op send him pictures? Oh yes, to stop him fucking badgering her for sex, or anything else. THAT is called coercion. When he goes on and on and on until she caves and does something just to shut him the fuck up.
He doesn't even care that she didn't want to watch, he wanted his jollies in anyway he could get it, at the expense of his wife & her feelings.