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Total shock

862 replies

Iseeall · 26/09/2015 13:28

Just found evidence of the other woman. In total shock. Been together 25 years,k new something was wrong but still its a shock.
His business takes him away sometimes and he has just returned, I found her boarding card in his man bag as i was tidying up.
Shall I facebook her a message asking if she had a lovely holiday and enjoys breaking up a family.
help me.

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Haffdonga · 01/10/2015 21:53

Oh Iseeall Sad

It matters not if some idiots throw around troll accusations for sport to see what sticks. It matters not if AnyFucker or any other fucker at all posts or doesn't post. The only thing that matters here is if this thread and posting on it helps you.

If it doesn't help you then you should stop posting and reading. If it does, then ignore the few who are here for the wrong reasons (there are always some) and keep on doing what you need to do..

(FWIW I recognise your name of old. I'm so sorry.)

0dfod · 01/10/2015 21:58

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Cherrybakewells1 · 01/10/2015 22:27

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AcrossthePond55 · 01/10/2015 22:31

"The dogs bark but the caravan passes on". Don't let the mn dogs stop your caravan, Isee. Their issues are about them, not you.

Hope today has gone well for you (other than this).

FoxesSitOnBoxes · 01/10/2015 22:40

You didn't need this on top of everything. Time for an apology from the troll hunters I think.
So sorry this has happened. Thinking about you

JonesTheSteam · 01/10/2015 22:49

Delurking to say ignore the troll hunters Iseeall

I posted about my DH's affair approx 18 months ago.

Anyfucker didn't post on that, and I can assure you I'm completely genuine.

Look after yourself. You've handled this amazingly well.

croon979 · 01/10/2015 23:02

Oh my god, am utterly sick to death of the troll hunters. What if people in genuine need of support, advice and help disappear or don't post at all due to being doubted and accused?? How many times do you need to be told, if you have concerns report them to HQ quietly and go away FGS.

OP, I hope you are ok and if you feel you can and want to, please do return.

cozietoesie · 01/10/2015 23:08

Keep on posting, Isee - if you'd like to.

How are the DCs doing by the way? Do they now know any of the details?

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 02/10/2015 00:23

ISee - hope you do come back for more help and support if you need it - just remember that there are a lot of people and posts on this thread who have been sympathetic and helpful, and only about 3 who have cast aspersions - don't let the tiny minority push you out!

I understand the upset, but it's a bit like asking 100 people if you look good in something - 97 say yes, 3 say no, so then you decide to change on the basis of 3% of the sample? No. 97% of the sample say you're fine! Believe the majority! Thanks

BerylStreep · 02/10/2015 09:10

But more to the point - do you have a fab haircut?

mulberrybag · 03/10/2015 09:18

I'm sorry for you that you felt hunted out of your own post Op. Just wanted to add a message of support to you, keep strong, you sound like an amazing woman and I hope that when you are through the other side of this shitstorm you will realise how much better off you are without someone who is so dispicably behaved. Koko Flowers

Cherrybakewells1 · 03/10/2015 13:12

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ciele · 03/10/2015 15:26

New to mumsnet and having read this thread through the night and today am thinking you lot are a fab crew!
Isee - hope you get this sorted, to your satisfaction Asap! x

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 03/10/2015 15:54

Iseeall - how are you doing? Hoping that you're staying strong in the face of his wanky behaviour xx

goddessofsmallthings · 03/10/2015 17:17

Another one wanting to know how your trip to the hairdresser's went? Did you go for the tried and tested or a whole new look?

loveyoutothemoon · 03/10/2015 19:40

Maybe things have worked out between the OP and her DH!

Bogeyface · 03/10/2015 20:36

I have been in PM contact with the OP and she was really hurt and upset by the accusations of trolling. I hope that those responsible are proud of themselves at attacking a vulnerable woman who just needed support Angry

sodabreadjam · 03/10/2015 20:40

That's such a shame - hope she is getting good support in real life.

Also hope her (D)H is facing up to what he has done and is organising himself to move out and give her some space.

I doubt the troll hunters will give a backward glance or think about the damage they have caused.

Roussette · 03/10/2015 20:52

I have to say... I would never call anyone out on being a troll unless I was 100% sure.

Years ago I was another site (anyone remember handbag?) and I started a thread about a personal problem I was wrestling with and one particular poster (then others) targeted me, calling me a troll. I was struggling as it was and it was so so upsetting and I more or less left the forum then because of this. And I'd been there for years.

loveyoutothemoon · 03/10/2015 20:56

Tell her to come back on. Ignore the nonsense (although can understand her angst), the more people that can help her the better. Sending her some Flowers x

Nonnainglese · 03/10/2015 20:57

Very sad, it's like a pack mentality, really shocking.
I do hope OP's ok.

LoveLetters · 03/10/2015 21:39

Well done. What is wrong with some of you.

Hope you are ok isseeall x

Sonnet · 03/10/2015 22:40

Bless - you don't need this on top of all the other cr*p c

Puzzledandpissedoff · 03/10/2015 22:44

I have been in PM contact with the OP and she was really hurt and upset by the accusations of trolling

I'm not even slightly surprised Sad

And to think this was largely the result of speculation on why one member hadn't joined the thread ...

cozietoesie · 03/10/2015 22:47

I hope someone has reminded the OP that she can post in the other place in a slightly more discreet way - if she so wishes?

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