Partner wants me to get stoned. wwyd?

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My fb has made no secret of the fact he enjoys getting stoned once in a while. I make no judgement about this, each to their own. I have never touched drugs or anything ever, not once. I don't smoke & barely drink. Last night he was telling me how good it feels & said 'I bet you'd be incredible stoned' (meaning for sex obviously). My question is this: wwyd? I'm interested to hear your opinions. I was brought up to avoid all that stuff but should I give it a go once, for the experience? Or is it a really stupid juvenile thing to do? My personal thought is I'd rather be 'present' for good sex & not pissed out of my mind. I'm really naive here.

Even if you believe all cannabis is grown by slave children (I don't, sorry) it isn't a matter of "belief" cote, we KNOW it largely is, as several others on this thread have pointed out.

You can chose "not to believe" if you want to, but all you are doing is denying the truth because it is unpalatable to you,

If your conscience lets you get away with that, good for you. Mostt civilised people's wouldn't.

As I said twice before on this thread, I don't smoke cannabis. I don't even smoke regular cigarettes. So you can take that heartstring-tugging guilt trip, put it in your pipe, and um... smoke it.

Any news on whether we should stop eating spring onions? Still waiting for your answer on that one

You want to believe that cannabis is all raised by slave children, because as you may have realised, there really isn't much else you can hold over the head of recreational users. It's not terribly addictive - cigarettes and alcohol are much worse. It's not terribly harmful in occasional/recreational doses - cigarettes are definitely much worse. All this is why several Western European countries and quite a few American states have already decriminalised it.

Would you be completely OK with people who source their cannabis from Amsterdam? Production isn't illegal there so you can rest assured that no child has touched it, slave or otherwise.

I'm guessing not. And therein lies the hypocrisy.

I thought cannabis when smoked was mixed with tobacco, so how is it better than smoking a cigarette?

That's not the only way you can smoke it. (Google 'bong', for example)

People also cook hash brownies, put some into tea etc. You don't even have to smoke it at all.

Alot of people use a vaporiser now CalleighDoodle, or eat it.

I have nothing useful to add about the whole cannabis sex thing but I would just like to say that you and your FB/partner do not sound particularly compatible and I hate the concept of FBs anyway so I think you should stop having sex with him. Then he can find someone who is into doped up sex and you can find someone who will love you properly.

Oh nitpick away Cote I have no experience of cannabis or coke only second hand. I'll take your word for the fact that it doesn't make you feel out of control. I have however had plenty of experience of watching someone take cannabis (boring) and coke (paranoid and anxious) and it didn't make me think "ooh that looks the way to have a fun time" it made me think "what am I doing with this dull loser?"!

My ex used a bong not mixed with tobacco - re sex I would say the drugged up sex certainly wasn't better for me , don't know about him. Cannabis sex was OK but his attention kept drifting. Cocaine sex lasts forever but was slightly frantic and a bit like being the mother of an overanxious teenager - I didn't find it sexy!

As Morganly says - we weren't really compatible when he was taking drugs.

It's like anything, really. If you are not in the same state of mind as everyone else, you'll be bored out of your skull. Ever tried to have a conversation with a bunch of drunks?

Yea..another here who has had amazing sex whilst stoned. But that was with a partner I knew really well, not often, and we both smoked on occasion due to our own choice.

At the end of the day if you don't want to and he accepts your 'no' with grace and doesn't ask again...then you know it was basically a fairly harmless suggestion because he knows sex can be awesome on it.

It can also be good fun just to get a bit silly together as well. No biggie as far as I am concerned. If, on the other hand, he pressures, keeps asking or you think his weed habit is damaging in any way to you, him or the relationship then it is time to have a think.

Weed is much like any other substance really...it can be massively harmful, or it can be a pleasant addition to an evening. Rather depends on the people using it and why. I've known some who have to get stoned before they can have sex, or even want to get new partners stoned for that reason. That never appeared to come from a healthy place.

(oh and before anyone says anything, yes we also have great sex not stoned, and we don't need it. Just a nice difference once in a blue moon is all if we do decide to do it).

Leaving aside all moral judgement... Wow am amazed that dope can be a good sex drug, I find it totally bizarre, not being my thing at all!

Charis I wonder where your statement of cannabis grown in this country is by young trafficked boys who's sisters are sold into the sex trade, information comes from?

Not read all the replies. What would I do? Tell him no chance, as I've never taken anything and don't want to either, thank you very much.
It's a completely personal choice, and not one anyone could make for you.
You're your own person, make your own choices and don't let anyone else make them for you.
If he pressures you or tries to make you feel bad about saying no, he's a dickhead and you're well rid of him.

Well, I smoke weed, and its all grown round here! By friends, the police really don't give a shit about people growing a few plants, or smoking pot at home.

It causes them a lot less grief than alcohol.

Op, it doesn't sound like you're keen, so I wouldn't bother, I've never found it sex enhancing tbh.

LOL @ the pearl-clutching uptightness on this thread grin OP - Have a puff from his cigarette next time and see what you think. You won't pass out, lose control, or be unable to give consent.

Disgusting attitude. Why the hell is it 'pearl clutching' to not want to take anything?!
You might enjoy doing it, but that doesn't automatically mean that others want to. Trying to bully or make others feel bad about themselves for their choices is pathetic.
Do what YOU want to do, OP. Childhood school 'peer pressure' lessons obviously still needed in adulthood if pathetic posts like the one quoted is anything to go by!

What DontStop says.

Yes I have done it but not intentionally (being affected by passive smoke wasn't something we realised back then) and long story short, if I could go back and not do it, I would. I really regret the fall out more than what happened.

So my suggestion would be no, especially not with someone you're just sleeping with instead of someone you trust implicitly.

Stay away from drug use and drug users. End of. Harsh but true.

No good will come of it.

Best to find people in your life who can cope with life's realities and don't need to regularly run away from it.

Bastard I gave some links a few pages back...quoting government agencies.

That information is true, and it is a growing problem, apparently!

I googled for info to see if there was any reliable evidence to support Charis's statement. There is!

its a personal decision. I was in similar position to you, dp smoked it regularly for years, i dont smoke/do drugs/rarely drink. I make hash cookies once just to see what all the fuss was about and it just made me lethargic and sleepy. Never bothered to try it again. Felt no need to. Dp doesnt smoke it now neither.

It's not terribly harmful in occasional/recreational doses - cigarettes are definitely much worse.

cannabis is hundreds of times worse than tobacco. It totally fucks up peoples lives for ever, and then us happy band of taxpayers get to pay for it, by the tens of millions.

And it is grown by slaves.

Oh come off it.

It's such a dangerous, life-wrecking, society-corrupting drug that Durham Constabulary recently declared that those who grow it for their own consumption will no longer be targeted by the police.

" Why the hell is it 'pearl clutching' to not want to take anything?! "

Pearl-clutching wasn't the OP hesitating 'to take anything' but the hilarious over-reaction from others on this thread, telling her to LTB etc because he dared suggest that she might like to try it once.

Quite aside from what side of the debate you sit on regarding recreational drugs, why would you want to start doing something that could potentially result in you developing an addiction, health problems or a criminal record when you've been perfectly happy without it up until now? Especially for a FB who you presumably don't really know (including how his cannabis is supplied).

Life is all about risk/reward. Is the possible reward really worth those risks?