Partner wants me to get stoned. wwyd?

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My fb has made no secret of the fact he enjoys getting stoned once in a while. I make no judgement about this, each to their own. I have never touched drugs or anything ever, not once. I don't smoke & barely drink. Last night he was telling me how good it feels & said 'I bet you'd be incredible stoned' (meaning for sex obviously). My question is this: wwyd? I'm interested to hear your opinions. I was brought up to avoid all that stuff but should I give it a go once, for the experience? Or is it a really stupid juvenile thing to do? My personal thought is I'd rather be 'present' for good sex & not pissed out of my mind. I'm really naive here.

If you have never smoked a fag then don't do so to try weed. It is rank. It smells and tastes disgusting. It goes all up the back of your nose/throat. My throat ended up feeling like I had swallowed a cheese grater and I felt I needed to drink a few pints of milk to get rid of the smell and taste.

The enzymes are fat soluble so milkshakes, ice-cream, hot chocolate or cookies are a much nicer alternative to fags.

It makes your (my) toes all tingly and yes the orgasm is good and a great nights sleep after.

There can be side affects, to dismiss the risks is stupid.

If you have never shown interest or wanted to try don't just because someone else wants you to or thinks it is a good idea for you.

Don't be pressured into doing something you don't want to do.

If you do wish to try it you could always pop it in a vaporiser so you don't need tobacco.

If you don't want to, then don't.

I've tried it a few times, it just made me giggle, get the munchies, be incredibly tedious and fall asleep. I wouldn't bother with it now - don't like smoking full stop.

One thing to think about that I don't think has been mentioned yet - does your workplace conduct random drug screens? It takes a while to leave your system fully so if you do, be aware of not driving etc.

I agree that there's no need to be hysterical about the odd puff on a spliff but you do see a fair number of threads on here where the other half is getting through several joints a night - that's ltb territory (just as it would be for booze or any drugs for me to be honest.)

Anyway, it's up to you but anyone who tries to pressure you into taking/doing anything you're uneasy about is probably a bit of a twat, don't you think?

Stoned sex is crap. Haven't done it since university, but it just made me numb.

Something known for increasing sexual pleasure, like poppers for example, is a different story.

Don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable and feel pressurised about.

The trouble with cannabis is that he is not a controlled or pure product and different people can also react differently.

I found sex was much more sensual, intense and lasted longer when stoned, it's not like alchohol, all your senses are much stronger and you don't lose control or the ability to say no to something you would not normally do. However I was unable to orgasm .

In your position I would just have a couple of puffs and see how it goes, but it must be YOUR decision.

Personally I never enjoyed the feeling of not being completely aware of what I'm doing. For a lot of people it chills them out and enables them to relax, but for me I instantly become paranoid, tired and feel like eating for England. For those particular reasons I choose not to touch the stuff. I know people who smoke it occasionally at parties etc. I also know a couple of people who smoke it on a daily basis and whether they care to admit it or not it does negatively affect their mental health.

No one can tell you what to do, if you want to try it to experience it then do it. If you don't then personally I don't think your missing out on anything.

I bloody LOVE sex when stoned. It is almost always a massive enhancer, which is fun, so i can imagine hes thinking youll have a better time.

The question is, will he be a prick about it when you say no, which IMO you should, because theres no point trying something just for the hell of it if its never interested you. Theres loads of things other people enjoy that I have no interest in whatsoever. You can tell me as much as you like that bungee jumping is awesome, or diving with sharks is a real thrill, but its not my bag

I used to love sex when stoned, but I would suggest anyone who's never smoked before to try it first, always with a trustworthy friend, before taking/smoking it with the intention of having sex.

Seems to be a very personal thing on whether it makes sex better, worse, or has no impact, judging by the responses on this thread from people who've actually done it.

Run as far as you can. Really.

I would be more worried if he was a heavy drinker tbh, that is not to say cannabis does not have issues. Sex might be relaxed and cool, or it might not suit you and you end up being sick. X

wow, what a boring individual if he needs chemical help to have fun.

is this the best you can do? I don't think so!

You did ask wwyd, so I'd not do it.
I agree I like being present and fine life weird, interesting and fun enough not to need a supplement.
I agree that suggesting you "would be incredible" is a bit of a crap thing to say.

Golly a full-on mn hate session. Kick his sorry arse into touch, pathetic drug addict cocklodging excuse for a man, the hills are that way >>>, red flag, blah blah.

I'd go for it. I find I can have super sex without, or super-duper sex with. If you don't like it don't do it again. Not difficult.

"what a boring individual if he needs chemical help to have fun."

What a boring individual if he needs wine to have fun. Just have water in restaurants and bars.

What a boring individual if he needs music to have fun. No need to go out to clubs, stay home instead.

No doubt you see where I'm going with this.

If you don;t drink and don't smoke then you're very likely like me and don;t like the feeling of being slightly out of control that minor amounts of drugs and alcohol induce. So many people seem to enjoy that feeling but it really don't work for me - I don't even like gas and air which everyone else seems to rave about. It makes me feel panicky and out of control.

I like my sex totally in control of all my faculties! I suspect from your own description you are similar.

I've had a serious relationship with a recreational cannabis and cocaine user and the real problem wasn't a moral one but eventually (if they do it in your presence) it just becomes as boring as hell. But like being the only sober one at a party of drunk people.

Without meaning to nitpick, I'd like to point out that there is a real difference between weed which does not result in "being out of control" and dissociative drugs such as gas & air (nitrous oxide) and ketamine that often do result in feelings of I have no idea what I'm doing etc.

OP smoked cannabis in my youth and then got bored with it and gave it up, but other people are not so lucky. Some people I know develop a serious addiction to it. Having an addiction is no fun and you could be one of the unlucky ones. So I would say continue to steer clear of anything that causes addictions.

op you actually do have a right to have judgments about this. I don't associate and do really think much less of people who do drugs. Whether it's cannabis or cocaine it's still drugs to me, and people who use them disgust me so I would not associate myself with that. I have a right to feel that way.
Its his choice to use it, doesn't mean that you need to make that an acceptable part of your life.

"Whether it's cannabis or cocaine it's still drugs to me, and people who use them disgust me"

Are you also disgusted by people who enjoy a glass of wine from time to time? If not, why not?

Just making sure you realize that alcohol is a drug and so is nicotine (cigarettes). Both are far more addictive and dangerous than cannabis.

I got stoned when I was 15 once and I absolutely hated it. It was horrible, horrible experience. I felt sick, dizzy, totally stoned in that I just couldnt move. Awful. My oldest brother tried it and said the same and my mum was a bit of a hippy in the 70s and tried it once and was the same so never done it again.

One of my husband's friends, who isn't actually a friend really as he never sees him anymore. Is a total stoner. Hes 33 and has basically screwed up his whole life and lost his partner and kids as he just wouldn't stop. Hed sit up till 4am in the morning and at weekends when off he'd sleep all day and never do any family thing. He never makes the effort for his friends (Things like nights out for special bday, stags, headbutting etc) citing being skint although he manages to spend a fortune on that crap so none of them make any effort anymore. It also affects his mood his partner says and he will be moody until he gets a joint.

I wouldn't bother if you have come this far without it!

Are you also disgusted by people who enjoy a glass of wine from time to time? If not, why not?

wine is not produced on the back of the slave labour of children, Cote, apart from anything else.

Most Tobacco is grown and harvested by children in Malawi, many of them paid a slave wage and suffer from nicotine poisoning.

(Well perhaps not most, but you will find Malawi tobacco in most cigarettes)

I'm with CoteDAzur on this.

There's a lot of knee jerk - alldrugsarebadok!! going on here when quite clearly it's not the case, 'Chasing The Scream' explains how cannabis was chosen to provide work for the US government enforcers about to lose their jobs after the repealing of alcohol prohibition and how the US government then followed this up with economic and UN voting leverage policies to persuade other countries to follow suit.

These days many countries police now turn a blind eye to personal possession. Perhaps ask Portugal, Netherlands, coming up to a third of America (and more states following in November), Switzerland and many other places why cannabis is officially legal.

It isn't a big deal, otherwise the many millions in the UK alone who have smoked it at some stage in their lives would now all be in a terrible position... It's estimated up to 30% of the UK aged 14+ have smoked at some stage. Wiki

And guess what links politicians like Andy Burnham, Harriet Harman, Yvette Cooper, BoJo, Mo Molem, Nicola Sturgeon, and other famous people like Richard Branson, Oliver Stone, Rihannah, Robert Downey, Madonna, Depp, Jolie, Brian Cranston, Pitt, Gaga, George W, Clinton and even Obama... the list goes on, and on, for ever. Yup, they've all smoked the terrible weed.

However, back to OP's question, she should make her own informed choice, she shouldn't be pressured by her bf/fb (or whatever his status is) and I hope and trust all will be well whichever answer she chooses.

Even if you believe all cannabis is grown by slave children (I don't, sorry) that isn't the only field where slave children's labour is used as was discovered in 2010, when spring onions were found to have been harvested by freezing, terrified children, some as young as nine, on a farm in Worcester. Here.

Should people stop eating spring onions, too?