Help! My dad's gone missing

[Cheeseandwinegirl]

Hi all, I'm hoping someone can help.

My mum just called and said my dad has gone missing. He left home yesterday afternoon while she was out, he didn't take his phone or wallet but she has found the safe has been emptied which had around 1k in there.

She thinks he only took the clothes he is wearing, he took the car.

He hasn't turned up today and I'm trying to help her with what to do.

I've told her to go through his Internet history and his phone, also check if anything else is missing at home and keep an eye on the bank accounts - she sorts all banking.

If that comes up with nothing I've advised her to call his best friend (lives about 50 miles away so can't pop in).

My dad is 62 in good health with as far as I'm aware bo financial worries, mum said he had been able moody of late but nothing out of the ordinary as it's harvest time, it's also just a moody sod at the best of times!

Is there anything else I've missed or anything else we can do? I've said to inform the police if he isn't back in 24 hours.

Hi Cozie, he's definitely not at home, the car that he is in is a recognisable sporty type with a very unique numberplate so people locally would know if he's been driving round. She's called local friends and family and no one has heard from him before or after the disappearance.

I think you are right that he's getting back at her. Gah I'm so angry at Him!

Hi Pet, I hope so too. I think he's logical to assume that he's buggered off to be by himself for afew days, I'm trying not to panic too much.

Calling hospitals may not help. Patient confidentiality means staff shouldn't tell random callers if they have patients in- could be a NC parent, the media, anyone- simply someone not wanting people to know they're in hospital, especially if it's a sensitive procedure (termination, for example).

Glad the police are helping and hope he turns up soon.

Wait and see what the police do for the moment. Anything else can wait until he turns up.

Good luck to you all.

Sorry for the constant posting. As I'm not at work this week and my partners at work this is my outlet! I'm also drinking lots of tea and eating strawberries and trying not to worry too much :)

Its the fact that he made a point of leaving his wallet and phone behind that made me think he is playing silly buggers. Its behaviour designed to cause the most panic in your mother, while at the same time as taking cash from the safe (presumably he thought she wouldnt check that) so he can have somewhere warm and comfy to stay while she is tearing her hair out.

Goodness - don't worry about the posting!

It's unforgiveable if he's just gone off to teach her a lesson. Has she checked her finances online? Can she access any emails or phone records?

Hope he comes home soon op, you all must be worried sick!

If I am on your place I would def call hospitals and police. I hope he is well and that everything is ok.
You never know what people have in their mind no matter how we think we know them well.
Please inform authorities so they can be on the look out for his car. You never know what can happen . Part of me is also angry! That's not the way to behave , it doesn't matter 8yrs old or 80. He is now making your mum, you and rest of the familie worried. It's not on and when he comes back you need to sit and talk to him. Something can happen to him and no one doesn't know where he is.

Please inform police please

Hi bogey, I think you are right! He saw an opportunity and he took it! I don't know what's going to happen when he comes back, which is also why I'm in two minds if I should be around. It's awfully tricky. Right now I just want to support my mum (I'm an only child so there isn't anyone else that can help). I wish I could call him and tell him what a bloody stupid idiot he's being.

Sorry didn't read the whole thread.

Police have been informed

Hi Croatian, police have been informed!

As for phone, banking and finance records etc everything is in order. My dad is a complete technophobe so honestly would have no idea to use online banking, he can't even use the Internet on his phone! She's checked his computer and there's nothing weird he's been looking or or searching for, he can't delete Internet history or use private browsers.

I just wanted to send . You must be so worried, and it is horrible when you are just waiting and waiting. I think it's good that police are involved and that you are around to support your Mum. Hopefully getting some external support will mean that when he hopefully returns safe and sound in a few hours he realises how serious and frightening this has been.

Are all his bank cards in his wallet? Or has he taken one with him? That would mean he could get cash out (while still being able to cause worry by leaving wallet behind).

I'm sure that's the sort of thing the police will check, Ecclefechan. They have the resources and the authority to do all the necessary investigations if needed.

Hi Eccle, mum thinks there are no bank cards missing. She has access to all his accounts anyway (joint and personal) so will be keeping an eye out for anything. She really does run the household so there is nothing to suggest he's done anything finance or asset wise. It really seems like it was completely a spur of the moment thing.

How horrible for your mum and for you. I hope you hear news very soon, and it does seem likely that what other posters are saying about him throwing a tantrum due to the argument is probably the motivation for this.

Thank you for the flowers shove. I'm sure it will be OK, it's just bloody shit right now.

So right now there's not a lot I can do apart from worry. I haven't even got dressed yet! I should probable get out of my pyjamas, run a brush through my hair and do some bloody housework (the washing up will start growing new life if I leave it any longer). Although I think I'm going to have another cup of tea first.

Oh Op I hope he's OK.

I really hoped he will get back by noon. I am so sorry , not knowing is the worst feeling ever. I will say little prayer for his protection. I really really really hope he is ok

I feel for you, I have been in a very similar situation some years back & it's stressful as hell, all sorts goes through your mind - though my mum didn't bother letting e know, until I rang & she burst into tears - he had been missing 48 hours by that time & in DMs mind he was having an affair - at 72 & having left for work at 5.30am & not heard from since[rolls eyes]

I live over 300 miles away, DB 1/2 a mile away, but he had done nothing to help, not even go round & see DM was okay - & she was in a wheelchair

I spent a very frantic & soul destroying day ring around hospitals & Police - eventually the hospitals passed me onto morgues - that was awful as every call I expected the worse, but had to deal with it anyway.

Thankfully he turned out to have had a black out at a hospital much further away - he had driven a patient there as that was the work he did the. I didn't find him until midnight, he was thankfully okay, but at that point was incoherent & had left his badge etc in his car & had fainted walking the patient into the hospital- turned out he had a heart condition & they operated on him & fitted a pacemaker & he's fine - still is 8 yrs later ( bar been a cantankerous old did)

I don't envy you what you are going through, I hope you get a positive answer real soon ????????