Hobbit's Bar is still open.... Still finding it hard.. Part 12 .

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Well ladies and gentlemen, we're still open for business, this shit is still hard and we are still KOKO ing .....

Jess still finds time to support our endeavours with her Jessagrams...

Let's carry on shall we...

Hello all,

I'm afraid I haven't had time to read and see how you're all doing but please know I'm always thinking of you lot on here.
The reason I've been so busy is... Baby 2little has arrived!!! He is beautiful. He arrived in 2 hours flat on 12/09/2015 at 4:30am weighing 7lb 3oz. He has a very proud big sister :) his name is Hugo.

Ex is being nice enough and I think his conscience is giving him some trouble. Although he still sees doing anything remotely helpful as a favour to me. He's not taken paternity leave but was meant to take one day a weeks holiday for a few weeks. This is week one and apparently work need him! I'm not letting it get me down though. Something so wonderful has come from the 7months of shite we've endured. I have 2 beautiful happy, healthy children and they shall be my focus :))
Thinking of you all and hoping we are all managing to koko

so pleased you son .Enjoy him they grow so quickly xx

2little that is amazing news. Well done, you. Huge congratulations. New life, new joy.

Many congratulations my darling, welcome Hugo, hi to your little girl as well, keep on posting when you can, we are all here for each other, xx

Welcome Hugo! What great news 2little - enjoy your new family

Congratulations 2little - welcome to the world Hugo!??So happy to hear that he's here and the three of you are well

Thank you all xx

I know that he's been an unreliable alcoholic for a good while now. It's just some days I get soo pissed off that his flakiness is still running our lives. Such a selfish feckin' twunt.????Rant over, have a good weekend everyone, KOKO

Not sure why my posts have all these question marks on..

Yep, it's all about them and their 'wish list' isn't it sparkly my love, selfish bastards the lot of them. They skip off into the sunset leaving us behind to deal with the reality of family life and responsibility.

Just got to KOKO my darling, it is so unfair though, xx

Congratulations 2little on the birth of your son. His name is fab.

Just a little shout out to say how you doing,ladies and drifting'especially 2little, hope you and your little ones are well.

I'm still battling through the consent order with Mr Lycra Twat, after saying he wanted it done as quickly as possible, he's now arguing the toss over stupid non issues like access to the garage. He's welcome to the crap in there, I don't want it.OW has a tiny house and probably doesn't want it there either, and she doesn't have a garage.

Maybe it's destined to be consigned to the tip when we have to put the house up for sale in the spring. KOKO all,

been there to . Its there pride and joy .. old wood, half metr cable, old bikes .etc but they cant show there new girlfriends what they are really like . so I cleared our out took pictures of crap after warning letters/texts . it was a rewarding day ,. one garage I can walk around even with son new moped in it . one unhappy stbxh . He has funds to get his own flat / garage but doesn't want one shame ..

Haha, notmrscookie, I like your style, good for you my love.
It is a big space, and it's absolutely rammed with stuff, I have other issues that pre-occupy me other than that,

Congratulations 2Little on the birth of your son. I hope you are managing to enjoy those magical first few weeks despite everything.

Have a similar thing going on - actually planning on renting a skip to clear out the multitude of stuff in the garage and cellar...although all this will have to wait until stbxh sells the old campervan now rotting on the drive. Then the fun of finding somewhere to live begins!
I was feeling quite lost for a few weeks, but getting calmer again now, thank goodness, bloody exhausting all of this!
Hope you're all doing ok
Koko xx

2LITTLE congratulations - you are a star ...be proud of yourself for getting through this on your own! I was watching something on TV last night and a son was talking about his mother looking after them all their lives after his father walked out - she was a hero in his mind! No mention of his father x

Well wish me luck Hobbiters - off to try to find somewhere to live! See you on the other side...

Please help!! Am out with a guy and think he wants to come home with me. I want to but don't know if I am ready after the other week when I froze. I know I will not see him again as he is on holiday and goes back to uk tomorrow but still feel strange! Xx

Oh, I dunno, I'm an old gimmer though, hope you're ok my love, xx

Hope you're ok choccy x
Good luck with the move happy:-)

Have a great weekend hobbiters - I have some changes ahead, a friend of mine and her little girl are going to move in to our house- my DCs are excited especially as they're bringing a dog! DD1 and my friends DD will share a room though, they seem happy about it, and are discussing decorations, so hopefully it will work out. It will be nice not to be on my own. Koko xx

That's excellent news from you, whatyousee I'm so pleased you are close to a settlement and you are happy and settled in your new home.

Jealous that you get to cuddle little Hugo as well, give 2little and her lovely little ones my best wishes and love.

Hi everyone.
Been a while since I posted but I do read and wanted to offer some support that this is hard shit to deal with .
But as we approach the autumn and darker nights we have to KOKO.
It is odd that even ten months down the line I still feel sad and odd too .
BUt you know what I am getting better at recognising the dips.
But if I think I am out of the woods I am not .

I divorced ExW quickly. Yes she was feeling guilty & it worked for me as I got out of the marriage with what I set out to achieve ... so it really does pay in the long term to sort it out quickly. I never wanted my marriage to end but as it was inevitable after her being unfaithful , I wanted to make sure I came out financially as best I could .

So despite how f*ing hard it was handing over my marriage cert to a solicitor , it was for the best because if you like, all the massive pieces of pain were out there quickly if you see what I mean ? Nisi came , followed by settlement & absolute.

I am still in touch with ExW via letter & she is in a bad way mentally & it is s**t because I care about her still which anyone will I think deep down after 18 years together . I don't want her back but for the sake of my family I want her to get better so she can reconcile with our son.

I cannot believe that these people who leave think that their "new life " will be bliss ? I guess it takes a certain type of person which I am glad I never will be.

I have waffled a wee bit but I want to say if you are going through this rubbish then there are plenty of people to listen .

I don't even imagine where I would be without MN and the wonderful support I have had. So KOKO. We will all get there someday .

I'm so tired of talking about it. I just want someone to make me a cup of tea. Honestly, I would be SO easy to make happy. Of course, there is now another woman. Of course there is. It is a sign of how bad things are, that sometimes I forget, and don't even feel hurt by that, as he is so busy hurting me in so many other ways.
Sending you all a hot cup of tea, because we all need to know that someone cares