Has your partner seen your vagina?

[frazzledmomma]

I know this is a weird one but I can only ever bring myself to have sex in pitch black or still wearing bottoms (i.e skirt). This has been the same with every partner. I am not comfortable naked and have always avoided oral sex for the same reason. Is there a deep-rooted psychological issue here or is this common? Am not particularly happy with my body/weight but have only recently gained weight yet this has always been an issue.

You don't know what is normal when you haven't seen any others?

My mother told me aged 11 that girls who had large labia was because they masturbated too much!

I would have labia reduction if I had a spare few grand. I wouldn't be able to be spread eagled in day light.

vixx the " advice " from mothers is a whole other thread
My alcoholic mothers sexual advice to me was....to stagger in pissed with my auntie and say, " when you get your periods, don't let boys touch you down there!" With a prod to the crotch for effect I was 13 and had started my period 3 years before ( lovely big cousin had helped me at the time )

I love my minge, and many a quiet night in alone will find me stroking it on the sofa. It's so velvety soft.

My DP if I can be frank, completely worships it. He will spend hours if he can, sat between my legs just looking, parting it, stroking it, kissing it and telling me how beautiful it is before diving in.

It drives him crazy if he sees a little flash in a pair of shorts when I'm curled on the sofa and can't resist asking to see it.

When we first got together I was a bit WTF in a giggly way. I've never had anyone so outwardly praising of my parts. He's Southern European so a little more verbal in bed than I've been used to with my ex. Or maybe it's just him, I don't know.

But now I find it totally hot and empowering.

And every man needs a hobby...

Oh and rarely a week goes by when I don't Whatsapp him a photo of my bits.

I use the phone to photo and check mine after waxing too.

Do you know Wally I love your posts.
You are a woman enjoying life

I'm not confident about my body because of my weight (could do with losing a couple of stone) so would rather have sex in dimly lit conditions for that reason, but I'm quite happy for dh to see my undercarriage.

In fact, Dh has seen mine in very close up detail because he spent about 6 weeks before dd was born giving me rather painful perineal massage.

Shame dd arrived by emcs really.

Of course he has. We've been together 30 years. He's watched me give birth and seen it more times than I can remember during intimate moments. Same as I've seen his bits up close and personal during intimate moments. I might also have applied medication when he had painful piles on occasion. That's what people who love each other do surely?

Awe thanks MrsDavidBowie.

It's been a while coming so I'm riding the crest so to speak!

And flashing me bits!!!

In private of course...

Of course. With a Hollywood wax and the lights on/ broad daylight and no alcohol involved. Or dark and after a drink or two.

It's what you are comfy with, op.,You're allowed to change your mind though, and want side lights etc, glass of wine etc, door firmly locked. Or not have any lights at all and be in pitch darkeness:)

Oh god yes. poor DH can't get away from my fanny. he calls it ''the wee fuzzy'' and pretends it is a squirrel.

We are odd ;)

I do think it's a bit strange not to have an intimate visual relationship with the portion of anatomy that you are bangin'

I like frilly labia & wish I had one. . Mine's very tucked away & I'd prefer one with a bit more personality!

OH Greta..Its good to hear you're happy with your labiaplasty (I think its often sneered at and seen as vain).....I have erm mismatched flaps..I am sure a bit got snipped off during an episiotomy.

OH doesn't seem to of noticed

There is no such thing as ugly or mismatched though ladies c'mon.

A rose doesn't have perfectly even shaped petals that's what makes it beautiful.

I am bisexual and I love all kinds of labia. They are all so diverse and interesting.

Especially when different from your own.

Well having given birth 3 times with DH present it's been unavoidable. He once had a good old peer down there when the midwife invited him to have a look to see the baby coming out. He told me he could see the head...blah, blah.

He later admitted he couldn't see anything, and he thinks the midwife was just trying to encourage me.

I wish he hadn't had a good old look. I don't think it was at it's best, and it wasn't me who invited him to have a look!

I would have been annoyed with that midwife.

OP are you still reading?

Perhaps she took a mirror, liked what she saw and hasn't stopped looking...

Wally.
Hopefully, mirror or not, she's found the thread helpful.

Mmm, the Op never returned did they? I doubt they have been staring at their vulva/vagina/whatever for that long. Nobody's is that interesting.

Omg

Of course he's seen it. Constantly always.. How can you not let your partner see it I genuinely don't understand.

That's what loads of people on the thread have been saying since last Thursday Verity.

I hope you don't regret having labia reduction later on in life; menopause does very unkind things to your fanjo. Believe me I was in the dangly club, but now they are very introverted and never come out to play, infact they have gone into permanent hiding.

I don't even remember them shrinking, one day they were there, the next gone, never to be seen again.

I fear I may have shared too much information here and should have name changed!

Yep - menopause has a lot to answer for.

one day they were there, the next gone, never to be seen again.

The Lord Lucan of Labia?