Has your partner seen your vagina?

[frazzledmomma]

I know this is a weird one but I can only ever bring myself to have sex in pitch black or still wearing bottoms (i.e skirt). This has been the same with every partner. I am not comfortable naked and have always avoided oral sex for the same reason. Is there a deep-rooted psychological issue here or is this common? Am not particularly happy with my body/weight but have only recently gained weight yet this has always been an issue.

Plenty of men suffer penis angst.

Maybe there's a reason behind the "bumping uglies" phrase?!

For what its worth I don't think either are attractive, unfortunately its only women that I want to do sexy stuff with. Beauty is a pretty wide spectrum.

Typo - unattractive!

never seen my own as its inside me. would need a torch and speculum surely

I see approximately 30-50 a week (hollywood waxer), I've seen every shape, size, colour, type I could have ever imagined, and I've never yet seen one that makes me recoil in horror

Have you ever seen your own vagina OP? Never squatted over a mirror and had a good look? You should, it's fascinating.

My DH has seen mine close up, probably closer than he'd like when I'm occasionally waxing myself and I need his help

DH sees it more than I do! Eye to eye, as it were

I'm surprised to see that so many people won't let their partners see them like that, tbh. Everyone's different I guess.

No oral sex

Ridiculous splitting hairs going on about what is visible - labia, vulva and vagina. I think it's pretty clear what it being talked about here.

Jeez, my DH has seen more of me than I have, to be honest! I can't see my back, bum, back of my neck etc except in a mirror - he's scrutinised every inch of me many a time over the years . I was two stone underweight when we met and 3 dcs and nearly 30 years later I'm two stone overweight - he still is as eager as ever and makes me feel great. I don't know what I'd be like with a new partner though.

DTD by sense of touch alone is enough to give anybody performance anxiety!
Yes, anyone who I've done "it" with has seen my bits close up, and I've had the same pleasure.

My dh had an in depth investigation after I had our first child as he was fascinated to see the after effects!

I recall there was even a torch involved.

Never felt nervous of that region being seen but particularly not after childbirth, honestly when they've witnessed that anything after is delightful!

Can everyone just get over the 'correct terminology' hooha. Who cares? You know what the OP meant.

Has anyone not seen their husbands penis ? That would seem an equally unusual scenario to me.

Well said Primal.

DH strictly not at the goal end during my two births.

A guy I slept with at uni said it was the nicest one he had ever seen, didn't say that to me but to his mates - which got back to me and I was mortified, but then secretly chuffed as I'd never thought anything of it. Long term dp now and never really felt any qualms, sleep naked every night so dp sees it daily. Will try not let him watch a baby come out of it though - heard elvis never slept with his Mrs again after seeing that haha

"No oral sex "

Right?! My god, some of you REALLY don't know what you're missing

He's seen it. I haven't. I'm not at all curious about my undercarriage.

I have had that many people poke around in my fanny it wouldn't occur to me to mind.
I have had 3 kids, vaginal physio, std checks with new partners, smears, colposcopy and a Lletz treatment. My partner seeing it is the least of my worries

He has, many times. During my labour with DC3 he helpfully went to get the angled lamp out of the shed so the mw could get a better look and got an eyeful. I was most impressed he didn't pass out (having spent a long time avoiding the business end of childbirth)
I've seen it too during a colposcopy - I had students in with me & the gynae doctor so got a guided tour with a small camera and a TV screen.
It's quite fascinating!

I haven't got a mirror

Yes, generally and specifically. I walk around in the buff a lot....he helped me the first time I tried to remove a mooncup and panicked (it was ok in the end! I was just freaking out, get one if you haven't already), he's checked it out when I was worried I had a medical issue and he sees it up close and personal when it's his turn

Sex wouldn't work any other way for us.

My OH adores the sight, smell and taste of my vulva, he know every millimetre of it, and I certainly don't complain when he is wearing his explorer hat.

Same here "four"
He could find me in a roomful of fannies, bit like a lamb and its mother

Ha! I can just hear the plaintive bleating!!

Eww at 'roomful of fannies'. Sounds like a great new game show 'Find that Fanny'. The sort of thing DVO would host.