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MOST AFFAIRS ARE WOMENS OWN FAULT!? WOULD YOU AGREE?

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kittylette · 17/11/2006 19:07

I think that most men have affairs because something is missing at home,

if a womans a great cook in the kitchen, a shoulder to cry on, a whore in the bedroom, then there shouldnt be too much of a problem!

i really do think this is the case, and will probably get slated for thinking so,

but this morning on 'loose women' they were all laughing about how they all faked headaches and say they're too tired to avoid sex, and how they only do it once a month and think of england!!
well no wonder men go looking for sex if its being denied it at home??

i always try my best to look good for my DP, and cook nice meals, and we have sex most nights (and i have 2 babies under 2)

just a thought!

kitty

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JessaJam · 17/11/2006 19:50

I thought you were younger...21 maybe...from a previous thread...????

Mellowma · 17/11/2006 19:50

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Tinker · 17/11/2006 19:50

I was hoping that you were 12. Gives some excuse for naivety.

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lulumama · 17/11/2006 19:53

kitty.... tis lovely you have such a rosy & good hearted view of marriage...if you can say all this in 10 years time....good for you!

and i hope you never experience illness, depression or anything else that stops you from giving your DH everything he needs to stay faithful.....

i am almost 10 years older than you...but TBH, have never shared that POV........

marriage is more than sex and soul mates....

have to have the strength to get each other through the shit too...

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kittylette · 17/11/2006 19:54

im NOT saying a woman should do anything sexual for her hubby to keep him,

just make love to your partner, to show how much you do still love him and care for him!

you guys take things too literally!

sex isnt everything, but its an important part of your relationship and alot of women seem to think its ok for it to stop and hubby will be fine with that,

which is sad,

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TheHighwayCod · 17/11/2006 19:54

ask MIL

WigWamBam · 17/11/2006 19:54

At least someone does, Fio

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hunkermunker · 17/11/2006 19:56

Do you have a Brian, Kitty?

WinkyWinkola · 17/11/2006 19:57

Kitty, I think your post is loony.

You're saying that if they don't get exactly what they want exactly when they want it, then they have the right to behave in a completely immature way, go and have extra marital sex and blast their family life into smithereens.

I can't believe that anyone would live their life in such a formulaic way as you say you do. What happens if you're feeling a bit off colour one day? Do you grit your teeth and think of England for the sake of your family? If so, poor you!

hunkermunker · 17/11/2006 19:57

Oh, Kittylette? Your husband's shit in bed. I know, I had him last night.

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kittylette · 17/11/2006 19:58

and weve been together 6 years, through a very young pregnanvy, being homeless with a baby, getting a council house, literally full of shit, and making it into a family home,

i dont just suck him off all day, lmao!!

we have been through alot and im NOT THAT nieve as to think a relationship is doomed if sex isnt had everynight

i just feel sorry for men who are denied it cause a woman cant be bothered (not medical reasons depression ect)
some women use it as a toy

i enjoy sex so much and i think most women could rekindle their love an dsex life with a little 'kink'

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kittylette · 17/11/2006 20:00

theres no need for that HM

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Carmenere · 17/11/2006 20:00

It's fecking Piers Morgan again isn't it?

Sugarfree · 17/11/2006 20:03

You sound like a man to me tbh.

JessaJam · 17/11/2006 20:04

ok...Kitty...now you are starting to make a little more sense..I think it's a bit 'off' when women say stuff like "he didn't buy me the right perfume...he won't be getting a shag tonight!"...because it's manipulative and I, personally, don't see sex as a tool ...
BUT I disagree that if a woman withholds sex, even if it is being manipulative, the man can have an affair...which is what you OP and the title suggests...

JessaJam · 17/11/2006 20:04

and "can't be bothered" is a TOTALLY valid excuse imho!

JessaJam · 17/11/2006 20:05

excuse for a women not to have sex, that is, not for a man to shag someone else (am too tired to have coherent discussion...sorry!)

lulumama · 17/11/2006 20:06

agree with Jessa........

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kittylette · 17/11/2006 20:06

THATS what i meant,

i guess i knew the title would spark a lil outrage, lol

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kittylette · 17/11/2006 20:10

im not saying woman doesnt have sex once man goes for shag elsewhere,

but over months and yeaaaars of a sexless marriage??

ladies if your husband suddenly refused to speak to you what would you do??

beg, plead for him to talk? try again and again over months with no results? being rejected everyday?

sex is as important in a relationship as conversation

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ELF1981 · 17/11/2006 20:15

Still plenty of other options than a bloke ramming his tongue down the nearest bit of totty who appears willing to drop her knickers when his dw wont.