MOST AFFAIRS ARE WOMENS OWN FAULT!? WOULD YOU AGREE?

[kittylette]

I think that most men have affairs because something is missing at home,

if a womans a great cook in the kitchen, a shoulder to cry on, a whore in the bedroom, then there shouldnt be too much of a problem!

i really do think this is the case, and will probably get slated for thinking so,

but this morning on 'loose women' they were all laughing about how they all faked headaches and say they're too tired to avoid sex, and how they only do it once a month and think of england!!
well no wonder men go looking for sex if its being denied it at home??

i always try my best to look good for my DP, and cook nice meals, and we have sex most nights (and i have 2 babies under 2)

just a thought!

kitty

"we are absolutesoul mates."

Whenever I hear that, I think sweetheart, you are going to come a cropper!!!

PMSL at santa's sack!

You're not serious are you kitty?

becky,

now are you saying that NO relationships last??

because if theres any that do, we will be one of them,

its sad that you must think that, as you must enter each relationship thinking, itll never last,

and wheres the fun in that?

OK - what if one of you stopped enjoying it? What then?

No Way!!!!

LOADS of relationships last.

That's not my point.

It's the misty-eyed "soulmate" stuff that worries me.

In the 15 years I've known dh, I've never met a man who can hold a candle to him. Best friend - of course. But "soulmate"? I don't think anyone can live up to that.

twats

Fio - you can be so uncouth!

Brill though lol!

why would i stop enjoying it?

sex is only boring if you let it be!

and i dont see what relevance that question has fiofio!

When anybody has an affair it is nothing to do with things missing at home, that's an excuse to make people sleep better at night.
A relationship is built on trust, love and respect.
An affair is about lack of respect, for yourself and partner.
I know two women who have had/are currently having affairs. They have everything they want at home, but have found it easy to turn to somebody else and dont have enough respect for themselves/their partner to stop what they are doing. But its easy to site after the fact it being their partners fault for x, y and z. Whatever makes you sleep better at night honey.

I know a guy who is having an affair, and he's quite open with the fact that he is getting sex and love from his wife, but just wants to be with this other woman too. Have cake and ice-cream IMO.

Fio's question is quite relevant, actually.

If that's something your dh wanted to do, but you didn't, he could claim that something was missing at home - and according to your OP, he would be perfectly entitled to have an affair to get it.

The reasons underlying an affair are various and complicated. Many people would not throw away a perfectly good relationship, or break their partner's heart, merely for the sake of a quick shag. But then many peoples' relationships consist of more than cooking dinner, crying and bonking.

Kitty...I don't know about old fashioned, but certainly naive...

You seem to think that sex is what "keeps" 'your man'...so, what, men are only interested in sex...so, love, friendship, loyalty etc, not really very important at all?

ok, then

yes we do have anal sex, but not enough id say, as i enjoy it alot!

How old are you?

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jessa please read ALL the thread,a nd that should answer your question

and you don'y just stop enjoying sex because you start finding it boring [d'oh], you might stop becuase it starts to hurt, you might stop because you feel totally knackered and want to sleep, you could be depressed, you could just have low libido, or just not feel like a shag that night thank you very much...nothing to do with the "quality"...

im 33

whats my age got to do with anything?

I have read all the thread...thanks..and I standby the naive...

What if hubby insisted that you watch whilst he had anal sex with a donkey because that is what he enjoyed?