MOST AFFAIRS ARE WOMENS OWN FAULT!? WOULD YOU AGREE?

[kittylette]

I think that most men have affairs because something is missing at home,

if a womans a great cook in the kitchen, a shoulder to cry on, a whore in the bedroom, then there shouldnt be too much of a problem!

i really do think this is the case, and will probably get slated for thinking so,

but this morning on 'loose women' they were all laughing about how they all faked headaches and say they're too tired to avoid sex, and how they only do it once a month and think of england!!
well no wonder men go looking for sex if its being denied it at home??

i always try my best to look good for my DP, and cook nice meals, and we have sex most nights (and i have 2 babies under 2)

just a thought!

kitty

Don't think I did label your partner a moron. As you say I don't know him. I was suggesting that your attitude to men implied that you thought they were. No sex = men looking elsewhere. I think that would be a moronic behaviour.

lockets - I wondered about that too....

I DONT NEED TO BE!!!

but i enjoy it!

i love cooking good heathy, home cooked meals for my family, i like having a tidy presentable house, i LOVE having sex,

we have everything, closeness, trust, friendship, EVERYTHING

why is that such a problem to you all, are your relationships all so shitty that you cant be happy for someone that is?? or you cant imagine loving someone so much, that you want to give them your all, give them everything you can, and recieve the same?

thats my relationship with my partner, my soulmate, my lover, and the father of my children, who is totally in love with me, as i with him.

i do all the those things not to ensure he wont stray but because i want to i am a stay at home mum he works so i make sure he doesnt have to lift a finger when he walks through the door and we both cant ever get enough sex, i have been on a thread before like this and got labelled stuck in the 50's i probably am but that is just how it is

OK. That's lovely then. I'll be thinking of you from the miserable depths of my 'shitty' relationship but at least I won't be scared of him running off with someone else. Been together 20 years and it hasn't happened yet so must be doing something right.

you are,its not a warning,

im sure non of you refuse your husbands sex for months on end, knowing its destroying your relationship and that its hurting him to be rejected constantly - which is what im talking about, not if a womans tired and refuses her hubby once in a while, - im talking about month after month of rejection and frustration, due to just a lack of interest

ive answered these questions before in the thread, i cant keep repeating myself, sorry.

joe, i didnt mean specifically you, 20 years is along time and its fab that your still together and happy, your hubby obviously loves you alot, and you him.

but why cant you find your soulmate, do those things?

i do them through my choice, not his request,

if i didnt do those things (like before we had our own home and we lived with my parents, i couldnt cook, clean much or have a fantastic sex lidfe and we were still toatlly smitten and devoted to each other)

our relationship doesnt need these things but its certainly not harming it

a relations hip is much more likely to deteriorate if a wife bungs chicken nuggets and chips in the oven everynight, runs an untidy home, and doesnt have sex with her hubby.

im not saying it would, but id say its more likely.

we are not a shallow couple, i assure you, i cant get this accross enough, if you saw us with our sons you would see our relationship has sooo many happy levels

I take it no men have ever withheld sex, then, kitty?

I'm sure we're all very grateful for your approval of our relationships. You sound like Barbara Cartland.

I think you're protesting too much, Kitty.

My relationship with DH is fab, but I don't feel the need to bang on about it all the time.

You've said lately that you're more attracted to women than men too?

PLEASSSSSE listen

i dont think that if a woman doesnt do the kitchen one night, and then wount have sex with her hubby he should take up a mistress,

but if his wife constantly, everynight for months, and months, years even (As some women do) refuse to take part in sex, one of the most beautiful and fundemental parts of a relationship. one of a humans most primal urges, and her husband is hurt daily, rejected made to feel unloved unwanted,

what is he to do?

THAT is when i feel a woman is partly to blame, when she doesnt feel enough for her husband to want to be with him, to ensure his happyness.

my husband HATES church, but he goes every sunday to please me.

bad analogy i know, but effort is needed to keep a partnership together,

that was my point

yes, im bisexual, but i fail to see what thats got to do with this discussion hunker sigh

and i really dont want to bring that into this conversatiopn, as it has no relevence, thankyou

Kittylet, the more you say, the more I laugh.

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kitty so lets get this straight

do you ever have sex when you dont want to?

and if my husband says no to me - is it reasonable i go looking elsewhere?

Are you monogamous, kittylet?

and im not banging on about it, im consatntly being questioned about my relationship on this thread, thats why im explaining it -

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lockets, cheaters are clearly still looking for their soulmates.

They're just looking with their dicks!