Ha Pointy, I have to say I am right off the bloody stuff now, but a glance at it always makes me smile and my charm will definitely be a lucky one!!
I think I need a bit of a moan tonight. I have mentioned before the neighbour who is happy to contact husband on my behalf to avoid any further claims of harassment. I have had a couple of issues so I went over there asking him to pass the info on which he was happy to do. Firstly, my extension has damp. Guess who did the extension? 
. I can't speak to husband about this and let's face it, he is not going to want to assist me for obvious reasons. However, I thought I might speak to the guy who did the bricklaying. I had his number but couldn't find it so I turned to social media. I couldn't find him on FB and then weirdly he came up on "friends you may know" with a different surname but it was definitely his picture. We have known him for years and years so no mistake there. Anyway, I sent him a message but knew it would go to the "others" box and predictably he neither read nor answered it, so I sent him a friend request. I didn't really want to do this as I don't particularly want to be his "friend" as such, as lovely as he is, but thought it would prompt him to get in touch. Well, it didn't. So I asked neighbour to ask husband for his number. Husband has lied outright to neighbour and says he's hasn't seen him for years (well I know that isn't true) and he's moved away (he hasn't done that either). It appears that husband doesn't want me to speak to this man as he's probably fed him a whole lot of shit about his affair and the rest of it. Funnily enough, this same man spoke to me on the phone very drunk a few years ago and said "you're too good for him and you deserve so much better". He was also used as cover for one of husband's night's out where he "couldn't get home" from our town 10 minutes away . Anyway, I shall get hold of him...and building control...and get the situation sorted out. Just irritating...and the lies keep coming!
Obviously mid-week contact has now changed as DS is at school full time. Having had the safeguarding meeting with the new school, I have set things out for it to resume on Wednesday's as before. At this school, they have a parents stay and learn session half an hour before the school day ends. I did consider changing the contact day so I could be there for that but then thought that it might be good for husband to start doing stuff like this and seeing how things are with DS at school and indeed I have done all the stay and play sessions throughout nursery so it's not new to me. So, write down the times for neighbour and where husband has to go to sign in and apparently he doesn't understand it. Christ on a bike! How hard is it to understand "go to school at 2.45, sign in at reception, do session which ends at 3.15 and then have DS back home by 5". I sincerely hope my son has my brains and not his fathers. He really is as thick as two short planks. Having now informed school of his attendance at the session, I am now wondering how many ways he will manage to fuck that up .
Finally, it has cost me £150 to equip son for new school. I have asked him to contribute £75.00 plus £15.00 towards the costs of son's second hand bed that cost 30 poxy quid. Apparently he can't do that. I have to "put it in writing". He can spend £2K on a bed for his latest cocklodge but can't put £15.00 towards a bed for his son, the son he said "will always have the best". He clearly thinks his £150 a month maintenance covers all of that stuff too! It no longer even makes me angry, just incredulous at the sheer meanness and single minded selfishness of those two. I guess another thing to add to the list of why he's a complete and utter oxygen thief. I won't be writing anything, if I do that I'll have the police at the door again and that is not going to happen. I'll manage without it. Neighbour showed me text and just looked embarrassed, I said "why can't he ever do the right thing" and he just shrugged and shook his head. His face said it all. I realise I need to get myself into the position where I am totally self supporting and he can stick his maintenance up his arse. I will use the Nominal Order for son's future needs and housing.
Neighbour said earlier "I wish you two could find a way forward and be friends" but I said to him we'd gone way past that, I'd tried all that, offered every avenue but there is no way OW would stand for that. Perhaps husband will one day stop being her puppet and grow the fuck up. Unlikely. He'd rather just continue on filling his face with booze and food than do anything for his son. It's always been that way, him first, me and the kids last. Always. He has no shame.