DH handing in notice with no fall back option

[MummyKWP]

I'm a full time mum - a decision myself & my DH made together, as we thought it was best for our family.
We have a 2 year old DD & one on the way, due in a few months.
He works in a relatively decent job - permanent, pensionable. It's a good job, but he doesn't enjoy it. He's worked at a higher level previously so feels he ought to be respected more within the work environment.
The thing is, he's decided he's handing in his notice this week without a fall back option. He knows how I feel about it - it's a very vulnerable time for us - soon to have 2 children under 3, and we won't have any wage coming in.
He's trying to set up his own business, but as yet there's no money coming in from that. That sort of thing is always a gamble. He doesn't think so - he thinks it's guaranteed.
I don't feel like I can stop him because he always throws it back & says "don't you trust me to provide?" "Trust me, I'll make this work" etc. He's the eternal optimist...I'm a realist!
We already owe my parents money which he borrowed to put into the business. I hate owing, especially as they don't have much money.
How should I deal with this whole situation? I feel very worried about the future - not something I wanted while 5 months pregnant!

I think people forget what a powerful influence it can be to have family and friends encouraging you not to separate from an abusive partner - they don't want the family split up, they don't want to believe he is abusive, they want everything to be swept under the carpet and continue as it has before, so that friendship groups and families are not split up and the dynamics all changed. They encourage minimising (oh, all men are like that, oh you know how men are, my dh was like that - you have to train them better, and so on and so on). They encourage making it work "for the children" even when making it work means you put up with it and eat shit politely with a knife and fork.

On MN, we are not "emotionally invested" in the situation and can give advice from a detached viewpoint, which IMO is helpful to the OP.

The problem I am seeing is that OP is dreep feeding. For that reason threads always end up in a mess.

OP posted a perfectly reasonable OP about her current situation: she explained it further when necessary. That's not drip feeding.

It wasn't drip feeding - it was a deluge!

The OP changed the picture completely when the responses she received weren't what she wanted to hear and reversed it when it became clear that responses were dwindling.

The only consistency is that a considerable sum of money has been borrowed from the OP's parents which wasn't used to fund the dh's business venture.

I think we are reading different threads, goddess.

I suppose it can be read as drip feeding if you come late to the party.

For those who followed the thread as it happened, it was just how events developed.

Are you in the diplomatic service Lweji?

I hope you mean it as a joke.