Affair - learning to survive

[OpheliaRose]

I'be linked to my previous thread here which contains links to the first threads in the OP


I want to thank everyone again for all their support. As the title suggests I'm about to tart learning to survive

[Ledkr]

Hi phee.
Yes I agree wee. Let's hope phee is busy getting on with her life.
Maybe she felt a fresh start away from here was best for her.
Whatever the case I wish her well.

[Dumdedumdedum]

Hi, Fab Phee - same here, and good luck for starting your new job

[LondonRocks]

Hope you're ok, Phee...

[paddymcgintysmum]

Why not just leave her alone? If she wants to talk, she will. Get on with your lives!

[LondonRocks]

Oh bugger off Paddy. We can wish her well without wanting chapter and verse
And if Phee's not even reading, no harm done, eh?

[Ledkr]

A few people posting over a few days is hardly ott, I posted on Saturday and have certainly been getting on with my life before and after my 5 minute post ffs.

People post in case the op (who has been pretty down) comes back to the thread and sees people are still here and have not just forgotten her and to keep it on their active lost in case she does return.
but thanks for your concern anyway

[SpeccyBat]

Helpful, Paddy.

[Weebirdie]

It says a lot about you Paddy if you think people only post in order to entertain themselves.

Now might be a good time to stop judging people by your own standards.

[Lotsofponies]

Another one checking in. I too hope that you are feeling stronger Phee and don't need to use this thread to keep you sane. I found after a while coming on here caused me to wallow and dwell. Reading about others pain dragged be back down again. I couldn't come back again until I was stronger. Thinking of you and wishing you and your twins well.

[CateCadiz]

I for one am delighted when any poster reaches the stage where they don't need to post on a regular basis. Like the wise Wee Birdie, I take it as a sign of less need, whilst knowing that we are still here for them if things change.

[StaircaseAtTheUniversity]

Was just thinking about you, Phee and wanted to say hope you're doing well and that your silence on the thread is because you're feeling better. Good luck with starting back at work as I believe it's in the coming days x

[paddymcgintysmum]

"Weebirdie Sat 27-Jun-15 08:00:37



"I like to think that when people stay away from their threads its because they're coping a bit better and not needing us so much. So Phee, here's hoping that you're doing OK and that you're feeling a bit better. "

I totally agree and some hope their threads fall out of view without any announcement.
I'm not being uncaring, just let Phee post when and how she wishes without the constant requests for updates.

I've done the wrong thing in bumping this thread, but I hope for the right reasons.

[LondonRocks]

No one has asked for an update. Please stop telling people what to post.

[paddymcgintysmum]

Just a random.

"Any update on your bro and lovely friend wink. Can she come to the pub too?"

[eminthebigsmoke]

One light-hearted post from over a week ago? Hardly constant requests.

[OpheliaRose]

Please don't argue amongst yourselves.

I haven't posted for a while because things have been really hard and I just couldn't find the words to express the hurt I was going through.

Thank you for all your kinds thoughts and wishes. I'm just sorting out tea right now but will come back and update later. I just didn't want any more arguing for my sake

[laurierf]

I hope you know it's not your responsibility if we end up arguing amongst ourselves. As has been said and must be said again… you owe us nothing!

Sorry to hear things have been hard… it's expected and understandable at this still very raw stage. Only update later if you feel like it and you think it would help you. If not, don't do it! And if you want to come back later and start a thread without any arguments, do that. Do what's best for you

[CateCadiz]

It would seem that Phee was quite happy to read that people were thinking of her, whilst certainly not expecting updates.

A shame not everyone could see that, and in fact have caused her more anxiety.

Please Phee, the last thing anyone wants is for you to have to post in order to referee.

[Rosieliveson]

Sorry to hear things have been hard Phee. Only post if you feel the need to share, rant, ask for advice or suchlike. There is definitely no pressure to keep the thread posted and people will be here whenever/if ever you need

[paddymcgintysmum]

I'm sorry too Phee that things have been bad.

I agree with Rose above. Post when you feel like it, not as a duty. Hope things get better soon for you. The first year is the worst and then upwards from there on.

[LondonRocks]

Phee, I'm sure we all just want you to know we're behind you, willing you to get through this.

Please only post if/when you have the need and energy. Don't post again to satisfy anyone here as to how you are.

I hope, however, you don't mind the occasional poster wishing you well. You are obviously under no obligation to reply whatsoever (this goes without saying)! No one sending you good thoughts needs anything back.

Sending you many , lovely lass and good wishes for peace of mind.

[mulberrybag]

Phee, I've only posted a couple of times on your threads but just wanted to say that you're in my thoughts and I'm sure the thoughts of everyone else who has read your story. Keep your chin up no matter how shit it gets. One day the dark will get lighter and you'll come through the other side. Take care of yourself and try to find joy in the little things, one step at a time keep on keeping on, you'll get there lovely x