Affair Part 5 - fab phee kicks arse wearing her skinny jeans

[OpheliaRose]

Many you will have read my threads 1 2 3 4

A month ago I discovered my Husband had been having an affair with a girl from his work. I thought it was one of the most painful moments of my life but the subsequent day where far more painful when the full extent of his betrayal was exposed to me and he has shown no remorse or sorrow over the loss of our marriage in fact he has left me for the OW

I have started divorce procedures on the grounds of adultery each day is proving a struggle but I am getting through it with the help of all of you.

All I want when this is over is for me and my Twins to be happy. We all deserve so much better than him

[FriendofBill]

Thread 4 already.
Closer to your healing & happiness.
As has been said, just keep putting in the actions...one day you won't even be thinking of them anymore.
You will be free.

Today’s Quote-

The kind of beauty I want most is the hard-to-get kind that comes from within - strength, courage, dignity.
Ruby Dee.

[logicalfallacy101]

Hi Phee. Been lurking since the beginning. Joining discussion coz I want today to go ace for you. This happened to my oldest DD 14 yrs ago. My dgc were 3 & 1. Her H at the time started an affair with an 18 yr old who they both worked with. I caught him, and dd threw him out. His parents "put up" both of them. At work they caused outrage. He seemed to think dd throwing him out was a green-to-go for flaunting. OW was sacked. He was eventually shunned by quite a lot of his co-workers. They got married. Had 4 children. My dgc went every Fri thro Sun till recently. My 2 dgc are 17 & 15 now. They dont even see their dad or sibs now. His parents, their other grandparents have had no contact with them in all that time. I've discussed this with grandaughter and she says "who are they?" when i mention them.They're just not fussed anymore. OW recently indulged in an affair. She was the aggressive one in going after dd ex. Now she's gotten fed up with him, and done the deed. Ah karma is wonderful even afterwards 14 yrs.

[OpheliaRose]

Hi all busy day today!

Great progress on the work front do in happy with how that is panning out.

Has a message from the girl who is friends with H and Ow at work saying she just wanted me to know her and two of the guys who used to work with H so know me really well from years of socials team dinners etc are thinking of me and the twins. They felt a bit awkward over the whole situation and wasn't sure if they should get in touch but something H said annoyed her today so she wanted me to know they do care and she's sorry she didn't notice it sooner she said she would have warned me

[Chuckitinthefuckitbucket]

great news Phee.
Glad your friend has let you know they aren't getting away with their ridiculous behaviour with out it going noticed. Everyone on the office probably thinks they're total prats (they'd be right in all!)

[OpheliaRose]

I don't know what h said to piss her off but I'm glad she got in touch. I messaged her back saying than you and that I appreciate her message. I don't know what else I can say as I don't want to come across silly or anything and want to maintain my dignity

[Rosieliveson]

Two really good things today than Phee! A positive job prospect and support from unexpected quarters. It just goes to show that not everyone is falling for their rewritten version of history. Stay strong, keep your head held high and keep on strutting in those skinnies grin]

[Rosieliveson]

*then

[Phoenix0x0]

Glad the job prospect is looking positive and that you got some unexpected support from one of his colleagues.

Now I am hazarding a guess here but I think H probably came up with some bullshit about the situation/you/WF...a whole Romeo thing.

This person would not contact you if he had pissed her off re: a work situation unless he was putting WF in favourable position over her.

Just saying.

[Dumdedumdedum]

Oh, how Fab, Phee What a successful day, in more than one way!

[laurierf]

really pleased to see your latest update!

I didn't want to post earlier about the wankers because I wanted to wait to see how your job thing went today. He is utterly deluded if he thinks this giddiness is going to go on forever. Straight into the arms of another woman having crapped on his wife and two babies after a 12-year relationship that started during A levels… it will hit him in the guts, and it will hit him hard at some point down the line… of that I am certain despite his apparent arrogance and self-obsession… but by then you will be back in your career, new social life, and an independent, self-sufficient working mum, swanning around in your skinny jeans and generally being kick-arse.

[SignoraStronza]

That is excellent news, both on the job front and the fact that the reality of their sordid 'romance' has been rumbled by colleagues. Well done on the dignified response too. Go Phee!

[CaveMum]

Oooo, it's starting! They're beginning to annoy people with their star-crossed lovers routine. Me thinks the whole house of cards is starting to look a tad unstable

[Ledkr]

Nice to know some of his colleagues are uncomfortable with their behaviour.
I can imagine they aren't the only ones.
There are normal ways that people behave and they have done none of them. They have showed absolutely no compassion, decorum or consideration and look extremely Imature and moronic.

[Vivacia]

I think you should keep saying what you said to your friend, about how discovering their affair has been a shock, and things are difficult, however you and the children will be fine.

[AndyWarholsOrange]

Phee I don't always post but I check in on you every day as I'm sure many others do. Sounds like today was really successful. I don't really believe in karma because, sadly, there are total arsewipes riding around in Porsches while decent kind people are nursing their children through cancer. But I kind of believe in it on a deeper level because whatever happens with H and WF, you will come through this with the knowledge that you behaved well and put your children first which is worth a million of the cheap thrill of a blow job at work and the short term buzz of infatuation.
I have suggested before the idea of an annual MN award ceremony. I would definitely nominate you for the award of retaining dignity in the face of outstanding cuntish behaviour.
Rock those skinny jeans sister!

[MaMaof04]

the lovely romance that is blooming in the cupboard is rotting and becoming unbearable at work!
Happy for the job prospects!
Good day today and you are as dignified as ever dear Fab Phee

[Dumdedumdedum]

Will the gossipy woman from the party the other night have told tales to H and WF's colleagues, FabPhee?

[magoria]

Perhaps she caught them in the closet

All she wanted was an envelope!

[BalloonSlayer]

You need to remember that for every person who feels strong and brave enough to get around to sending you a little supportive message like that, there will be at least five who are thinking exactly the same but haven't sent a message because:

a) they don't know you well enough or
b) they feel guilty for not having warned you or
c) they are useless with words or
d) they are worried you'll think they fancy you and are trying to move in on you or
e) they don't have your email address or
f) they are just not the "supportive message" type of person (ie 95% of blokes)

So any support you get like this, times it by 5 or even 10 to get a sense of the number of people with similar feelings about the situation.

[HootyMcTooty]

Oh this is just bloody brilliant. I think it takes a while for support to show itself. Many people will have heard his version of events and waited to see what the reality was before deciding what they think. In this situation, few people actually know the truth, but it will be getting around. It looks like your H and WF are slowly showing themselves for the selfish fuckers they really are and people are getting wise to it. I think you can expect more messages like that as time goes on.

[OpheliaRose]

They were really close with OW and H. They still work closely with OW. I was under the impression they where all ok with it but who knows what's going on now.

Yeah job think was very positive. I think I've managed to get it how I want it with the right part time pattern. We've provisionally agreed I'll start in a month so that I have time to sort childcare

[Christinayanglah]

That's great news Phee, work will give you a chance to get some independence

[Rosieliveson]

Great news. Congratulations on the job

[Phoenix0x0]

That's great phee!

You are a

[HootyMcTooty]

It's easy to think everyone is fine with it when you're in the void. What's actually happening is that gossip will be flying, people will be watching, waiting and judging. There will be people who are fine with it, but I bet you'd be amazed at how many people aren't. They may stay out of it for now, particularly if they were more his friends than yours, but I bet most people are willing them to fail.

Excellent news about work. I really think it will be great for you.